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Hi, I have a friend problem.

A friend and I were playing guitar hero when we heard there was going to be a guitar hero competition at best buy. Before the contest, I said to my friend that if i won I would give him the prize (a 19″ lcd tv). Exited, we both entered the competition. I just so happened to win this competition and when they handed the tv to me, I realized it was a quite expensive 19″ tv. I had second thoughts. I told my friend I had second thoughts and it devestated him. He felt like i betrayed him and I just wanted to get something from winning. So we agreed on selling the tv and splitting the money. Later that night, before we sold the tv, he told me that he was still mad at me for not keeping my word on just giving him the tv and that now i was splitting the money. I talked to him later (still on edge about what to do with the tv) and apologized. He didn’t accept my apology. So my questions are….

Who is in the wrong here?

Am I greedy for wanting my prize and not giving my friend a gift?

Is he greedy for wanting the whole gift instead of splitting it?

Is it wrong of him to be mad at me even if i split the tv or give him a different tv?

What should I do?

Please help!

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jm_2007 2 #
An Undisclosed Location | 2 years ago (5 minutes after post)

Wow, well honestly i feel like you did nothing wrong for wanna your prize and your friend should be happy for you, but again i can see where your friend is coming from if you said you would give it to him. I think your friend is sounding selfish for being mad at you when you are still offering to split the money for selling the tv. Honestly, it’s your prize and i personaly think you should do what you think is right(which might be a hard question to answer). Good luck:S

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guitar.in.my.heart. 19 #
Lawton, OK, US | 2 years ago (7 minutes after post)

you are both wrong. you for putting material thing before a friend and his feelings. and he is wrong for not forgiving you. tell him to put it all behind him and if you want give himt the tv. seriously a tv is not that big a deal get over it. if i had my tv stolen i would not be devestated. this is a good time for you to take this as a lesson and set your priorities straight. this makes yo a better and more responsible person. you cant buy friends, u can buy a tv later. learn ur leasson and give up the tv. otherwise the tv is a trophy of greed.

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2 years ago (10 minutes after post)

guitar.in.my.heart. wrote:
you are both wrong. you for putting material thing before a friend and his feelings. and he is wrong for not forgiving you. tell him to put it all behind him and if you want give himt the tv. seriously a tv is not that big a deal get over it. if i had my tv stolen i would not be devestated. this is a good time for you to take this as a lesson and set your priorities straight. this makes yo a better and more responsible person. you cant buy friends, u can buy a tv later. learn ur leasson and give up the tv. otherwise the tv is a trophy of greed.

Guitar.in.my.heart.. harsh words your right to a point but wrong in others too.. sorry just my thoughts

littleims1 #
Tampa, FL, US | 2 years ago (11 minutes after post)

Thank you guitar.in.my.heart. That is the best answer i’ve heard from anybody i’ve talked to. I’ll give him the tv tomorrow even if i have to make the hour long drive to do it. You’re right, its just a tv, i can buy another one. My friends are the most important thing to me, and I dont wanna feel like a dic every time i use that tv. Thank you!

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TheJDevil 1 #
An Undisclosed Location | 2 years ago (15 minutes after post)

Who is in the wrong here?
Both of you, but more him. It was not smart of you to promise him the TV, but he should not value a TV over your friendship. You won it fair and square. He did not. It should belong to you.

Am I greedy for wanting my prize and not giving my friend a gift?
Some could say so, but it really does belong to you.

Is he greedy for wanting the whole gift instead of splitting it?
Yes. He should understand that when you promised him the TV you probably didnt expect you would actually win it.

Is it wrong of him to be mad at me even if i split the tv or give him a different tv?

What should I do?
I dont know.

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littleims1 #
Tampa, FL, US | 2 years ago (16 minutes after post)

The problem is, we both knew that i would win the competition….I am VERY good at the game (not trying to gloat) and the other people in the competition were bad at the game.

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guitar.in.my.heart. 19 #
Lawton, OK, US | 2 years ago (17 minutes after post)

i agree with j devi but in the end what will make him a more honest helpful citizen. a person true to their word who does what is right. or a peron who says one thing and might not do it. i like to call them politicians lol

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guitar.in.my.heart. 19 #
Lawton, OK, US | 2 years ago (20 minutes after post)

im glad u came on here because this happens to a lot of ppl and they dont see the light and they end up in a circle of backstabbing never ending. start when your young and you will have a bright future. any time u need any advice im available on here. im here to help but im laid back too if yo wanan crack jokes and stuff k lol. catcha later

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littleims1 #
Tampa, FL, US | 2 years ago (25 minutes after post)

hahah thanks sooo much

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haccoon 1 #
Dallas, TX, US | 2 years ago (52 minutes after post)

If it was me I would of lost on purpose just so I wouldn’t win and then have to give up the tv,but since I don’t watch tv I would’ve been happy to give it to my friend or whoever.Watch the movie “Envy” on your new tv together when whoever decides to keep it:)

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An Undisclosed Location | 2 years ago (3 weeks, 4 days after post)

you promised to give him a TV and you had second thoghts right i mean you won and
deserved the TV
Don’t forget you have a whole life ahead of you so give him the TV and if he doesn’t accept it he is the one that is greedy and that is not the
kind of friend you should have if doesn’t forgive you for being a jerk.

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