friends help: I like this guy, but my friend likes him. - Help.com

How old are you? Judging from the problem, I assume young. There for I would advice you to get over the boy and find someone else to be interested in. At your age such attraction does seem overwhelming at times, but it passes quickly and wont be much significance to your life as time passes. Your friend on other hand is worth more to you then some crush, so you have made the right choice not to say anything.

:) 17 is young. - But that’s a good thing, not something you should try to defend.

at 17 “i’ve liked him for ages” really does not mean much.

Stick with your feelings of not wanting to hurt your friend, they are more mature and more valuable.

If you feel that strongly about it, and if you are sure that it is more then just a crush. Then the other course of action (other then keeping to your self which is the best course of action) is to tell your friend how you feel.

If she is really a friend she won’t get mad because of your feelings. But she may ask you not to peruse the feelings, and you should give her the choice.

If the feelings for this guy are more important then your friendship you may want to disengaged her wishes, but you should understand it means the end of your friendship. Telling her about it first absolves your guilt but that may not be consolation to the fact that you lost a friend.

You under no circumstances should become anger with your friend if she disapproves of your feelings, that is her right as it is you who are causing the tension and not her.