friends help: I am so frustrated with this marriage. - Help.com

Why can’t you do the same to him?

Maybe he’s not happy either.

You need a wake-up call. If he’s manipulating you by sulking then you need to learn to say no, and ignore him if he behaves like a child. If you are firm and consistant in your dealings with him then he will learn that he can’t bully you by sulking in a corner.

Next time you are too tired to go out then just politely say so. If he sulks tell him “I’m sorry you are upset. If you want to go out you can, but I don’t want to. If you are going to sulk at me I will go somewhere else until you feel better.” Then leave. Don’t be drawn into an argument. No matter what he says or does just restate the above politely buit firmly. DON”T GIVE IN! If you give in to his sulking tactics even once after you start this then it will take a very, very long time to get the message through.

Similarly, if you’re not ready to leave when he is, tell him to catch a cab home. If he stays and sulks, then ignore him! Pretend he’s your mate’s sulky boyfriend and don’t try and cheer him up, just let him be miserable. More fool him for prefering to stay and be cranky to just going home on his own!

Don’t argue with him. Childish behaviour is not worthy of you getting upset back.

But you don’t sound like you appreciate this man very much. Try and remember why you married him and be a little more tolerant. Bottom line - your problem here is that he wants to be with you. He’s not willing to compromise his own desires, but he wants you to share them. As marital difficulties go this one is not that bad. It’s kind of touching. How will you feel if while you are complaining about his behaviour some other woman comes in and says ‘come play with me instead, I’ll appreciate you!’? You need to stop thinking about his bad points and imagine life without him.

I get this feeling that his weight loss will solve all your problems… but that could just be me. (Note, the answer to sleep disorders is not a breathing machine, its just another doctor proven machine to bypass problems, get money.$$$)[Note: opinion]

wether were at a hockey game or meeting friends he always wants to leave. with no hard feelings i say yes babe and we leave. he is more important to me than any situation.

I’m married over 25 years to a man that has similar behavior. I, unfortunately, have allowed this to go on for all these years - I’m angry/frustrated because I so often let him control the situation by a simple remark, such as you described. So the real question is: what’s MY problem? We have recently gone for couples counseling and I was surprised to find that it helps - I would certainly recommend it. And, I have finally realized that I need some personal counseling to help me learn to deal with situations as they come up instead of suppressing or hiding from them. My advice is to address the issue responsibly by working on communication skills and maybe get some counseling. If you can’t afford the counseling, there are many books that might be helpful. You don’t want to have this consuming you for years to come. He must have many good qualities, else why did you marry him?