Love help: hi, im 20 and my partner is 31, i have known him for the last 5 years as he was my boss at work. - Help.com

perhaps if you trust eachother a small amount of time appart is in order. you may also want to try and sit down with eachother and speak about your problems, if i think of anything i’ll let you know

Well my best friend dated her boss but she is 2 years older than him. They have been dating now for 3 years. He was in another relationship when he started messing with my best friend. They now have 2 children together. Everything was good with them to from the beginning until she notice that he started changing alittle. He was messing back with his ex girl friend. They went through so many ups and downs. She loves him dearly and he for sure have love for her but he is not settle down enough. She just told him yesterday that she couldn’t deal with the relationship anymore and she wanted him to leave her alone. He don’t want to give up on them.

So you see there are so many other people that go through similar situations as well. You are going to have to decide what you need to do, what is best for you. If you can decide to let the relationship go and remain friends that could be a option there.

I can only give you my opinion…Sweetie you really need to take time out to decide…In the mean time TAKE CARE OF YOU …. C ya

Seems like he needs to hone in on some vital communication skills… When my gf and I was going through stuff we read the book men are from mars, women are from venus.. That book taught us so much about each other. We really laughed at our stuff. I know this may sound cliche but relationships end when communication stops.. Oh sh_t I dont want to preach, I only wish I had someone to love. Rob

That is SO true tho born2rock..

yes i know, we do communicate, but at the moment, he has had a massive falling out with his parents (who i work for and who he use to work with). so im stuck in the middle of it all. they all talk to me about it and ive got the point where i just cannot handle it anymore, and i try and exclude myself but it just kills me to see them all hurting, so every time i see my partner we end up talking about it and he gets upset and i end up angry and we just end up fighting because of that, and then it makes work hard coz i get angry with is parents, i feel liek im just stuck in the middle trying to help them, and its killing me, i dont know, its awfull, i want to take some time off work just to be on my own for a couple of weeks, but we are just so busy and the timing is just so bad, but i just feel if i just left them to it for a while, they wont have anyone to talk to any eventually they will have to talk to each other. i dontk now if im explaining any of this very well, but i just want to scream!!!!!

I heard your scream…. You know you are in a very powerless situation… For your own peace of mind distance yourself from any inlaws.. Be nice to them but never marry the inlaws, its hard enough to marry one person.. Make sure your bf honors you above them…Find a job away from them pleasee,,,,otherwise you wont just be screaming you will be loosing yourself and get owned.. I speak from experience..Rob

so so so true born2rock

yes i know im trying so hard to distance myself , but its so hard seeing the people you care about gettin hurt, im really close to his paretns aswell, i was close to them before i was him, obviously i want to spend my life with him, but i have so much love and respect for them that i dont think i could just walk out, they’ve treated me like family and thyeve been so good to me, i know what i should do for my own piece of mind, but i just cant help but want to help, i think im just putting myself into a situation that i can’t win, i have to get a bit of confidence and do whats best for me, its just going to take some time

Yes it is going to take some time. Take Care of yourself lil_kitty_200

thanks alot i approciate your comments!

For sure..Y/Welcome

looks like a rebond is comeing!