Love help: These feelings are running too deep. - Help.com

Well for starters, you should never feel guilty for your feelings and thoughts. Attraction (and love) isn’t a choice. Realistically though the more you hang around him the more feelings that you’re gonna have for him.

Not only that, but the fact that you cant have him probably makes you want him more. Even subconciously.

My advice to you is tell him how you feel, and then if he doesn’t feel the same way back distance yourself from him and distract yourself with other things. Oh it wont be easy, and it might be painful but its doable. And the longer you wait the harder its gonna be.

Unless you think they aren’t gonna last very long and your just biding your time.

You sound like a very kind hearted person, What is it about your bestfriend that draws you to him so much ? how long have you two been friends ? Maybe if you took it off your chest to him you two could figure somthing out.

you can never dictate your heart to disregard those feelings but you can think logically as to how this certain feeling can destroy relationships. if he feels the same way, then good. if he has someone else, then might as well do something else that would take you mind of things. at this point, mind over matter.

also listen to Dan, you never know u might figure something out of the situation. goodluck.:o)

Casper: he knows I like him; he just has no idea how much. The confusing part is, my friends say its obvious he feels the same way back, and he’s told me before, “I know it’s wrong, but I still have yet to get over you”. He’s obviously feeling guilty about this as well.

Dan: why thank-you. He is… every thing I’ve ever looked for in a guy. Physically and mentally. He is tall, strong, into the sports that I adore, we share music tastes, he’s kind, sweet, funny, is a little perverted, and he accepts me for who I am without pushing me to change. We’ve been regular friends for maybe almost a year - not very long at all. However, we just bonded very fast.

Lilies: it’s to the point where, whatever I do I can’t get my mind off him. Music, friends, art, literature, school, fencing… even in fencing, which I am very enthusiastic about, I think about him.

Wow, Is there absolutly no way you to can be together ? Do they have a progressing relationship, or are they just at a stand still not going any were. Maybe there is a chance for you 2. I was in a sort of situation, and I told her how i felt cause she was really in love with her BF so I took it off my chest and i felt better. Now were just friends.

I would never push him to break-up with her. What goes on between them, well… I’d rather let them go on with it.

I mean, I think he loves her… but, I’m not sure. They almost never see one another. She lives in Maryland and we live in Pennsylvania; she used to stop by all the time, but I guess things have been slow.

there could be a chance for the two of you who knows. but then again, there are things that we just could not have.time will tell.