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I am about to be 15 and i live with my dad and stepmom.

My dad is 40 and my stepmom is 31. She is the worst person i have ever met. She acts like she is still in high school. She tells my boyfriend bad things about me because he went out with me insted of her niece. She tells my dad not to let me do certain things or she will divorce him. If i ask my dad to let me do anything he has to approve it with her first and if she says no i can’t do it. She has been living off of my dad for years. They have a son together and he is an “angel.” She always talks about how much better he will be than me and my brother. My stepmom treats my dad like a piece of **** and never lets him do what he wants. I dont understand why he doesn’t leave her. My dad has a meth, marijuana, prescreption drug, cigarette, and alcohol problem. It’s not very easy to deal with. My stepmom also has a prescription drug problem. They fight over pills all the time then when i say something to them about it they try to make up lies but they really aren’t very good at it. Also, they don’t like my boyfriend. I can’t be trusted with anyone or anything. If i want to have a friend over it has to be one my stepmom likes but she doesnt seem to like anyone. They are always “wierd” or “*****” or “bad.” She wants to have another kid with my dad but she never takes care of the one she has now. I’m always watching him, the 2 puppies, and the kitten. The kid is 2 years old and a huge handful! I really want to live with my mom but my dad wont let me. I live with him because she used to have a crack problem but she went to rehab and is clean now. I really miss living with her. I have been really sad lately. It seems like nothing is going right… any advice?

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ne'e offline Verified User (1 year, 1 month) Long Term User Shouts: 13 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 1 month ago (2 minutes after post)

do you have grandparents or someone else that you can stay with?

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1 year, 1 month ago (8 minutes after post)

My dad wont let me stay with them.

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An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 1 month ago (11 minutes after post)

Well if your parents have the problems you say they do if you tell the right people there isnt much they can say about it especially if drugs are involved

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1 year, 1 month ago (12 minutes after post)

yeah but i told the school counselor about their problems last year and she didnt do anything about it…

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An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 1 month ago (13 minutes after post)

TELL HER AGAIN or tell your grandparents or call social services

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An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 1 month ago (14 minutes after post)

Make sure you tell them about the drug use….

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1 year, 1 month ago (15 minutes after post)

or the next time they fight call the cops

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1 year, 1 month ago (16 minutes after post)

alright i will.
i actually did call the cops one time and my stepmom went to jail for battery.. she was gone for about a month but then they were all in love again or whatever

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An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 1 month ago (20 minutes after post)

Just because you are not legally an adult does not mean you do not have rights! Parents are suppose to set a good example STAND UP FOR YOURSELF!

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1 year, 1 month ago (20 minutes after post)

thank you! :]

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An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 1 month ago (21 minutes after post)

thats what we are here for

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Graveley, I9, GB | 1 year, 1 month ago (1 hour, 35 minutes after post)

really sorry for the situation your in.my sister and i had the same deal years ago.alot of what nee said is true.you have to stand up to the *****.it took me until i was 25 to finally say somthing.and after i had let out all my feelings about her i felt great.don’t let this women run your life.good luck.

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