Love help: Is it ok to want someone to love you just so that you can hurt them? - Help.com

I doubt you are going insane, but you are right… perhaps a bit of an obsession and clearly you did answer your own question. Anger is a part of the grief process which you will experience anytime you experience a loss… especially of a loved one. So recognize it for what it is, and move on….acceptance is the final stage of grief, and what is needed for true healing to begin. I understand your desire for vengeance, I think we’ve all been there, but as you know it serves no purpose really. To create pain and sorrow is only to welcome pain and sorrow into your own life. I know you may say well I already have pain and sorrow and it’s because of HIM… trust me, you don’t know pain and sorrow, a true dark emptiness, until you are the bringer of pain and sorrow.
I wish you a speedy recover.
Bright blessings~
Richard

no. its not ok to hurt someone. you shouldnt stoop down to his level. because after you get your revenge. you’ll be full of nothing but regret. so dont do it and move on. there are people like that everywhere. and just because you happen to stumble upon one and fall victim to they’re tricks doesnt mean that you should do the same. just move on. you’ll be a lot happier that way.

I think you should make peace with what happened & move on.
If he doesn’t realise how you felt, then great - you’ve not lost anything by him.
You are probably obsessing becasue your mind is filling in the gaps of what you don’t know about him & in reality I expect he is far from your dream mate…
Me advice - your life is more important than this, do something more constructive or at least fun with your time - you are in control of your life & there’s plenty else to do! :) All the best

I think your reaction’s normal, i don’t think you’re going crazy. I agree with Richard and think it may come back to haunt you.Best not do it, you’ll be just fine - hold your head up!

Hmmmmm … I know you don’t think this…but if you were in our position, reading your post… we might be inclined to be thinking, “who’s the selfish one here?” Re-read your posts to us. Revenge, is all about being selfish - yes even the thought of it. Perhaps this is your lesson, for all of lifes experiences come with a lesson. The two of you were attracted to each other because of your selfishness… it is what you have in common. But due to the nature of THAT paticular beast (selfishness) you could not stay together.

So… if you’ve learned this lesson, than you have your “revenge” already. For you have learned that selfishness will get you nowhere… he on the other hand, who has not learned any lesson; is destined to only repeat his problems entering into one selfish and broken relationship after another!
Bright blessings~
Richard

You are loosing sleep, because you are no longer selfish. Do you think if you didn’t care a rat’s @ss about any of this, you’d be loosing sleep? NOT; you’d be sleeping like a baby! It’s in your careing and self-LESS-ness that you are loosing sleep. He on the other hand… it is plain to see he learned nothing, and maintains his selfish pattern… sleeping like a baby, without guilt or issue of any kind. It’s quite sad actually.

So, to that I say congratulations to YOU!!! :D

Him? don’t give him another thought. He will crash and burn… all selfish people do… and when that happens it will be very very ugly.

Yes, it is wrong.

lol… well… I guess the line gets pretty foggy there. I do however think there is a VERY subtle line between wanting the universe to work the way it works… and just know the universe works the way it works. Yep… just let it go, “knowing” the universe works the way it works, and you’re still good :)
Glad I should shine a different light off the multi-faceted gem of life~
Bright blessings~
Richard

you could try a magick spell, but watchout, sometimes they come back on you.