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How do I help my depressed ex-girlfriend I need help.

Me and my girlfriend of 2 and a half years decided to just date around a month ago. Today she tells me she wants to break up because shes been depressed for about a month. She said she doesnt want to put a wall between us which is what she is doing to everyone. So we sud breakup. She is going to therapy. I don’t want this and I fought her on it but she insisted. How can I help her through this?

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hugsandkisses201 0 #
CA | 5 years, 5 months ago (6 minutes after post)

just support her decision, be there for her ..and tell her you’ll be there for her through what shes going through..
thats the most you can do in a situation like that..
if you force a relationship on her she might just push away more…
just be sure that you’re very clear with how you feel.. cause obviously communication is a big thing..and thats what tends to worsen depression is a lack of communication..
just be there for her and express that you are…

Peaceon2 #
An Unknown Location | 5 years, 5 months ago (10 minutes after post)

Give her space and be there for her when she needs you.

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ksk #
Buffalo, NY, US | 5 years, 5 months ago (12 minutes after post)

Its just so **** hard. Im a wreck right now.

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Neo Johan 2 #
Hamilton, ON, CA | 5 years, 5 months ago (20 minutes after post)

Ksk, pull yourself together. Tell her you will be there for her whatever decision she makes and if she ever needs to talk to come to you. Be strong, for her.

She is going through a tough time and the only way she will get through it is with support.

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barbyman 1 #
An Unknown Location | 5 years, 5 months ago (40 minutes after post)

cant you tell she wants a break ,that means she wants to be alone …

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ksk #
Buffalo, NY, US | 5 years, 5 months ago (44 minutes after post)

The only people that know are me and her parents. She lives in nyc and goes to school in buffalo. Im worried that since its over ill hardly see her and she will do something stupid. My greatest fear is of her killing herelf.

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Neo Johan 2 #
Hamilton, ON, CA | 5 years, 5 months ago (46 minutes after post)

Ksk, be there for her. Maybe not romantically but in other ways. You love her right? Tell her what she has. Don’t let her kill herself. Explain to her that she has much to much to live for.

If that doesn’t work, show her. Show her the time of her life. Show her what her depression hides.

Be safe, and I wish you luck.

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Avowaren 2 #
An Unknown Location | 5 years, 5 months ago (9 hours, 13 minutes after post)

Just talk stay close but not to close tell her that you are there for he ran dif anything happens you will always be there for her

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skiljor #
Jacksonville, NC, US | 5 years, 4 months ago (4 weeks after post)

HugsandKisses201,

I just wanted to say thank you because of what you said about being there for the other person, and about how when we try to force relationships onto people that is far too often pushes them away. I am in that exact predicament as I speak. I fell in love with a lady and I expressed my desire to marry her much too fast, and as a result, she walked away and has never looked back - in fact, I was warned that I would be arrested if I sent her any more gifts or showed up at her office, again, by the security head at her work. So, after a severe two month depression, I’m now back in the land of the living. I will send her an email on Christmas Day and I will simply tell her that I’m here for her and that I miss her. You have given me much needed hope and even a sense of healing as far as this lady is concerned, but I know now that it can go either way. She either will or she won’t. I love her, still, but I cannot tell her that. I’m just going to tell her that I’m still here for her, and I will wish her a Merry Christmas. That can’t hurt. I’m still hopeful, but I am realistic. I just wanted to say thank you because your post up there has really given me some mental tools to work with, thank you.

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pumaprin 0 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 7 months ago (3 years, 10 months after post)

Good day. About a month and a half ago my Fiance of 1 year 4 months left me. She has been diagnosed with depression and has been living with it for the last 7 years. About January she started getting help. Our whole relationship started going down the drain as I started my own bussnes and left my job to do so! I also started playing sports again and she is not interested in the sport I’m playing although she watched almost every match we played. Most of my time and effort went into my bussnes and sport and I stoped being there for her when she needed me,we couldn’t go out any more because my bussenes strugled and income was minimal,also I do not have my drivers licence yet so someone else had to take us. She also started a rock band as it is her passion and she got a new drummer for the band. We had alot of fights over the drummer until I pushed her to far. She went to see the phycologist thats helping her and after that she told me its over,but she still loves me and misses me when I’m not there! She is now going out to the movies with this guy and spending alot of time with him,she also told me they are kisseng,but after a few days she would tel her mom she stil loves me and cares for me! She is trying to push me away because she says it hurts when she thinks of me. She also never had fun with friends,she didn’t have many friends and she also says now she needs to spend time with friends and chat with friends! Before we broke up she asked for space as it felt like I was smothering her,the depression gave her that feeling! I realy truly love her and I wan’t to spend the rest of my life with her and I know she loves me to but she says she doesn’t know of the future because she needs to focus on herself to get better to stop the depression!
PLS help me I wan’t her back and no one I speak to seems to know what to do!

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