Love help: Well my girlfriend broke up with me about 2 months ago. - Help.com

Hey I think that you are so right about that chick. I know that im just 15 but trust me tht kind of chick justs wants you to be on her side so that way if she cant find anyone else, she’ll have someone else to turn to and have around.Shes just like a player and the truth is thats whats been happening to me, jut like whats happening to you.I ve been goin through the same thing.Something about her that that gos wit hme is taht i cant also stay friends with the guys that io go out with either.Its kind of weird bucuz after when either iof us breaks up with the other doesnt matter who, I cant stay friends with them even when i try. The one taht i have stayed friends with isthis guy that i love,But still its **** hard bucuz he knows that i still love him with all my heart and i know that he still feels something for me even when he denies it. So yeah Your right about that chick.

well from a man with experiance i will tell you that it hurts when you break up you still like her and she doesnt feel the same. i had a girlfriend i have known for 6 years we dated for close to a year and she broke up with me. she didnt like me but i am still head over heels for the girl you have to learn to let go! i had too it is hard and it feels like someone has a hand around your heart and is slowly ripping it out but you have to move on you are wasting time and energy over something that you cant change. 1+x=2 no matter what way you look at it x always =1 you cant just make it equal 2 go after these new girls you will find one that is mch better than your old one the odds are in your favor man good luck man
JB

I think your right. she is keeping you around just in case she cant find someone else. your her back up plan on the back burner. let it go move on. you never want to be someones back up. your either it or not theres no inbetween.

I’m in exactly the same situation as you, its been 8 months since i officialy broke up with my X and shes been dragging me along for 6 of them. It hurts like hell but i’m trying my best to get over her and i suggest you do the same. Even now when i look and talk to her i swear i can see the little spark in her eyes, but is it worth the effort?

I wish i could tell you! Lets hope theres someone out there who can put us both on track.

to me it sounds like she wants her cake and wants to eat it to. she still wants a relationship with you but she doesnt want the attachements. if i were you i would ignore her because thats the only way you can get over her and get on with your life. if you keep living like this then it wil lbe like she is stringing you along until she is ready. ive been there and been through it. it hurts but you gotta move on. if it was meant to be then it will be.

i have to absolutely agree with andreamarie

WOW, this sounds SOO much like what i went through a few months back. He was dragging me on. He wanted to just have some fun before actually settling down. He kept saying pretty much the same stuff and she is saying to you. He talked to other girls all the time, went to the movies/dinner with them, and even slept with 2. It wasnt untill he saw another guy starting to make me happy that he snapped out of it. He saw that i wasnt going to wait around forever for him to grow up and be ready to be in a real relationship. In my heart though, i was willing to wait for him forever. But it wasnt fair to me to do that. And its not fair to you. Try to date other people. See if there is someone else out there that you can have a relationship with. She MIGHT see that she is losing you and want you back. OR, you might find that there is something better for you. Either way, in time, you will find happiness. :) I hope i helped…

Hello, it seems that you are still very much in love with your ex. If she broke up with you, she had more time to think about your relationship together and she’s decided she wanted other things. That’s the clue you need to get. She’s decided that she needed to move on and explore other things. Stay friends is only healthy, if you are both mature, and you BOTH decided that you wanted to move on, no grudges, no blame. Or you are both dating other people and you are in stable relationships already. It’s not the case. When there’s a dubious situation, like text messaging out of nowhere, talking about your days and what’s going on in ur lives, it’s a clear message that she wants you close because she got used to have you in her life, and in 2 months, she wasn’t able to replace her “bestfriend”. But don’t jump to the conclusion that she is still in love with you. She may be, or she may be not. When people break up, and then want you back, it’s clear that they themselves don’t know what they want. They might want you back for few hours, weeks, months, but the real issue is still there… why they broke up with you for the first time. One word of advice: it’s their problem, it’s their question they have to ask themselves, it’s their mess. She need to know what she wants from her life, from you, etc. For now, you just need closure. You need to come clean, and be very honest with her, if you really love someone, you don’t play games or be shy and bottle up your feelings. Come clean, and say what you are feeling about this whole thing. Say that you love her, still does, but it’s difficult to be friends, because it’s messing with your head, your friendships, etc. If she is a nice girl, and understand your point, she will make her decision. Either ask to come back because she really loves you, or give you space and not mess with your head. If you know each other for more than 10 years, she and you can deal this in more open way. Good luck!

I think eventually she will want you back, but she just wants to get all the partying or whatever over with. When she’s ready to settle down she will come back to you if you keep in slight contact with her now.

Well you might be right about her but to make sure hag out with her for a couple days and it continues then sit down witha cup of coffe or tea and tell how you feel show from yourside. don’t let her do all the pulling. If love her then give it time love is always a long ride but it’s everlasting happiness