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You can’ be alone for too long? Why do you think is that? Can you remember anything that may have contribued to making u feel this way

maybe something happened to you recently or awhile ago and your subconcious is telling you to seek help somewhere for free

DaNiHaTeSyOu wrote:
..seek help somewhere for free

Yes, and this is one of those places, is it not? 0_o

Anonymous, I don’t claim to know anything about Trichotillomania, but I found some links that may be helpful:

http://www.mayoclinic.com/health/tric…

http://www.nmha.org/go/information/ge…

http://www.trichotillomania.co.uk/

These all have details on treatments both therapeutic and medicinal; Google has a surprisingly large number of hits for this (391,000) considering I’d never heard of it before - I just learned something! ;)

As to your relationship woes…hmm. Seems there’s a bit of a triangle going on (intentional or not), and that means you need to make a decision rather quickly; or you risk losing both possibilities. I can’t tell you how to make that decision - only you know what’s best for you, and who represents that the most.

Last but certainly not least - “Im 24, just starting out on a big career, moved into a new apartment alone”…yes, it could actually be this simple - you’re still pretty young, you’ve just started a big new job and at the same time you’ve just moved into a new apartment (first time living alone?). You might just be feeling a little overwhelmed, and that’s perfectly natural. The subconscious manifests our feelings and thoughts in abstract ways, so if you’re feeling anxious being alone, that would very likely explain your nightmares.

It’s possible, of course, that you’re having panic attacks - in which case there is a long and documented history of treatments, both medical and therapeutic. Here’s a few links from Google:

http://www.cfpc.ca/English/cfpc/progr…

http://www.medicinenet.com/panic_diso…

http://www.adaa.org/Public/selftest_P…

I hope that helps! ;)

lol what ^^^^^^ they said

Hello. I just typed this website in and your post was the first one that I read.
My advice to you is.
1. Make sure you talk about your problem with a close friend, someone you can trust. Someone who can help you through the trial you are faced with.
2. If you find yourself alone, start writing a journal and recording your thoughts, I think it will help you to understand your situation better. Keep yourself busy, find what your passion in life is. Drawing, painting, singing, writing, sewing etc.
3. Most importantly, don’t forget that God knows what you are dealing with. He is there to help you, all you need to do is ask. And don’t give up, that is NEVER the answer. Do everything you can to keep yourself busy and keep praying for help along the way. Do your part, and the Lord will guide you.
4. Seek for help from a Doctor if the problem persists.

It looks like you’d hit a wall in your life, where you don’t know where to turn, and everyday is miserable to live for you, isn’t that right? If so, I suggest you look to God in your life. I bet that’s an option you haven’t tried yet, because if you had, He would’ve blessed you with happiness by now. Turn to Him my friend, and if you want proof, there’s an amazing book called, “The power of miracles : stories of God in the everyday” by Anderson, Joan Wester. He is the answer, I’m telling you that now, everywhere you turn in life, he’ll always be the answer. He’d made so many lifes turn, its amazing. What you need is a miracle from Him. You should try to read this book and pray, He’ll be with you. G luck!

DaNiHaTeSyOu - thank you.

all your replies were intruiging and helpful in their own ways. i have a very close knit group of friends, however, sometimes your mind wanders to places you dont want them to see, and i appreciate all you reaching out to help someone you’ve never met. i wont forget it.

I am a faithful person. Not in the orthodox christian sense. But in my own, personal way. “I suggest you look to God in your life. I bet that’s an option you haven’t tried yet, because if you had, He would’ve blessed you with happiness by now.” a higher power that punishes me for not knowing where or what to do is not a god I want to know. However, thank you for your kindness. I mean that.

reading your posts is a highlight of my late nights. when i fix all this **** in my head, ill be offering all the advice to people i can. Lonliness is moving by slowly…i want to speed it up already.

This was left a year ago but I am feeling the same way same age been in a relationship for the same amount of time I am not pulling any hair out just drinking alot more than I should its hard to cope but I feel beter knowing Im not alone in the way I am feeling

hallo,
my name is ingeborg and i am havin almost the same problem…i have just left my natl country mauritius to come over to holland in order to study. i had a hard time choosin what i realy want to do in life.. i have left my 3 year relationship with my boyfriend behind and dont know what to do so that our relationship works even if im far away i am fellin depressed and lonely even if im with my familly. id like to have advise from people who have had teh same problem. i dont know what to do anymore. i want to go back but cant. if anyone has a small idea please help me.