life help: my mum is an alchoholic she has been in hospital several times. - Help.com

she swore on YOUR life? whoa. what about your dad? can he take you in or anything? this may be a brazen and possibly dangerous attempt, but i would try to confiscate the bottles without her knowing. if she can’t drink, she won’t get drunk. hiding her car keys might work too, but definetly call your local police department or that one place that i can’t remember the name of, but takes careof kids that prents are mistreating

Do NOT TAKE HER BOTTLES!!!!!! My mother would pretend to sleep when she knew I was around so I wouldn’t have to see her in that state. The moment she heard a bottle clank she was charging down the hall at me. It’s like taking meat from a lion. Don’t do it.

thank you for your help… most of these things i have already been acustome to (have i spelt it right?) thanks for your help atm

me and my father live in the same house anonemous

was that anonymous?

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i think i spelt it wrong

sorry

i ment anonymous the person who rote my first reply

Anyway, now that I’ve said that. A mother is a very important thing in a person’s life… and it’s really hard to watch her kill herself with alcohol, I know. About her swearing on your life, you can’t hold it against her. People with heavy drinking problems can;t help themselves, and often wont even remember the things they promise you. If you really want to see your mum better, you have to be mature. You have to be there for her even if she’s drunk and your holding her while she cries and snots in your hair. She probably needs to know that she is loved and doesn’t need to erase the pain through drinking. That she doesn’t need to hide from her responsibility as a mother because you forgive her for what she’s done, and only want her to stop.

It takes a very long time for people to come out of it. Maybe you could speak to a drug and alcohol counselor. They are usually free. Just never give up on your mother and don’t take anything she says in anger as truth.

Sorry if I rant… i’ve been through the same thing

your mom is not going to stop until she wants to stop and then only then she will stop sorry to tell this but I am speaking from experience my father was an alcoholic and the reason I say was because he died suddenly from an alocholic induced heart attack I am not trying to scare you but my father was on mission I believe on he was not going to stop drinking no matter how times he tried he even went sober several times and went back you might even have her read this to scare her it may work and my father was 54 when he died and that was 9 months after my mother died of cancer at the age of 51. The both had a lot of years left ahead of them except……… I know exactly what you are going through I wish I could talk to directly and give you comfort through this ask the administrators of this site for my email address so that we can talk directly

I really dont know wot to say my mum has been drinking since i was a little girl but since my dad died 10 years ago she has made all our lifes hell we have tried to help her but she dont want to live any more we have had her put in to hopstail this year she layed in her bed for 6 weeks she wasnt eating she was just drimking yes it was my fault i was takeing the drink in to her but when it was getting to much for me my mum was sleeping in her dirtey bed she would wee her self we had to buy nappies for her but we got help for her she was in hosptail for 6 weeks we all thought she was getting better she would tell us she wasnt drinking any more but it was lies she was stil drinking she was waliking in her jimmys in the street i had to go down to her home and bring her back home with me but i have 5 children they hate my mum drinking but please i have tryed getting help for my mum i cannot let her go back home she will kill her self

you need to reread what i posted before the only other advice I can give you is to contact a church pastor, clergy, bishop of some type or the salvation army they specialize in this sort of thing to help with this, that is the only other options I think of right now to help you and the best of Luck to you sweetie, I know right now everything seems very down but I think some how with a lot prayers you will pull through and if I do not talk to you before then Merry Christmas. Rider

thank you very much you are right at this moment in time it seems so sad but i will try and get some help with my mum thank you for takeing the time have a lovely xmas

Do not give up on trying to get help for you mom she will not like it but do it any way. She will be very angry at first but later once she sobers up she will thank you for it. It will be rough at first but if you get the right help they will help you also along the way. Merry Christmas Rider

Thank you all i have stop buying her drink but she goes and gets her own drink i have tryed speaking to people about my mum but its very hard i would never give up on her she is the only mum i have got but i wish she would stop drinking for all grandchildren she has 17 grandkids they all come to see her at xmas but she was drunk in bed witch up set them all my own kids are finding it very hard to watch there nan drink like this i know in my heart my mum will never get over my dad but life has to go on i aint beeing cruel i loved him 2 when my dad died my kids was put in to care i was fighting for my kidsto come home i did get my kids home plus i had to deal with my dads death i sit hear speaking to my mum about my feelings but she never listen to any one well thank you all for listen to me i hope you all have a good christmas and happy new year all the best from anita

you cant make someone stop something even if it kill them , ano this is a harsh statment but its ture and you no it . we are all dieing and unable to stop its the circul of live without this there would be nuthing.

if your mother or father has a drinking problem tell them this.
this will be hard to say to them :

if you get very ill or something happens to you i am not goin to come to your funeral or to see you at the hospatal no matter what , you have made me do this.

by hinding or taking away alcohol is jus goin to make them angry annoyed and they will do something that they will regret.

or find something else which they are good at and get them in to it so tht they have another addiction which isnt kill them like running , goin to the gym , etc

and you might be thinking well there never even go to try that.

it worth a try and if they like it the might start doin it a lot and forget about alcohol

i have tred everything with my mum i have told her my feeling but nothing is working i have said i would take her out with me this xmas said it alll i told her to come to dinner with myself and my family but no she tryed in bed drunk then on boxing day she did come but stole the drink and money every day is the same story i have told her not to come to my house she is makeing me hate her my kids are beening bullied she walks the streets picking up dog ends asking anyone for money she wont clean her self her home smells so bad that when i do go in there i have to run out beeing sick all the time i have taken her to the doctors to get help the doctor gave her tablets to try and help her but all she done was take all the tablets with drink she took one months worth off tablets in one week .my mum is a mess i have tryed everything with her .