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Osaka_Chil
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I am so **** confused.

For so long I have avoided growing up and remained living life in the innocence of a dream world, full of adventure, fantasy and wonder. Now I’m in college and realtity finally hit me in the face. I was strolling down the street lost in my own little dance when a car behind me with words “adulthood” and “reality” sprayed painted on the side came speeding wildly in my direction. Before I knew it I was hit. I thought growing up should be a gradual thing but I guess since I had been avoiding it for so long, I never got to prepare. Now I am torn between the two.

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Qzzzz offline Verified User (3 years, 1 month) Long Term User Shouts: 2 #
Montpelier, MS, US | 2 years, 1 month ago (12 minutes after post)

It ain’t easy babe as the song says! Unfortunately, if we don’t grow up, life will make us grow up. The word, grow up, what does it mean? That is very hard to answer. To me, growing up means that you take full responsibility for your life. That means, if you fail, don’t blame anyone but yourself. So, start making goals and working hard to acheive them. That is the first step. But, when you fail, MUST IMPORTANT, don’t give up. Keep working hard to achieve your life’s goals….you will be just fine my friend..You are a winner and you will do good…Picked that up from your post…

Good luck!

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Richard Cor de Lyon offline Verified User (2 years, 7 months) Long Term User Shouts: 20 #
An Undisclosed Location | 2 years, 1 month ago (21 minutes after post)

Growing up means you know how to take down a license number when you get hit.

AnOlderOne offline Verified User (2 years, 5 months) Long Term User Shouts: 5 #
An Undisclosed Location | 2 years, 1 month ago (26 minutes after post)

I’m still growning up and I’m 32. I don’t think I will ever be a “grown up”. I am always growing and learning. The only different between now and then is I don’t have parents to over-protect and shelter me.

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Qzzzz offline Verified User (3 years, 1 month) Long Term User Shouts: 2 #
Montpelier, MS, US | 2 years, 1 month ago (27 minutes after post)

Stars, well said…I’m 60 and it is debatable about my maturity on some days! lol…

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~*Confused*With*Love offline Verified User (2 years, 11 months) Long Term User Shouts: 5 #
An Undisclosed Location | 2 years, 1 month ago (34 minutes after post)

well, we are all growing up evwery day, but no one is really fully grown. what i’m trying to say is, you are going to try to grow up, but there will always be that kid inside who wants to come out.

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tricky offline Verified User (3 years) Long Term User Shouts: 89 #
An Unknown Location | 2 years, 1 month ago (1 hour after post)

this doesnt matter how old are ya ,,, the only thing that matter is how much u have learned from this life …

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Black and Pretty offline Verified User (2 years, 2 months) Long Term User Shouts: 24 #
An Undisclosed Location | 2 years, 1 month ago (1 hour, 55 minutes after post)

sweet princess is so right. growing up dosen’t mean that you have to give up on the things that you like doing. growingi up is basicl… accepting what is right from wrong. just hang on in there, life will show you how to grow up.

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Qzzzz offline Verified User (3 years, 1 month) Long Term User Shouts: 2 #
Montpelier, MS, US | 2 years, 1 month ago (2 hours, 1 minute after post)

Well my friend Tricky, I’ve learned a LOT, but just enough to know that I don’t know very much!

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tricky offline Verified User (3 years) Long Term User Shouts: 89 #
An Unknown Location | 2 years, 1 month ago (2 hours, 2 minutes after post)

yeah i know ,, if u think u know everthing ,, u dont know nothing :D…

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Qzzzz offline Verified User (3 years, 1 month) Long Term User Shouts: 2 #
Montpelier, MS, US | 2 years, 1 month ago (2 hours, 6 minutes after post)

Yes, this when you become wise… When you lose your ego, that is the beginning of happiness! You learn not to expect anything, get any help, and don’t need “pats on the back!” You become self-sufficent in your daily routine. Then, you can laugh at anything…No one will ruin your day…

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tricky offline Verified User (3 years) Long Term User Shouts: 89 #
An Unknown Location | 2 years, 1 month ago (2 hours, 8 minutes after post)

nice to talk with a wise person :) .. they are becoming very few ,, cause everybody is sooo into ppl ,,, ” oohhhh what will they say … ” when u dont give a **** about what ppl think about y and stuff …. everything is simple :)…

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Qzzzz offline Verified User (3 years, 1 month) Long Term User Shouts: 2 #
Montpelier, MS, US | 2 years, 1 month ago (2 hours, 11 minutes after post)

Lol..well, did not carry it that far my friend…just don’t allow them to control you…You care about what people think about you, but you don’t allow them to make you unhappy. We must keep our self-respect Tricky!

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tricky offline Verified User (3 years) Long Term User Shouts: 89 #
An Unknown Location | 2 years, 1 month ago (2 hours, 17 minutes after post)

ppl in general talk to much :P so basicly they will say things about ya most of the time bad things ,, when u stop caring ,, u start caring less what they think about ya … u dont have to act out or wear a fake mask … this is who i’m who likes me and here who doenst .. get his as s out :P .. simple see :D …

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Qzzzz offline Verified User (3 years, 1 month) Long Term User Shouts: 2 #
Montpelier, MS, US | 2 years, 1 month ago (2 hours, 19 minutes after post)

Hey, whatever works my friend..have a good one!

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tricky offline Verified User (3 years) Long Term User Shouts: 89 #
An Unknown Location | 2 years, 1 month ago (2 hours, 20 minutes after post)

:D u too my friend my best wishes for you too :)…

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[think peace] offline Verified User (2 years, 7 months) Long Term User Shouts: 2 #
Atlanta, GA, US | 2 years, 1 month ago (3 hours, 7 minutes after post)

i refuse to grow up and i say life come on hit me with everything you have…im not doing it. Ill forever be young in my mind

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Qzzzz offline Verified User (3 years, 1 month) Long Term User Shouts: 2 #
Montpelier, MS, US | 2 years, 1 month ago (3 hours, 11 minutes after post)

Oh, young at heart Heather! Understood, so am I…I like to hop and holler…and have a blast…But, I always know where to draw the line and not go past the line. This is acting mature and responsible…

And, by all means, be young, act young, and have fun…love life and love to live it…

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tricky offline Verified User (3 years) Long Term User Shouts: 89 #
An Unknown Location | 2 years, 1 month ago (14 hours, 2 minutes after post)

i think the mature thingy is get miss understood in my point of view mature = know what is wrong and what is right ,,, take decisions and know how will it effect ur life in the futur (somehow) ,, being responsible ,, ………
but hek everybody needs some times to just say i wana have fun :P it’s normal .. everybody needs to chil sometimes but not always :P …
this is for ” rock/my/soul ” i just wanted to say as much as u are honest with ur answers so am i :) so we have that in common :D… u cant run away from life , u have to face it …. my best wishes for all peace out :) ….

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qbnightmare2 offline Verified User (2 years, 1 month) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
Grand Rapids, MI, US | 1 year, 8 months ago (5 months, 1 week after post)

lol I’ve felt the same way but it’s gotta happen, it’s not as bad as it’s made up to be… just a little different :-p

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OnwardIGo offline Verified User (1 year, 7 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 7 months ago (5 months, 3 weeks after post)

Wow, I can most definitely relate, completely.

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Amethysteria offline Verified User (2 years, 7 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 6 months ago (6 months, 3 weeks after post)

I actually feel the same as you, only I still have time since I’m a sophomore in high school… It’s just not much time…

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