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mkate11
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Situation: You really REALLY helped someone who was

kind of/sort of a friend out and right after they get want they want they comepltely blow off what you did.

Should you confront them about not giving you any thanks? Or just consider it a selfless good deed?

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Xx_physco_treehugger offline Verified User (2 years, 3 months) Long Term User Shouts: 6 #
Tyler, TX, US | 2 years ago (1 minute after post)

consider it a selfless good deed. Give yourself thanks. Know that you did a good thing. Dont worry abotu them. They are just rude and not very manered

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Peekay offline Verified User (2 years) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
Los Angeles, CA, US | 2 years ago (4 minutes after post)

Personally, I would consider it a good, selfless deed. It will make you a more humble person. And, somewhere along the road, whether you personally tell them or someone else does, that person will find out about it if they don’t already know about it and it will have that much more impact.
But I guess it’s the specific situation that denotes the specific response and outcome. If you feel as though they really should give you credit for it, go for it. But I wouldn’t push it on them too hard for fear of looking aggressive.

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Shawno*i'mback!* offline Verified User (2 years) Long Term User Shouts: 4 #
Seguin, TX, US | 2 years ago (17 minutes after post)

Xx_physco_treehugger wrote:
consider it a selfless good deed. Give yourself thanks. Know that you did a good thing. Dont worry abotu them. They are just rude and not very manered

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Xx_physco_treehugger offline Verified User (2 years, 3 months) Long Term User Shouts: 6 #
Tyler, TX, US | 2 years ago (17 minutes after post)

thank you rocko!

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mkate11 offline Verified User (2 years, 2 months) Long Term User Shouts: 3 #
Lubbock, TX, US | 2 years ago (18 minutes after post)

Thank all of you very much!

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Xx_physco_treehugger offline Verified User (2 years, 3 months) Long Term User Shouts: 6 #
Tyler, TX, US | 2 years ago (19 minutes after post)

anytime ☺

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sherryn offline Verified User (2 years) Long Term User Shouts: 27 #
Brookdale, 08, AU | 2 years ago (54 minutes after post)

It is still a good deed that you did. That someone doesnt appreciate it, and has the bad manners not to at least thank you, doesnt negate what you did for them. Dont let it stop you helping people.

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cuteskwirro offline Verified User (2 years, 8 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Undisclosed Location | 2 years ago (4 hours, 22 minutes after post)

I agree with most of what everyone else says… you should feel good about what you did to help that person whether or not they thank you. The happiness from helping others is enough for me, the thanks is bonus. what do you think?

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mkate11 offline Verified User (2 years, 2 months) Long Term User Shouts: 3 #
Lubbock, TX, US | 1 year, 12 months ago (20 hours, 50 minutes after post)

I totally agree… but it’s hard at the same time. I got my ex boyfriend back together with his girlfriend so their almost wasn’t any happiness in it. Hah, I hate to sound rude by saying that but… it was almost painful. I’m glad they’re happy… but it still hurt that right after it happened they blew me off. That’s what I get for helping an ex. haha.

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Xx_physco_treehugger offline Verified User (2 years, 3 months) Long Term User Shouts: 6 #
Tyler, TX, US | 1 year, 12 months ago (20 hours, 51 minutes after post)

lolsz yea. but at least you made a difference and one day something good will happen to you just becuz you didnt make a foolish mistake and confront them about it.

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Unnamed Desire offline Verified User (2 years, 2 months) Long Term User Shouts: 7 #
Miami, FL, US | 1 year, 8 months ago (3 months, 1 week after post)

i think you should consider it a selfless good deed

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