friends help: how do you get over someone? - Help.com

ya know… there’s alot of people that are going to disagree with Qzzzz. You will hear time will heal your wounds… talk to her/him and work it out to see if you can still be friends, there’s no reason you cannot be. Forgive them, and forgive yourself, and everything will be OK!

But you see, Qzz and I are a couple of old guys, and our experience has taught us that it’s not that simple. In an ideal world yes… but is your life ideal? OK then… listen then to experience. If you love someone and you loose them, you will experience grief… and the grief process. That process does not end until you accept what happened. If you are in constant connection with that person… you’ve lost them, but you haven’t really lost them… they are still around…so in your heart you’ve lost time.. but in your mind you have not! How confusing is THAT?! Well, in case you didn’t know.. it’s VERY confusing, and nearly impossible to reach acceptance on the lost love! You need time apart in order to “get over it”. If you work together… that’s rough. Just try to avoid them as much as you can… force yourself to think of other things… try the old rubber band trick.
Bright blessings~
Richard

ahhh another old person… and from Ireland none-the-less! I didn’t think they had old people on the Fairy Isle!

If you are struggling you need to start making plans to move forward. Take steps in sizes that you can absorb. If you work with this person, perhaps you should try to transfer to another location, or start looking for a new job. If you live with this person you need to find another place to stay. You have to do what is best for you so that you may heal. It will take time and you will have to occupy your mind elsewhere. Good luck.

i am tryin to get over someone too so i understand just where you are coming from…. i told him 2 weeks ago that i couldn’t talk to him for awhile so i could pull myself out and try and get over him because it had been 2 months of me not moving any closer to gett better… well i will tell you its the hardest thing in the world because he was my best friend and not talking to him is killing me and i am no closer to getting better but im not giving up yet… i wish you luck getting over your heartbreak - i’m here going through the same thing so you aren’t alone, let me know if you need to talk

i know …. i understand that because im going through the same thing - it took my mom to tell me that i NEEDED to do this. she made me stop talking to him and it doesnt get any better after that…. i understand not wanting to stop talking to him and not being able to get your head around it. its so hard to actually believe this is happening - i understand that…. but its liberating in a sense for you to say “i dont need to talk to him” - and cut him off… perhaps if he really loves you he will come back to you because he misses talking to you… I’m sure you’ve heard that before, i’ve heard it about 100x and it doesnt make you feel any better… if he doesnt talk to you - you question if he ever loved you really then… but you are doing this for yourself - you need to do it hun. iknow its probably one of the hardest things you will have to do… and im telling you it isnt going to be easy or get easier for a long time…. im still waiting for the “easy” part to happen…. good luck - you can do it. just remember it is for you.

then stay friends. It will make
you a better person in the end.