boyfriend help: ok i need serious advice….me and my boyfriend have been broken up for 2 1/2 months he broke up with me on our 2 year anniversary. - Help.com

ok i need serious advice…

.me and my boyfriend have been broken up for 2 1/2 months he broke up with me on our 2 year anniversary. He says he needs time we still see each other and say i love you. He has yet to give me an answer on why we broke up…i dont want him to drag me along though. He tells his freinds that we are not getting back together..but me and his freinds never got along…some of them now know we still hang out. i KNOW he still really loves me but i also know he wants time bc hes going through some things…its his last year of college…all of his friends from highschool were always able to stay close and now some of them are moving along adn growing up. I know he wants to go to bars and what not bc he jsut turned 22, and im only 20. Although how do i know if im just being dragged along or if he really means it. It seems like if we continue on the way we ahve been we will be on this break forever bc hes taking the cake and eating it too. And im letting him…does anyone think that if i cut off ties with him, that he will be able to figure things out better and realize what he is giving up with me

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Jeff offline Verified User (7 years, 6 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
Gamla Stan, 26, SE | 6 years, 8 months ago (43 minutes after post)

Ugh, two.5 months of lala land? Time for the ultimatum. Don’t let this crap drag out any longer. You obviously still love him and want the relationship to continue on, it’s time for him to make his decision.

Tell him to either commit, or pack up and go. Don’t toture yourself by waiting on mr. undecided.

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DeeJay offline Verified User (6 years, 9 months) Long Term User Shouts: 22 #
An Unknown Location | 6 years, 8 months ago (1 hour, 19 minutes after post)

Its time for you to move on. just let it go, if its meant to be he’ll be back.

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Lilli offline Verified User (6 years, 8 months) Long Term User Shouts: 2 #
AU | 6 years, 8 months ago (4 hours, 18 minutes after post)

I think that it is unfair of your (ex)boyfriend to put you in this situation, especially as there was no reason cited for breaking up with you. You put it correctly when you said that he was taking his cake and eating it too. He clearly wants the benefits of having someone around to boost his ego up when he needs it (you) but also not having any strong commitment to that person. If I was in this situation I think that I would just tell him he can take it or leave it. It is putting a phenomenal amount of strain on you being so uncertain about your relationship. Perhaps you could try telling him that you don’t want to hear from him for a week, giving him plenty of time to sort out whether he REALLY wants to be with you, or if there is some underlying issue as to why he CAN’T be with you, and tell him to make his decision. Good luck!

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