Love help: I met this man about five years ago, he is lovely and very kind.

Ivoryros

I met this man about five years ago, he is lovely and very kind.

We have this bond that is beyond compare, I count him to be one of my closest friends. Unfortunately, I am only eighteen and he is twenty six, and happens to be a professor of mine. Now don’t get the wrong impression of me, I understand he is quite a bit older and fully accept the fact that he is my prof, but is it alright for me to be so infatuated with him?
I love him not only as a friend I believe.
I need some advice.

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E Pluribus < L 24 #
An Undisclosed Location | 2 years, 2 months ago (8 minutes after post)

so you met when you were 13 and he was 21? Nothing about that is right no matter what you think.

Ivoryros #
Hamilton, OH, US | 2 years, 2 months ago (10 minutes after post)

I didn’t have any feelings towards him them, but then as I got older the age difference got a little less important and he started treating me like his fellow adult that I am.

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issybelle 1 #
An Undisclosed Location | 2 years, 2 months ago (14 minutes after post)

oh don’t know about this one.
you should never get into a relationship with a professor.
besides, the whole meeting when you were 13 and he was 21 is kinda disturbing.
but the age doesn’t matter anymore.
and well, if you have that kind of bond i understand.
and y’all should be happy.

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Ivoryros #
Hamilton, OH, US | 2 years, 2 months ago (16 minutes after post)

I guess your right. The only thing I am contemplating is the fact that in less than six months I will no longer be his student, but the urge to tell him how I feel is overwhelming.

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issybelle 1 #
An Undisclosed Location | 2 years, 2 months ago (18 minutes after post)

wait.
definitely wait.

Help me with: alright my loves

Ivoryros #
Hamilton, OH, US | 2 years, 2 months ago (20 minutes after post)

You’re correct I believe.
Time will tell if him and I are more than just an odd couple.

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issybelle 1 #
An Undisclosed Location | 2 years, 2 months ago (20 minutes after post)

do you think he feels the same way back? (the more-than-a-friend thing).

Help me with: alright my loves

Ivoryros #
Hamilton, OH, US | 2 years, 2 months ago (27 minutes after post)

He definitely does the typical male “i’m interested moves,” he makes fun of me, and musses my hair. Typical little boy things that they do when girls suddenly don’t have cooties. I thought it was just him being sibling-like to me, that seems to be the best way to describe our relationship, but then we started having very nice conversations about mature subjects. We really seemed to bond around Christmas of last year. During classes I was informed that my father had a heart attack. He comforted me and for the first time ever, he hugged me and cried with me ( keep in mind he a very stony man in the time of seriousness ). After our friendship changed from teacher to student, to peer to peer.

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issybelle 1 #
An Undisclosed Location | 2 years, 2 months ago (31 minutes after post)

hm.
then i would tell him, when classes are out.
it would endanger his career otherwise. no?
and give it time.
if he makes a very definite, like he kisses you, move, tell him to wait.

Help me with: alright my loves

Ivoryros #
Hamilton, OH, US | 2 years, 2 months ago (31 minutes after post)

Thank you for your advise.

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Anonymous #
2 years, 2 months ago (32 minutes after post)

well if you have a close bond then your half way there. you wont want to put his job at risk. and have all the crap that comes with that, plus it wont do your friendship anygood. you have been friends for this long a few more months wont hurt. if it is right then it will be worth waiting for!
it may also show that you are mature enough to respect his career. he will respect you for that.

issybelle 1 #
An Undisclosed Location | 2 years, 2 months ago (32 minutes after post)

you’re welcome.
good luck with your sweetheart.

Help me with: alright my loves

Ivoryros #
Hamilton, OH, US | 2 years, 2 months ago (33 minutes after post)

I understand that it could risk his career and I do not want to hurt his future at all.
I am eagerly awaiting the end of the year to see how things work themselves out.

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Anonymous #
2 years, 2 months ago (43 minutes after post)

you will be glad you did! Good luck!

eqspike 8 #
US | 2 years, 2 months ago (3 hours, 43 minutes after post)

That has not only happened to other people, but it is quite commonplace for people to have those feelings for their professor. It’s almost cliche.

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trustme31 7 #
Rockford, IL, US | 2 years, 2 months ago (16 hours, 36 minutes after post)

I agree with everyone to wait till the end of year, and provideing he is not married…. I would persue it. Best of luck

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