life help: why are relationships so difficult? - Help.com

because you want it that way.

Relationships aren’t meant to be hard. They can be challenging at times, but good communication and respect prevent them from being “hard”.

Life can be hard, but I don’t believe we are given more than we can handle. Our experiences (good and bad) are what make us who we are.

Check out Epictetus and stoicism for a different perspective on your life. It’s only hard while you think it is.

Talk to someone who doesn’t think life sucks, and find out why they think it doesn’t. Apply that to your situation.

For example, consider that everything that causes you to think life sucks has already happened. It is therefore not under your control. Should you dwell on things that are out of your control?

I find it easier to deal with issues if you recognize that a fair bit of what causes you to be sad is not within your power to change. Rather than be upset about it, you can choose to accept it, and do the best with what you do have the power to change.

The Buddha teaches us… “the mind is everything; as you think so shall you be”

Jesus teaches us… “knock and the door will be answered, ask and you shall receive”… what’s so hard there?

Yeah… sometimes changeing your PERSPECTIVE can be hard… but not impossible. To change perspective it takes new habits. It takes 28 days to physically form new neural pathways, to create new habits. So if your self esteem sucks… stand infront of the mirror every day for 10 minutes… affirming that you love yourself… do this for 28 and days and bang… you have a new habit of loving yourself. The same can be done for anything. You can book smart all you want… but until you LIVE what you know, you will never be wise. It can be done Kitty… trust yourself.
Bright blessings~
Richard

We all have upsets… I had a debt for $20,000… yesterday is was called up… meaning I must now pay it off in full. I really don’t have that kind of money laying around… so it kinda blew me out of the water yesterday… I’ve recognized my hurt, and now I’m moving on. Now is NOT the time for me to dispair… for my dispair will only bring MORE of it. Now is the time for me to make money! Now is the time for me to KNOW that my God… the Universe.. the Greater Self.. whatever you want to call it.. is there for me to create everything I need!

If you don’t know… then they will not be. Only in KNOWING will your gain be true.

The Universe pays off on the verbs we use. If you say “I want a great relationship”, then that is what you get.. “WANT” Want is the constant of having nothing, and desireing more. Say rather, “I am so grateful for having a great relationship”.. Or, “I am so grateful for the coming great relationship” Notice the grateful part. Always be grateful for what you have… even if what you have seems to suck at the moment… it is meant to be, so be grateful.

yeah life is hard but not all the time,same with relationships.you know what,just go on w/ your life.i used to be like a negative thinker but i decided to be optimistic about stuff(even im kidding myself at times).i do it(optimism) like in every situation im in.and now it’s like i become really an optimistic person.like i have adopted the attitude.but u know i get down at times but not for too long.i get over it much easily.it works for me.+ music hehe…

Agrees with all post here…Take Care & Keep Your Head Up.

sadly, relationships dont solve problems. they don’t make you happy. u have to be happy first to get one to work.

relationships are great when its the right one!

“The Buddha teaches us… “the mind is everything; as you think so shall you be”

Jesus teaches us… “knock and the door will be answered, ask and you shall receive”… what’s so hard there?

Yeah… sometimes changing your PERSPECTIVE can be hard… but not impossible. To change perspective it takes new habits. It takes 28 days to physically form new neural pathways, to create new habits. So if your self esteem sucks… stand infront of the mirror every day for 10 minutes… affirming that you love yourself… do this for 28 and days and bang… you have a new habit of loving yourself. The same can be done for anything. You can book smart all you want… but until you LIVE what you know, you will never be wise. It can be done Kitty… trust yourself.” Richard the Boring(ha ha!)

I totally agree with Richard. Relationships don’t have to be so difficult and neither does life. When you have had it hard to start with, you tend to think that’s the way life is and just go on expecting it to be hard. So you only attract what you believe in. Just start believing that you can actually get what you’re hoping for. Just really believe it! It really doesn’t have to be complicated at all.