guy help: Can someone give me some good tips on how I can flirt with guys? - Help.com

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yes talk to them about anything. with us guys its easy to start a conversation about the most random things. unlike women we arent really stuck up. its so hard to get women, that when one actually finds interest in u, u dont want to screw anything up.

Get closer than you normally would, joke with them, tell them they’re cute/hot/sexy/whatever. Touching is good, too. Brush their hair out of their eyes, playfully shove them when appropriate… use your imagination.

guys are generally clueless
so be very forward
and hopefully they will clue in

shine for you wrote:
guys are generally cluelessso be very forwardand hopefully they will clue in

Yep. u are true right there. i never know if a girl likes me. and when i find out that they did. it is way too late.

Hints don’t work, so don’t waste your time trying to drop them. And mind games are a surefire way to make guys leave you, so steer clear of them, too.

Xeno Dragon wrote:
Hints don’t work, so don’t waste your time trying to drop them. And mind games are a surefire way to make guys leave you, so steer clear of them, too.

True, man. its uncomfortable with hints and mind games.

I’ve ended relationships over it before. It’s not attractive at all. Mind games imply jealosy/distrust and a manipulative nature. Guys hate that.

Ya, i really liked a girl that acted two ways. it always made me unsure. too bad it never worked out

what are mindgames?

Telling a guy to do something, when you really want him to do something else, just to see if he does what you really want instead. That sort of thing. None of them make any sense when you think about them, but women pull them all the time for some reason.

basically all you need to do is yes chat to a lad, always act as if your not interested, be confident believe you are the best and yes everyone dose want you and soon enough they will, dont try to be funny or try to complement. what drives a lad crazy is when a girl flirts but plays hard to get. its easy to do if you try.

were not that clueless you flirt we will pick up on it, its pretty much if we don’t want to we wont, but if you act like your the best then people will automatically think you are.

but you gota remember there is a fine line between confident and arrogant

whats the difference between confidence and arrogance?
how can u tell?
i don;t want to give the impression im full of myself.

Okay, here’s where it gets complicated. Sorry, Matt, but I have to dissagree. See, I can’t stand it when girls act like they’re not interested when they really are, and then get pissed off when they’re still single three weeks later. To me, that’s just another mind game. It’s deception, no matter how you justify it. And even if it works, if you start a relationship on deception, it’s not likely to go well.

Anonymous wrote:
whats the difference between confidence and arrogance?how can u tell?i don;t want to give the impression im full of myself.

Just be who you are, but don’t shove who you are in anyone’s face.

and make sure you don’t smell bad

Matt123 wrote:
basically all you need to do is yes chat to a lad, always act as if your not interested, be confident believe you are the best and yes everyone dose want you and soon enough they will, dont try to be funny or try to complement. what drives a lad crazy is when a girl flirts but plays hard to get. its easy to do if you try.were not that clueless you flirt we will pick up on it, its pretty much if we don’t want to we wont, but if you act like your the best then people will automatically think you are.but you gota remember there is a fine line between confident and arrogant

Xeno Dragon wrote:
Okay, here’s where it gets complicated. Sorry, Matt, but I have to dissagree. See, I can’t stand it when girls act like they’re not interested when they really are, and then get pissed off when they’re still single three weeks later. To me, that’s just another mind game. It’s deception, no matter how you justify it. And even if it works, if you start a relationship on deception, it’s not likely to go well.

I was about to comment there. i think all guys are different. they like different things.

well, its hard to explain, you can joke around and be confident and actually inside your really not, but those who say the confident things not in a joking way thats arogance.

sorry Xeno Dragon

but what your discribing is what you want not what works… these girls play mind games with you and so you think about them all the time and thats what they want…. its just if your a nice gall if yuo like a guy play around but dont use him if you do which is what im shore Xeno Dragon has been through and yes me to thats what makes you as bad as everyone else and not deserving….

and yeah the little things count make shore you always smell good and look nice

Hm. Maybe I’m weird, but mind games don’t make me think about them nonstop, they make me forget them quickly and avoid them in the future.

“well, its hard to explain, you can joke around and be confident and actually inside your really not, but those who say the confident things not in a joking way thats arogance.”

Actually, that could be true

but why they are playing these games your thinking…. do they like me do they want me why not etc and that is what makes people more interested… yeah you might be diff then

i had trouble with confidence and chatting to galls etc and so i asked on this syte and i got a name of a man called david deangalo or something and this guy has compleatly changed my life with his book… check on lime wire… how to attract a guy or talk to a guy or something like that and download it!!

also being interested in the other person is a good way
to get your intentions clear

TOP bit of sence there

I used to have low self esteem but on the net Im just talking to responsable guys (one went to my school) and im just being flirty. ive also done it in person as well. I really don’t know why.

because your feeling better about yourself

yeah prob. weird though.
its like im not sure if im really behaving me or not.

people would say be yourself which you should but it comes to a point when your just gona get ingnored prtend to be confident just for a while and eventually you will actually get confident

yeh, i noticed that abit. sometimes i worry id get insulted and hurt back from trying ot e confident. its like a betting game thing. a chance game.

welll again thats all about you can only get hurt if you let yourself get hurt. if someone says or dose something the best thing to do is not think about it else your will just get yourself down

and after awhile you have learn to discern whether some guys are worth going after or if they will just hurt you

and the game becomes less chance

whats the point of flirting anyway, is it bad? do most people do it?

There’s nothing wrong with flirting, why would it be bad?

no corse its not bad.. its just having fun i doit all the time now its a way to show effection… and it actually makes people feel better about themselfs

flirting is a way to get to know other people
there might be issues if you start flirting with some ones who dating
but generally i think flirting is good
makes the people feel better more confident
it can brighten a day

im flirting with 3 guys at the same time on the net. one my brothers friend, another who went to my school, and another a sensible lad i got talking on myspace.

That’s a little messed up. Can’t you just pick one?

and how are they acting on it? do you like these lads?
one down side to flirting…. is that sometimes people can start to like you and you dont like them back the same way
if this happens just clarify it.. and say im sorry i just want to be friends

well, if i was going out with one i wud. but im single. i just want a bit of fun.

im one of those lads that got this allllllll the time and in the end i realised that no matter how much i want to love everyone and be everyones friends its just gona end up with people taking advantage…. you gota be number one in your own book put yourself first it sounds horrible but unfortunatly… its how we have to be

u got what all the time?

used, played…. thats why Xneo Dragon is replying how he is because hes in the place i used to be… by the sound of it he got used and played to but hes replying how he is because he dosent want people to do it…. but again its like everyone dose you can only change yourself

Actually, I never got played or used. I never get to that point, because there’s no chance at a relationship once they start playing games.

so have you ever had a relationship? by the sounds of it you seem a little bitter, games are just a way of getting to know each other and having a laugh.

I’ve had a lot of relationships, yes. Only with people smart enough to avoid the mind games.

Where did I say anything that makes me sound bitter? I’m just relaying what I’ve learned, and stating my opinion.

sorry man it just sounded like you where disagreing and saying that nothing will work.. for someone who had no self esteem, thisis how i managed to overcome it

Xeno i think there is a tendency for people to misunderstand you
and classify you as bitter

must be because of your proper grammar skills

Well, at least this time, I got a reason for the accusation. No worries, it’s no big deal.

Matt, I was just pointing out that people have to be careful when they decide to play games. A lot of guys will avoid anyone who plays them, and I happen to be one of those guys.

its the simple thing that everyone is diffrent.. a few will avoid them but some enjoy a challange because they find it to easy to get girls… i know this is how almost everyone i know feels

I see it like this. Let’s say 50% of guys like mind games, and 50% don’t. Now, by playing mind games, you’ll please half the guys you meet, and run off the other half, and that’s the best possibility in that situation. But, by not playing the mind games, you have a shot with all 100%. Why cut your chances in half?

maybe we should just go through the sponsored links at the bottom of the page

there is “Flirting Tips For Guys”
and so on and so forth

some guys like being screwed with
maybe by having the mind games present it makes it all that much more impressive to be dating that person
also it could be some manifestation of some kind of primal hunting urges

that makes sence, but if she dosent flirt with anyone then shes not doing anything anymore? i never said do mind games i said flirt it wont hurt

Matt123 wrote:
basically all you need to do is yes chat to a lad, always act as if your not interested, be confident believe you are the best and yes everyone dose want you and soon enough they will, dont try to be funny or try to complement. what drives a lad crazy is when a girl flirts but plays hard to get. its easy to do if you try.

were not that clueless you flirt we will pick up on it, its pretty much if we don’t want to we wont, but if you act like your the best then people will automatically think you are.

but you gota remember there is a fine line between confident and arrogant

Matt123 wrote:
well, its hard to explain, you can joke around and be confident and actually inside your really not, but those who say the confident things not in a joking way thats arogance.

sorry Xeno Dragon

but what your discribing is what you want not what works… these girls play mind games with you and so you think about them all the time and thats what they want…. its just if your a nice gall if yuo like a guy play around but dont use him if you do which is what im shore Xeno Dragon has been through and yes me to thats what makes you as bad as everyone else and not deserving….

and yeah the little things count make shore you always smell good and look nice

I was going by these. Maybe I read their meanings wrong.

being confident isnt playing games, nithers the rest, hard to get shore that would be the one.. but thats just from my experiance….

i was just simply stateing how I personally found my way out of the same situation shes in

hmm… so if a guy pokes me, takes my stuff, steals my seat, and in the hall he always says ‘your in my way!’ .. then he likes me???

ugh, crap.

the question was ‘Can someone give me some good tips on how I can flirt with guys?’ thats how I would flirt in order to flirt you have to feel good about yourself and if yuo dont then you have to pretend untill you are

whos that aimed at?
that just sounds like hes a bully

Hah, ohhh only to me. =[
but he is so freakin annoying.

are you attracted to this guy?
or is that a diffrent problem?

Matt123 wrote:
always act as if your not interested… what drives a lad crazy is when a girl flirts but plays hard to get.

Matt123 wrote:
these girls play mind games with you and so you think about them all the time and thats what they want…. if yuo like a guy play around

No… I meant these parts, sorry.

hah NO thank you. i like him as a friend, actually no i dont, more like a fellow classmate.
he just bugs me.

well then maybe he likes you
that could be interesting

but hate is closely linked to love
so who knows

ok hands up. i realise if you want to attract all types of guys then dont do this. but you wont be able to attract everyone you need to chose your desired type of lad and the approach this applies to, its simply this girls decision on what type of guy she wants… its more something you need to realise….

ooooohh thats just great.

hah, like how in maybe 1st grade the boys always pick on the girls but only if they like them?? =]

Matt123 wrote:
ok hands up. i realise if you want to attract all types of guys then dont do this. but you wont be able to attract everyone you need to chose your desired type of lad and the approach this applies to, its simply this girls decision on what type of guy she wants… its more something you need to realise….

No worries. I see what you’re saying now.

sorry for not being very clear im a bit deslexic and it takes me a few attemps to get my words out propperly

Like I said, no worries.

be yourself and well everything will fall into place… every now and then maybe dance around be crazy but not over the top… i do this alot… and i have alot of guys that like me when i do it because i dont do it CONSTANTLY and so they dont think its for attention….try it.

what kind of dance though
is it interpretive
or modern

just like crazy being yourself kind of dance