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no, like i said i dont need help, i need answers. sorry though thanks for the reply too

Moving to a new place is incredibly hard! My daughter and I moved from Hawaii to Oregon and she left behind her best ever friends and so did I.. It is depressing. Most of her friends in Hawaii were emo or wanna bees, I have talked with a guy who claimed to be emo on line and he talked a lot about taking his life.. that is not the answer.. love is the answer and God is love.. dont give up.. you are loved!

i dont want to be emo…i dont feel proud of it..i just feel like i felt so many thigs and endured so much theres nothing left to do..and ajax in ontario

the last oe as my me,,,and im loved? i dont feel that way by nobody not even my family but the one person ilove is my uncle..he died though on my cuzins birthday i cry for him almost all the time..he was the best.

sorry the last two were by me!

How old are you?
I think you need a maturity pill!
Yes it was wrong for your mum and dad to not let you know about the move, but maybe they wanted to get the ball rolling before they told you, as you said they told you before they signed any papers.
Those are not friends you have btw, the way you describe them that is, you need to take a good look at yourself!
You will most likely find new friends in the new place, it’s not like you are moveing to the moon with no contact.

In years to come you will look back at this and view it exactly the same as I see it now, you are acting spoilt and you need to get over yourself. See this as an oppertunity, look on the possative side of things

it doesnt matter if i dont them before they signed the papers..its not like they listen to me. still my friends at least i hope they think im their friend are all ive got..i known these people so long its not funny and i cant just leave them. spoiled? spoiled is when your parents buy u ugly firniture froma garage sale..my family barely be’s nice to me..make fun of my..telling me to go 2 hell **** off and things like that. to me theres no positive side to this..hopefully there will be in the fututre though..thanks

everything..its like life ies just a big blur..i just dont know what to do.

I think that human beings are sometimes their own worst enemies. How we think affects how we feel.. if we think gloomy we feel gloomy.. It is soo hard to think lovely thoughts when so many crappy things happen.. but we can force ourselves to think of the good, to think of the things we love and the good side of a situation. If you think you can or you think you cant you are right! The post you made about feeling unloved.. I didnt get the first part.. We dont always have to feel loved to know we are loved… Loved ones argue sometimes and it doesnt feel like love but because it is love we stay connected…..

ooh dear I wrote all of this and maybe its not what you need to hear..

I am so sorry about the unkind things your parents say to you..

no i like your post..its gets me thinking but the problem is..loved ones argue..but do they make a loved one cry everyday..do they froce them to do things they dont wanna do or that arent necssary? but yuor right in some ways and thanks..but they’re parents my mom says to never go to sleep angry or leave angry or do things angrily but its feels like its the only option let for me.

and instead of divyapancha my new username is dotdotdot i dunno why though :P

Sorry my daughter just got home and she is offering me ice cream.. wish I could offer you some.. :) As a family I think we should say things to each other that lifts each other up.. not make each other cry.. I used to hear a song when i was young that went like this “…..why.. if they told you you would cry, and know they love you… ” I think your parents love you deeply.. it is just so very hard to communicate with parents as you enter adulthood.. You have to draw away some and be your own person yet you are still connected as a child.. it is a hard transition for everyone..
I need to talk with my daughter for a while… But I will be thinkin of you and wishing you well!

well she is in the other room but needs to check her my space soon.. so I will wait here til she returns to take over cyber space :)

Her turn.. take care..

Ok um well .. they are your parents and if your underage its what they say goes. theres not really to much you can do about that. I know my parents would move around A LOT and it used to bother me so much. Everytime i would get used to a place and actually start to have friends theyd move. Nothing i could do i was still under age. What you have to do is realize that everyone doesnt always get their way. Even when you become a legal adult and your parents dont really have a say in what you do anymore.. You will still sometimes find yourself in a situation that you cant really do anything about.. Just hang in there and even though it bothers you might as well get used to the fact you are underage and these are your parents so its not like you can tell your parents how to parent to you but you can however keep letting them know that its bothering you and maybe they will understand but it doesnt mean your going to get your way with everything.. but thats just life

I believe if a child is under age then the child should go acording to what the parents decide to be the best,unless of cause you have a means of surporting yourself.I feel as long as I pay the rent,bills and buy the food no child is going to ride me and tell me what to do,when they old enough then they can do their thing.In any case change is inevitable,if it was not for change we would all still be living in the stone age.So stop thinking of yourself,that is selfish I think to begin with you are spoilt and like things done your way.

I think it is natural to long for your old friends and your long time home. Any life change is a transition and a loss. And it is natural and ok to grieve that. Any situation can also work out for the good. You are loveable and if you open your heart to it, other friends will be made.. and distance makes the heart grow fonder they say.. and good friends will go the distance and last over time.. You can still be connected. I went to a group where a woman in her 70’s still meets with her best friends from school for week long holidays each year, in a house together by a lake, even tho she lives in Hawaii now and they live back East and elsewhere.. friendship is a beautiful thing.. You can hold onto that…

thanks everyone i really appreciate it..i still dont know what to do but ill take what you guys said into consideration. i guess its getting bettert day by day but at the same time it feels like im parting from everything to. its just not going to be the same…but..i guess i have to deal with it. times like these i hate life..then i feel fortunate. *sigh*

Way to go! Good job ending on a positive note!! “Singin dont worry bout a thing, cause every little things gonna be alright..” It helps me to get a positive song stuck in my head.. I am encouraged by these words in your post.. thanks, appreciate, its getting better day by day, deal with it, I feel fortunate and sigh.. breathing is always good .. take care friend.

thanks you to. you helped me through a lot these past few days..its kind of odd saying this but maybe this is just better off and maybe its all just going to be good. if you ever need anything just ask..im there for you..will to get to know you better,

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Nice! I am so happy that you are doing better and thanks! Have a great weekend!!

i am doing better but im still trying to convince my parents if i get to go to the schoool i want..why would i want to graduate at a school that wont do me any good, itll just make my mood worse and worse, and plus my whole family is already there! my mom said its too far and its simple, i could just take the bus..i mean they took my neighbourhood, my friends, my house, my room, and my place (its just a little spot i hang out all the time when im feeling down) the least they could do is this. thanks anyways shellispearl! you have a great weekend too! eep in touch id love read what you have to say!!
take care! and people keep answering!

How long is the ride? Are they concerned about your safety? Or the kind of influence your friends are having on you? Maybe write them an essay on the benefits of the education at the other school as opposed to this one with no mention of the friends or emotion.. just scholarly facts.. with spellcheck (unlike me.. nneeeding zzzz’s, Goodnight.. just wanted to respond before bed..) Ps You also could calculate the extra cost for transportation and come up with a way to pay.. even a contract..that you both could sign.. oh and how about a support statement for your idea from someone else that they respect.. Oh dear midnight rambling.. sorry.. goodnite..~Shell

:P but if i ever did that, they’d laugh..positive! thanks anyway, maybe ill write down my feelings for my own benfit you know?!