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i am about to have a baby with a man i am no longer

with and i was wanting to make sure that i have everything straight before i meet with the father in a week to discuss everything. i know we need to work out visitation and child support but what else do we need to work out so that it is allready agreed on and we do not have to mess with it after the baby gets here. this will be our only talk untill the baby comes so i need to get everything taken care of now. please let me know if you can think of anything for me to work out with him besides just visitation and child support. thanks in advance.

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The Clue offline Verified User (4 years) Long Term User Shouts: 16 Add Friend #
Minot, ND, US | 2 years, 1 month ago (34 minutes after post)

Heres a few things you should think about. What name will the child have your last name or his. How about insurance for the child the medical bills will start comming in soon. How about clothing and food. Do you have all of the supplies that you need crib, high chair, stroller, car seat, diapers (these are a must LOL) Hope this helps :-)

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Eagle Harbour, BC, CA | 2 years, 1 month ago (1 hour, 24 minutes after post)

Will he help name the child? Will he participate in birthdays and Christmas etc…? Will he allow another man to adopt your child if you meet Mr. Right? Will he let you call all the shots on how your child will be raised or does he want to have input? Who has the final say on what is best for the child?

Good Luck
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Gloversville, NY, US | 2 years, 1 month ago (14 hours, 47 minutes after post)

I HAVE TO TELL YOU A STORY OF MY PAST.. PLEASE TAKE HEED… my daughter was one years old.. her father never did anything with her… he did take a paternity test and was proved to be the father because his mother had him believing that i cheated on him.. which i never did.. however… one day.. it was his visit time… he would always pick my daughter up… and drop her with his mother and leave… because he didnt want to have his daughter but did because of his mom.. anyway… i waited home for him to bring her back … i waited and waited… no show!!!! long story short.. and after being arrested for breaking an entering…. due to wanting my child back… i had to wait until the following day to get my daughter back… because no one had CUSTODY of my child.. no cop.. could help me get my child home.. i had to wait to go to family court.. so please…. please please.. no matter how well you get along with him… GET CUSTODY OF YOUR CHILD… because if there is no order.. then there is nothing stating that he has to return your child…

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An Unknown Location | 2 years, 1 month ago (16 hours, 23 minutes after post)

Considering the story above…and all the terrible ways that these things can go…please consult a lawyer. that’s your safest bet.

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southerncowgirl offline Verified User (2 years, 8 months) Long Term User Shouts: 2 Add Friend #
US | 2 years, 1 month ago (23 hours, 58 minutes after post)

thankyou to all that have helped and i do plan on getting it done through a lawyer but i am hoping to come to agreements before seeing a lawyer and that is why i was asking. he will not see the baby till i get custody cause him and his girlfriend are threatening to take the baby from me and they know they can keep it as long as i don’t have custody. i plan on my lawyer mailing him the papers to sign. thanks again.

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Braden, TN, US | 2 years, 1 month ago (1 day after post)

Good luck to you cowgirl!

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Exeter, NH, US | 2 years ago (1 week, 6 days after post)

Sweet heart that baby is the most precious thing in the world. Forget him.
He will either stay or leave. There is nothing you can do about it. Love that baby to the most.

My wife has kicked me out and I am feeling the same pain. Hurts like heck. but I can not change how she feels.

Love is the most complicated thing in life.

Please do not give up hope

Love you
David

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Tampa, FL, US | 2 years ago (3 weeks, 3 days after post)

unless you have a criminal record or are underage or found to be unfit, there should be no way he could win custody of your baby. Look into government funded programs for single mothers, keep paycheck stubs if you are working and try to stay as civil as possible when you do meet with the baby daddy. good luck.

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An Unknown Location | 1 year, 3 months ago (9 months, 4 weeks after post)

Alot depends on the state you live in. What the childs last name will be.Don’t forget to figure out things like who gets to claim baby at tax time. Insurance. It will be easier if the father stays active in childs life…only if safety allows.
Good luck!!

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