Love help: I need help supporting my husband as he is a cocaine addict. - Help.com

just be a constant in his life

if you walk away he might hurt himself more…?

I am also an addict. Coke, is one of my preferences.
I am only 16. And as an addict myself, i think i would
want someone to stay with me.
Go through with me all the hurt i am going through.
Like he, he knows it hurts him, and you. And everyone else.
Stay with him through it all.
DONT encourage what he does.
But let him know you are there for him no matter what happens.

is cocaine addictive just after trying it once??

xi.love.yoo wrote:
is cocaine addictive just after trying it once??

any drug can be…

It could be, it depends on how good the persons high was.
But come-downs are ******.
At least mine are.

I don’t see this mentioned here but your husband needs your prayer and so do you. Let me explain, when a spouse acquires an addiction believe it or not they become “two” people metaphorically speaking. One is the person you knew and fell in love with and the other is an alter ego, some call it a spirit, but to put it in simpler terms an altered version of the original personality. The more dominant personality or the personality he stays in the most is the one that will decide what he does and how he reacts in different situations. This is the addictive personality, if at all we can separate the two and suppress the second in order to allow the first to surface (also called detox) and have him start a regimen of being in the original one just for an hour to start then increase it as you go along until he can go a whole day then go from there along with therapy of course. The prayer comes in because it will help with this process what ever you guys decide to do. But some people hear prayer and they say “yeah OK” but here is what to pray for and trust me it works and quicker than anything else you could try. Pray for strength, peace, wisdom, for his freedom of addiction, for a quick recovery, for healing for you and him. Then try to put some outside activities together like long walks after dinner or anything to take both your minds off of the situation so you are not constantly battling this, that can be exhausting. Next and this is going to sound funny, see him healed and well in your mind, if you do it right you could pull that dream into the present. People call this the law of attraction and it has worked for so many years, I’m sure you guys have heard of it it’s called “The Secret” look it up on the Internet, I’m sure there is some information about it. Now this is not a religion even though it derived from the old testament in the bible but what the authors of this book has done was took God out of HIS laws but all you need to know is that it works, I say this to let you know “every disaster can be traced back to a bad decision” and because we have free will we are free to make bad or good decisions. But as the best selling book says MANY are the afflictions of the richeous BUT HE SHALL DELIVER THEM OUT OF THEM ALL. Isn’t that good news? Who is the righteous you may ask? Any who believes on him.

listen, I have the right to tell people how I have seen hundreds helped because of God. Sometimes we just don’t know how to apply LIFE and SPIRITUAL principals in order to benefit ourselves. People could come up to you and give you a religion book and it could be as foreign as Latin to you, but if you could just decode the message your life could be EXACTLY how you want it. It really is a method to it no matter what you believe these are principals that work every day. So if your intention is to stifle someone I suggest YOU go elsewhere because I would not have clicked to comment if I was not qualified. I am a certified counselor, I have a Masters in psychology, and I am a minister. With that said your outburst, and you sounding soo offended of my mention of God disturbs me. My goal is not to convert anyone but to inform you when needed of what you may be running away from. The RIGHT answer will always be the RIGHT answer whether you choose it or not.

now, I was going to tell you Fancy you said you were going to church and getting counseling. I have found when you do that the counselor pays more attention to how his actions are hurting your relationship rather than his problem. So in this case I would like to tell you about a book called THE POWER OF A PRAYING WIFE it tells you exactly HOW to get rid of the things in your life you don’t want any more, along with TD Jakes Reposition yourself. Not all Christians know how to pray nor do they all know what to tell you to do, actually most of them shy away from actually telling you what to do. The bible says “some come out ONLY by fasting and prayer” but no-one says WHAT to pray! I mean what to actually say. There is so much power in what we SAY. Eddie Murphy SAID every day to his grandmother “I’m gonna be rich and famous one day” Oprah said her biological father was God and because she really believed this she SPOKE as though she was rich from child hood! AND YOU CAN SPEAK HEALING TO YOUR SITUATION. P.S. you seem like a very strong person and after you are victorious over this situation, I will be so proud to say that I knew you could do it!

Walking away will not bring him back, you sound very religious soI would imagine he is too. The 12 step programs have the most success in that situation as it has alot of faith involved
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