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I’m taller than my boyfriend and homecoming is in two weeks.

I have a short sparkly dress and my mom thinks I should wear heels, but that would make me at least 3 or more inches taller than him. What shoes should I wear?

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Queen Elizatron 4000 offline Verified User (7 years) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Undisclosed Location | 6 years, 8 months ago (4 minutes after post)

You can buy really cute flats with beads and sparkly things on them. If you wear a heal make sure it’s less then 2 inch’s. Tall girls look great in 4 in heels but when their boy is way shorter it makes them look like bean stalks so go with the fancy flats.

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Queen Elizatron 4000 offline Verified User (7 years) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Undisclosed Location | 6 years, 8 months ago (8 minutes after post)

http://www.dyeableshoestore.com/store…

http://www.shoes.com/category.asp?c=W…

What color is your dress? Are you going gold or silver?

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November_Rain offline Verified User (6 years, 9 months) Long Term User Shouts: 29 #
An Unknown Location | 6 years, 8 months ago (2 hours, 17 minutes after post)

Get this. My wife is eight inches taller than me. Yes, you read correctly, eight (8) inches taller. I am five five, she is six two. Ok, that’s only seven inches, so whatever. But still. I stood on a stool at our wedding. You may laugh and point at me now. When she wears heals, she is about 10 or 11 inches above me. My point? Its ok. It works out. It seems strange at first, but it gets ok. You get strange looks sometimes, but…hey. Whatever, right? And you just take your shoes off when you dance. And also, he can gain a couple of inches if he buys the right shoes too!

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Jillian offline Verified User (6 years, 8 months) Long Term User Shouts: 2 #
An Unknown Location | 6 years, 8 months ago (2 hours, 23 minutes after post)

do you really like this guy??
does he really like you??
life is too short, not your boyfriend, life!!

All kidding aside, you can wear flats, he can wear higher shoes OR you both can forget it, the best thing to do is wear a smile on your face and nobody will look any farther. Trust me, have fun, be happy and things will work out for your homecoming!

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monstercake offline Verified User (6 years, 9 months) Long Term User Shouts: 2 #
An Undisclosed Location | 6 years, 8 months ago (3 hours, 24 minutes after post)

psshhh is your boyfriend that self-concious about being that much shorter than his girlfriend?

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i_noe_candiasn_roc offline Unverified User #
An Unknown Location | 5 years, 6 months ago (1 year, 2 months after post)

okay i am a boyy and my girlfriend is taller than me by a few inches is it weird if i danc ewith her and do stuff with her in public?????

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im_amazo offline Unverified User #
An Unknown Location | 5 years, 5 months ago (1 year, 3 months after post)

lol

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im_amazo offline Unverified User #
An Unknown Location | 5 years, 5 months ago (1 year, 3 months after post)

I am 6′3 and my boyfriend is 5′6.5. I am huge and he is puny……very unlikely that we would be together,……but what fun it is…….he more than makes up with his sense of humour and energy.
I publicly lift and carry him and he is cool (n cute)…

If it works for us, it can for others too…

Happy towering over your man!!

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amazon_cassi offline Unverified User #
An Unknown Location | 5 years, 2 months ago (1 year, 6 months after post)

November_Rain your wife is nine inches taller than you. I can tutor you in math if you like! :) anyhoo I am only 5″ taller than my man, but I can carry him around with only one hand, and he doesn’t care a thing in the world if I wear my 6″ heeled boots and dwarf his tiny form by 11″ (see I can add! lol). Yes we get stares and comments, but I consider it an opportunity to educate the poor souls who apparently have no clue how much shallowness and ignorance they expose by pointing out our height difference, as if it wasn’t already obvious. So you see, it only matters if you decide it does, and clearly you’ve already decided that personality and compatible are much more important than a silly thing like height. Wait a while and people your age will catch on! Trust me it gets easier!

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karla_hernande offline Unverified User #
An Unknown Location | 5 years ago (1 year, 8 months after post)

I guess wear awesome flats and tell ur bf to wear tall shoes I know how u feel i have this huge crush on this boy but he is shorter im 5ft 3 and he is like 4 ft8 they need 2 grow more most of the really cute guys r short that really sucks well good luck!

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mxn0108 offline Verified User (4 years, 11 months) Long Term User Shouts: 0 #
An Unknown Location | 4 years, 10 months ago (1 year, 10 months after post)

I’m 18 and still (probably forever) 3 inches shorter than my mom. She wears heels to work, so I know she can see right over me then. It’s not a big deal unless people make it one. I’m still a man.

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K.D.Howell offline Unverified User #
An Unknown Location | 4 years, 9 months ago (1 year, 11 months after post)

My fiance` is 5′4 and I am 5′8. I know it doesn’t seem like much, but we use to get stares quite a bit, because I always used to wear heals. Now, I am an addict of flats, and for our wedding, he’s getting “height increasing shoes for men” that don’t look like they’re height increasing. He’s gaining 4 inches, plus they’re light weight, so he can move around easily. That way, we’ll be the same height, and God forbid, will never have to use a stool. :/ If you want to look into them, just type that in google [height-increasing shoes for men]. If you guys are serious about being together, I would suggest getting one pair of formal height-increasing shoes for him, and you wearing flats. The bonus is that flats don’t kill your feet like heals do! But if you have any doubts about being together, don’t bother. Honestly, homecoming is a big deal at this time in your life, but people will be noticing you more than him, and the night will be history sooner than you realize. I say, in the end, go for what looks the best on you. Plus, guys like being at the boob level anyway! Good luck.

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bryanmcco offline Unverified User #
An Unknown Location | 4 years, 3 months ago (2 years, 5 months after post)

How can I get a girl to a lift&carry me.

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lolyeahrigh offline Unverified User #
An Unknown Location | 4 years, 1 month ago (2 years, 7 months after post)

why does everybody think the guys are the ones self conscious about their height with their tall girlfriends? sure I’m a little self conscious about being short, but if I had a taller girlfriend I wouldn’t care since I already have her,

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lisasm2 offline Unverified User #
An Unknown Location | 4 years ago (2 years, 8 months after post)

iam 5.10 and he only 5.8,when we going out side we get some looks from outside,he hates this difference,in my working hours iam wearing 3 inch heel,but now he likes my height and heel,some time we compare our height infront of mirror that is very funny moments

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pomalomado offline Unverified User #
An Unknown Location | 3 years, 11 months ago (2 years, 9 months after post)

Me and my boyfriend have been dating a while and all tho we are only 15 we love each other. and hes shorter than me. im 5ft 2 and hes 5ft 1 may not sound to diffrent but its quite a lot when you are the taller one, so guys dont worry your gf proberly will worry about height to but it gets much easier. now i really dont care how tall he is. coz hey looks dont matter its all in the perosnality so dont worrry.

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mcleanr offline Unverified User #
An Unknown Location | 3 years, 10 months ago (2 years, 10 months after post)

Been with my gf since i was 14, now im 21. I was 4′11 at the time, she was 5′4. We both thought I’d grow, so it was fine, but I only grew to 5 ft and she shot up to 6 ft, and wears mostly 4-8 inch heels arround me when we go out. It’s ok, I dont mind, except when 12 of her tall girly friends who were all over 5′10″ wore platforms round me on a night out. I felt a bit intimidated then.

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iron-chi offline Unverified User #
An Unknown Location | 3 years, 10 months ago (2 years, 11 months after post)

my boyfriend and just started going out like two months ago. hes 5\4 im 5/6.. its ok so far… but i really love my heals.. i have like twenty pairs!! but im a lil scared bout asking him if i can wear them.. any tips?

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asd offline Unverified User #
An Unknown Location | 3 years, 9 months ago (2 years, 11 months after post)

Enjoy LOVE, enjoy life, life is short!

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s.harknes offline Unverified User #
An Unknown Location | 3 years, 6 months ago (3 years, 2 months after post)

Being the shortest in my family made me the person i am today.Standing at only 5′0 and never to grow another inch has i am now 50.Height didnt bother me has i had good people around me all y friends are great even though i used to always have the odd nickname.I always thought i would never find a women but i did so when i reached 25.My darling wife is obviously taller than me what more could i expect the shorter women didnt want to know so it was their loss anyway.My wife is about 5′8 and we both manage with the height difference we never gave it a thought.We also have 2 sons the eldest is 21 and he is 5′7 then comes another son who is 18 and he is 5′5.Our youngest is a daughter and she is 16 and she is such a darling.What she lacks in height she makes up for in personality she is 4′10 now and i would like it so much if she could gain a few more inches.She says she is okay about it has she is in good company being short has there are 2 of her friends that are both under 5′0 as well.If me or my daughter are in the kitchen and we cant reach something high the chairs in the kitchen have to move to give us a boost.Luckily when my wife hears the chairs going she in in like Flint and helps us.I think the boys find it frustrating not being overily tall and both are accepting their heights now.We all have things in life that we dont like about ourselves for most of the people it is their height.

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s.harknes offline Unverified User #
An Unknown Location | 3 years, 6 months ago (3 years, 2 months after post)

For me having my husband the same height is wonderful.I mean the only time i am taller than him is when i wear my heels.Barefoot we are both 5′4 i know it is rather short for a guy but who cares.We are also lucky enough to have a son who is 5′7 and our daughter who is 5′5.I cant help it when we go out and i chuck on a pair of heels i mean i am still shorter than our son anyway.Just being able to see in each others eyes is great.I wouldnt change him for the world.

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killahkrissyx offline Unverified User #
An Unknown Location | 3 years, 5 months ago (3 years, 3 months after post)

my boyfriend is shorter than i am. At first i was hesitant to like someone who was shorter than i was, but then i noticed height doesnt matter if you truly like someone. The height is just something you have to look past, and accept. If he grows, he grows. If he doesnt, dont stop loving him because of his heigh. If when your with him, he makes you feel like a one of a kind girl, then you should be with him. I wouldnt change my boyfriend one bit, i love him with all my heart.

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jhancoc offline Unverified User #
An Unknown Location | 3 years, 5 months ago (3 years, 3 months after post)

i absolutely HATE being taller than my boyfriend! i feel so awkward standing next to him and hugging him, since he is at almost boob height. i still love him but i just wish he would grow, a lot! we are only 13 so im guessing he has a lot of growing to do even though his family is short too

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camluva1 offline Unverified User #
An Unknown Location | 3 years, 5 months ago (3 years, 3 months after post)

okay everybody, im a guy and my girlfriend is 4 inches taller than me. when people make fun of me, i just tell them that i like being shorter than her because my face is in her boobs

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luziphociar offline Unverified User #
An Unknown Location | 3 years, 2 months ago (3 years, 6 months after post)

Lol…

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gruck2 offline Verified User (2 years, 11 months) Long Term User Shouts: 0 #
An Unknown Location | 2 years, 11 months ago (3 years, 9 months after post)

my wife thinks iam shrinking and it appears that way she dwarfs me more each year

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daphneboykin1 offline Unverified User #
An Unknown Location | 2 years, 10 months ago (3 years, 10 months after post)

Ok, I am going to my boyfriend’s house later, and I am like 8 inches taller than him….I am meeting his family for the first time. His brothers are going to be there too. I feel huge….I am very skinny and tall….but I still feel big around him…what should I do?

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Deweya offline Unverified User #
An Unknown Location | 2 years, 9 months ago (3 years, 11 months after post)

Well…you could wear flats that is what I do.

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fatima_01 offline Unverified User #
An Unknown Location | 2 years, 9 months ago (3 years, 11 months after post)

im like 1 or 2 inches taller than my bf.. but hes fit! and i really love him, i usually wear flats and hes usually in shoes and stuff so we work out at abt the same height, at the end of the day, its all stereotype and culture differences of what were meant to find attractive, but love short guys i dont ever remember me lookign at a tall guy adn thinking tht hes good looking! lol anyway wear what u look nice in, adn if he doesnt mind or isnt self concious, who gives a crap what others say? aslong as u look hot and hes happy :D

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ravenclawlove offline Verified User (2 years, 9 months) Long Term User Shouts: 0 #
An Unknown Location | 2 years, 9 months ago (3 years, 11 months after post)

Ok, so here’s what you should do. Get ******

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love2tal offline Unverified User #
An Unknown Location | 2 years, 8 months ago (4 years after post)

i ma 5′7 and my bf is 5′6 at first i was a little unconftable with our hight diffrence and i would always try to bend and sit down so people would not c it but he told me that he loved me bieng tall that i looked hot so now i walk really pround next to him i i dont care if anyone says anything i ussually werar flats so u cant really tell that um taller and i love him and we are planning to get married :)!!!!!!!

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lmfao_8 offline Unverified User #
An Unknown Location | 2 years, 7 months ago (4 years, 1 month after post)

hmm, you should wear flats. depends what your dress looks like.(:

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Pianowhiz29 offline Unverified User #
An Unknown Location | 2 years, 5 months ago (4 years, 3 months after post)

Yeah my boyfriend is shorter than me by like 3 inches or so…but I guess that doesn’t really matter it’s all about who he is and if we truly love eachothrr. Were both 15 but he’s a sophomore and im a freshman
So I’m HOPING that he grows taller than me someday!! I would lovvveeeee that!!!!!:):):):)P

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moniqueschneider9 offline Verified User (2 years, 5 months) Long Term User Shouts: 0 #
An Unknown Location | 2 years, 5 months ago (4 years, 3 months after post)

I totally feel all of you.. Except my story is a little different. I am the same height as my fiance and I am so self conscious it is not even funny!! I know once I start to set in my maturity I will be fine and not care. I have really mad my fiance feel like crap which I hate, because every time I wear heels I make him feel short by saying man look how tall I am.. And of course you know the first time I build up enough courage to go out in my heels.. Some people are hella looking and staring at me and making me feel so uncomfortable!! So I have not worn heels since.. Which I am really sad about because I love heels.. They make me feel sexy! So we will see I hope my problem improves because I know my Fiance is the one.. we will be married next year!

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kemb offline Unverified User #
An Unknown Location | 2 years, 5 months ago (4 years, 3 months after post)

my boyfriend is 5ft 5″ and im 5ft 11″ we love it! he loves thinking that his girl is a model… and ofcourse because we are at school we get the stupid comments…. who care’s….. who decided in history tha the man had to be taller? i love it and most of the time he wears his D C’s and that adds 3 inches so then its not so bad :)

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mashed_iri offline Verified User (2 years, 4 months) Long Term User Shouts: 0 #
An Unknown Location | 2 years, 4 months ago (4 years, 4 months after post)

I’m 6 foot and my boyfriend is 5′ 9″. I’ve always been taller than my boyfriends and don’t know why people think it’s so strange. No one bats and eyelid when a guy is taller than a girl. Wear heels! They make your legs look great. If people are going to stare you might as well look gorgeous and confident while their doing it. Insecurity is blinding, so stop worrying what people think!

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siavashww offline Unverified User #
An Unknown Location | 2 years, 2 months ago (4 years, 6 months after post)

I am 5′2″ and my wife 5′6″. she loves high heels and somtime she wear 4″ heels.
I love her.

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lps9 offline Unverified User #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 10 months ago (4 years, 11 months after post)

Ok; just be yourself and wear flats if you’d prefer(: but everyone’s shared their story and I’m gonna share mine. My boyfriend and I are freshman and he is 4′10″ and a half and I am 5′7″ an 3/4ths (I’m Swedish) and we get so many stares. Truthfully, it’s hard for me because I’m new to it, the height difference thing. Any tips for me? Because that’s a big height difference and I dont know if he’d ever want me to pick him up or carry him.. lol but btw; we have been together for a year and a half but the height issue has just kicked in.. Help? And we do love each another, not the issue.

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mariahcpaig offline Unverified User #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 8 months ago (5 years after post)

well my boy firend is like 3 11 i am 5 3 its really weird so it just depends on how u feel

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beauteousmistake offline Unverified User #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 2 months ago (5 years, 6 months after post)

Honestly, height shouldn’t matter. I’m in the same exact situation. My boyfriend and I have been together for six months… I’m 5.10 and he’s 5.8. He doesn’t mind l that I’m taller, even if I wear 5inch heels, but *I* feel uncomfortable about it, so mostly I only wear flats. If it is something that bothers you and not just him then you can ask him to buy shoes with some heel. My boyfriend actually wore platform boots when I first met him and he was still shorter. Guys grow, my boyfriend doubts he will, but in the end it doesn’t matter as long as you are happy with eachother. Don’t worry about what people think, if they bring it up just be like “yeah, so? Im in love” love’s more important than image ;) hope this helped. If not, sorry. Lots of luck to all you taller women :)

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rogelio_10 offline Unverified User #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 2 months ago (5 years, 6 months after post)

i am tall and my boyfriend is 4,7 and im 6′9 tall what doo ii doo?:/

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d.hemsle offline Unverified User #
An Unknown Location | 10 months ago (5 years, 10 months after post)

Me and my husband are similar in height.I think there is about 2 inches in it for me.
I have never minded him being a little shorter than me.I am 5′5 and he is 5′3.In my family i was the shortest and so was he.I generally dont wear heels around him has i think it looks better.I mean what is 2 inches anyway not much.So we are good with it and so alot of other people.

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ahmadi.mahdi888 offline Unverified User #
An Unknown Location | 3 months, 2 weeks ago (6 years, 5 months after post)

i`m 5`6.5 and weight 97 lbs i`m boy, 28 years

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