Love help: I have a dilema.

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I have a dilema.

I have been with my boyfriend for 9 months and I am very much in love with him. Its gotten to a serious point, where he either wants to be able to commit to a life with me or call it quits. (I’m 20 and he’s 26) I would love to commit to a life with him, but I am an aspiring circus performer (it is my passion in life) and its time for me to take my career to the next level. In order to do that, I will have to go away to circus school and following that, probably travel a lot. He has inherited a large amount of property and he has a daughter. He is not willing to move anywhere with me because he doesn’t want to walk away from what he has or leave his daughter for any length of time. My dream is to do circus and stay with him. He’ll do anything for me except move, or wait for me for long periods of time. How can I make this work? I want it so badly but right now its not looking good. It really feels like he’s the one. I don’t feel like I could be happy with just circus and not him. Please give me your imput. Thanks.

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Silent.Scream 1 #
An Undisclosed Location | 2 years, 1 month ago (3 minutes after post)

You said you don’t think you could be happy with just circis and not him. Can you be happy with just him and not circus?

It seems like obviously you will not get both. So you have to see which one you can live without.

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Barbyman 5 #
An Unknown Location | 2 years, 1 month ago (11 minutes after post)

girl dont be a fool dont chace rainbows get real grab him ,love him make children dont think ,what if? what if? the future is right in front of you….

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An Undisclosed Location | 2 years, 1 month ago (11 minutes after post)

If he won’t move and you won’t stay then what else is there? I don’t really see a choice, you have a dream and he has a life with other people depending on him to be around, so you either give up your dream and then maybe resent him for it or you do what you want to do and hope that he actualy does wait for you.
I think you both need a long talk about where you want to be in a year or 2 and if it still involves being in a relationship

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Strawberry Fields 1 #
An Undisclosed Location | 2 years, 1 month ago (1 hour, 40 minutes after post)

So there is no hope for a long distance relationship? I mean… anything worth having is also worth waiting for.

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tommylawson12 0 #
US | 2 years, 1 month ago (1 hour, 45 minutes after post)

I gave up my dreams for MRS. right twice!!! now I can only wish I had that chance again. Follow your dreams YOU’LL be happier in the end. Good luck. Don’t give up your dream!!!!!!!!!! (email removed)

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Anonymous #
2 years, 1 month ago (1 hour, 59 minutes after post)

well you have to seriously consider what’s worth more to you. This relationship or your career?

if oyu decide on the career, you and him will probably not stay together….but, hey…if he really loved you he’d wait, wouldn’t he?

if you decide on the relationship, you should at least find a way to keep oyur job options open…there’s always a chance that it won’t work out!

if you are religious, this is a time when I would say that it would be a good idea to pray. pray that oyu make the right decision

CocoMonique 4 #
An Undisclosed Location | 2 years, 1 month ago (5 hours, 13 minutes after post)

follow your heart. If it feels wrong, chances are it’s a mistake. Of course without passion life is beautyless, but the question is what do you want? I know this is bad, but maybe you could try it for a year. With caution! and if it doesn’t work you career will be there. but will he be?

airfairy 0 #
An Undisclosed Location | 2 years, 1 month ago (5 hours, 16 minutes after post)

Wow, good call… I sort of feel too young to be faced with a decision this big, you know? Thats why all the advice is great.

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