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I love my girlfriend, but I don’t love her.
I just broke up with her yesterday and I could barely get the words out. I didn’t even really say it actually, she did. This is a girl I have been with for two years, off and on in the beginning, but still the longest and most important relationship I have ever had. and she is wonderful. I just dont understand why I want out of this relationship. she is ******* wonderful!!! Maybe its me. I feel like I want to get back with her and I don’t know what to do. My brain says I will regret it, but I feel like another part of me yearns for her. Since this is not the first time this has happened, currently I am listening to my brain but I want this to change or end one way or the other. If someone can help me I would be eternally greatful. I’ve never done this before, but now I am willing to try anything. I just want to stop hurting the people I care about.
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Get back together with her until you know FOR SURE that you don’t want to be with her.
good luck it is a tough choice
but if you stick by the decision you make things will be better
it just depends how you want to be hurt
whether through being alone
or getting hurt by another person
it is a sketchy situation
take her to slamtown
whoever wrote this i’m sure you’d like to remain anonymous, as would i but the same thing has happened to me recently and maybe there is somehow we could help each other out? i dunno.. its been 3 months so maybe you’re over it but i’m sure not so let me know…
sounds like you are comepletly infatuated with her, that was my problem, me and my girl friend broke up for a week, and i realized wow i dont really love her. YOu will find out alot about your self if you are alone for a week. i know its hard but try it. no calling her no contact with her, you will see how you really feel.
dude, relationship advice is tough. I’ve been here with my first long term relationship. Maybe you feel like you know you guys are not right for each other but not being with her sucks? Thats how I felt. I’d say, give it time. No communication for at least a few weeks (probably wayy longer). Stuff like this is really hard for guys because we dont normally let our emotions mess us up and you will be messed up for a while. But, stick it out. Show yourself you have some willpower and good luck.
go have a relationship with a guy. having a lolipop in your life might change your perspective towards your love on you girlie ;)
hahahaha, funny. but seriously if you yearn for her go for it, my problem is that my GF loves me and i think she would throw herself in front of a car for me. i do love her, i’m not sure if i love her as a friend or as a “soul mate” (if that exists) i dont know why i am writing this maybe cause i am drunk and just watched the godfather 2 where they brake up and it made me think ‘do i want to still be with her.’ so i quickly search ‘do i love her’ and this came up. a bit mental i know. we have been together a year and i dont want to mess her around, she makes me happy and gives me every i need. even if all i need is a row. i think it is true, one half of a couple is always chasing the other. and it is better being the chaser because you feel you have something you dont diserve,(increases your self esteem i suppose) whereas the opposite is something different entirely. i hope that makes sense. and if it does i know it makes me sound like i am up my own ****.
to be honest i am.
i wrote this because the guy above said “she is amazing” if i ever in my life had a girl that i truely thought ‘this girl is amazing” then i’d snatch her up so fast.
in writing this i already know what a twat i am and i should just tell her, but my fear of lonelyness is to strong. please dont get the opinion that she is a ugly nice girl (you know what i mean) she is extremely pritty, (she has smelly feet tho. lol)
honestly i want more, (is that the greener grass situation or somethink) i know if i do get rid, i will wont her back, but for how long?
**** i have writen an novel.
i dont think i really want anyones opinion just wanted to say it.
i am home alone now and rarely have time to think about such things unless its just before i go to sleep.
i’m ron burgany?
i’d have to completely agree with flameretarden even though i’ve never done that myself. ive been with my gf for 1.5 years now, never did fall in love with her but still tell her that i love her. that may sound wrong or evil but i never was 100% sure if i did love her but i knew that i’d miss her if i didn’t see her for a while, which was proven wen i didnt see her for about a week. perhaps i should try going on a little ‘break’ for a month to see how i truly feel, i feel thats the best way.
hell i dont think anybody knows dude… that is a decision you will have to make up on ur own… nobody can make your mind up for you… obviously if you sre having second thoughts about your relationship something must have happened.. rather you guys get into arguments all the time or you have been talking to another girl and wondering what it would be like to be with her or just be single and mess around with this new girl without any regret. either way, you need to make up your mind.. dont lead her along just to break her heart for a second time… thats just not right.. but whatever you do, make sure its what your heart and mind tells you… not what some people online, who have no idea about how you feel on the inside, say!! just trust your gut and if youre like every other human out there, you probably just got what i call ’singleitis’.. you just got to decide what path YOU want to take..
**** this happens to me all the time man all you need to do is sit down and decide what the reason for not loving her is. is she fat, is she dumb, whatever think of her flaws then think about how much you love her. if there are more flaws then reasons you love her than leave her if there are more reasons you love her stay with her hope this helped
dont think you can just get back with her whenever you want what if she doesnt want to be with you :| priiiickk
guys his was wrin yaers ago why answr i now and sorry abo my splling some of my kys ar bing supid
the same thing happened to me… it put my life into jeopardy.. got stress and headache… we broke up but i still miss her…. im praying that God will change my heart.
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