friends help: How do you know when somebody is your friend? - Help.com

i cant realy explain but its wen their is input from both of you… plus it doesnt happen right away keep contact and the relationship keeps building.

Oooh thats a tough one, never thought of that before. They kind of just happen, when you are around someone often enough, you both ejoy each others company and time goes by you just end up friends, maybe you need to look up the deffinition of a friend and then apply that to the person you are thinking of and see how much you agree with what a friendship is decribed as

That is one interesting question, that i´ve been thinking of myself. Cause I noticed that people sometimes calimed to be my friends when I did not see them as my friends.

For me it has to do with some kind of flow, when you´ve got this “agreement” you feel when you communicate. You feel trust, happiness, can joke around, argue but still be friends, get new insights and stuff like that.

But then again, you can have friends in different kinds of layer. The above would be friends in my inner layer. But you can also have more superficial friends that you hang out with, have a beer with, party, train with, play chess with etc. So I guess it som kind of flow and agreement in different kind contexts.

You just be your self, and if they except you for who you are, then you have a friend….Someone you can trust is also a friend.. you dont have to change to make friends there loss …

good/interesting question.

you have to feel completely comfortable around them, not worrying about who you are they are - just loving them for them.
friends feel pain when you’re in pain.. they care about you in all states of happiness and sadness… and are there alongside you no matter what.

I’d say it is never completely clear. Like on this forum, people can see you as friends that are actually more like fans (you don’t return the feeling in the same amount) and you can really like people that don’t see you as a friend. For myself, I decided that I had to throw open the category friend and accept that people are my friends even if I am not sure if they would call me theirs. I have two criteria to make me think of people as friends. The first is they call me or invite me voluntarily to do something, no pressure attached from my side. The other is that I am able to call them at those days that I my fear of phones is at it’s most active, even if just to reschedule a meeting. Those appointments I’d rather go to, even if I’m ill or don’t have time, rather than call to reschedule are signs that they are not (completely) with friends of mine. I know have a list of about six people I can call without added stress and another few I can get myself to call.
But as I say, it’s really a personal matter where you lay down the line.

pseudoniem wrote:
I’d say it is never completely clear. Like on this forum, people can see you as friends that are actually more like fans (you don’t return the feeling in the same amount) and you can really like people that don’t see you as a friend. For myself, I decided that I had to throw open the category friend and accept that people are my friends even if I am not sure if they would call me theirs. I have two criteria to make me think of people as friends. The first is they call me or invite me voluntarily to do something, no pressure attached from my side. The other is that I am able to call them at those days that I my fear of phones is at it’s most active, …

I know have a list of about six people I can call without added stress and another few I can get myself to call.

Very nice explanation. I like how your criteria is pretty clear and it definitely makes sense.

i think a friend is someone who will call you and care about you enough to call. oops that what you just said ..
some people are aquaintances, and i wish i could make them better friends.