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that gets me thinking now. ha ha ha! i’ll come back to this post when i know what to answer. lol *lilies starts counting people who really care about her. (haha!)

Not true for me.

NO, I would say many people care about us. That is the problem in our society, it tells us that we are meaningless but we really are important. I saw a movie today, a very good one, its called “The Human Experience” it hasnt been released yet but you can find bits on youtube and it explains that we are indeed important. And there is the Christmas movie, the name escapes me, but the one with Mr. bailey who is gonna jump off the bridge because he thinks he is worthless and Clarence the angel shows him he is important.

I hope I don’t understand when I’m old, that would suck! The movie is “It’s a beautiful World” I love that movie.

My pleasure to be of assistance.

It’s a beautiful Life - I think that is the movie

That is old school- but an awesome flick never the less!

many people care about the global whole but as an individual no i dont think so, ive found its the people you think didnt care about you that actually do ,but ill have more to say on this later .need time to contemplate a reasonable response,thanks Qzzzz

to care is to have compassion ,be loving,considerate ,understanding,helpful,willing to assist no matter what the circumstance of an individual or his personality,which is rare to find in people of today

God bless the few!

is very true, sorry to say..sure, lots of people care about people, but in an abstract, we are all humans, kind fo way.

Look, I have 100 people who say they are my friends (in the real world) and 40 people who are my Family (est as of 2007), and I know 200 more who’s life I have touched and helped in my home town…

My stroke was not kept a secret,,,it was a step away from being front page news..in the Month total I was trapped in that hospital, after almost dying, how many of these people came to see me, to offer me some companionship, some hope, some love?

5..5 people..how many called me..other than the 5, 2 others..of the five, how many came to see me more than once? 2

this county is about 15 miles square..and the hospital I was in is in the center of town…every SINGLE person I know passes it on thier commute, with the exception of 4 of the 5 people who came to see me..

I will continue to try to love my fellow man, as God would prefer, but I know who gets the extra from my plate when I am rich.

Man I did not mean that to sound so bitter, ha ha

I have to agree with you. Unfortunately we have become a society where it is me first then you second and only if it is convenient (I think I spelled that wrong!)..lol.But there are a few out there that truely care and they should count the most.

yeah, i think very few are willing to do what it takes to help. but when you meet someone like that, you know there a true friend.

I have one very good friend and we have been friends for 30 yrs. We never demand anything from each other but we are there for each other when we need to be. I love her with all my heart.

ha ha..My best friend, who had just had a baby with his new wife the month before my stroke, came to see me at least 7 times in the hospital

we played football together in High School, and have been best friends for ..my God, 20 years.

If ya don’t know, it was his father that took me in when I was homeless..like father like son, I guess.

Now that I am mostly recovered, all my friends and family are crawling out of the woodwork..now, ha ha

I know I seen the worst side of my family when my grandfather died. It made me sick. I could never understand that, still can’t.

my idea of people caring is this… if they do.. that is great… if they dont… **** em’.. i dont need them in my life…

I am 45, and I know mostly people care about themselves. I am a caregiver, thats my job, and one day I was terribly run off my feet at work, didnt even have the time to take my breaks, nothing. There were many complaints from the cared for ones regarding my slow response to their calls. I explained to one of them, “Im sorry, but Im so busy today, I havent even even had my coffee break.” The response was, “So what? Arent you here to look after me?”.

Unfortunately that’s true. :(

Yes, it is, I mean REALLY care, like would visit you in hospital more then once if you were severely disfigured.

right. and this mean no loud friends. this means just someone who’d listen to our silence. :(

I think it’s true, but it’s ok that it’s true because the few people in our lives that do truly care are generally the people that we truly care about.

You know when I’m in a store with my kids and someone shoves them to get around them without saying to little words EXCUSE ME I tell my kids don’t move for them because my kids always say sorry because they didn’t see them. These are two little words that can move mountains why can’t people use them?

So I came into this post kinda late, but I think I might be able to add some spice to the sauce so here goes.
No truer statement has been made, my friend, and the key phrase you use is “very few.” We live in a world and a society that is by NATURE dog-eat-dog. To care about someone is to have compassion, to be compassionate to someone is to love them in a way.
Society beats down those that show compassion. Is there a spot on your tax return that says “How much money did you loan other people this year, approx.” Yes there’s more to caring than money, it was just an allusion, but here’s my point. To care about someone you must give of yourself. Whether its your love, your time, or your money/property it costs you in some way. In a perfect world the cost would be written off in some way, or more ideally you would have infinite reserves.
Today especially more and more, people are raised to take care of number one. Unfortunately I am officially a member of a generation that takes the easy way out 99/100. Most people I meet my age have been through divorce, unsteady careers, and some form of abuse (whether self-inflicted or from others). If you don’t care about yourself, why would anyone else care about you?
As technology makes our world seem smaller and smaller, people find it easier to just not think about that which hurts them (and therefore costs them) and look the other way. Is this right? Hell no. Does it happen? Everyday, unfortunately. I feel for you and your experience AKSLOGISTIC. Been through something similiar myself.
I’m pretty sure now in life that caring for someone means you must hurt for them as well. Sharing in emotional situations, helping a friend move out of their home, they all hurt in some way. Those that give all of themself are left with nothing. Some of the nicest people I have met were dirt poor. They would give you the last morsel of their food out of courtesy. I have met very few wealthy people in life that I wouldnt want to roll downhill in a well used portable-lavoratory. Those I encounter are for the most part arrogant, cold hearted inside (although of course, they lie to the rest of the world with pseudokindness), and would rather get on about their buisiness and let a door close in your face than give you 5 seconds time. I’m not trying to generalize here, but stereotypes exist because people perpetuate them.
So unfortunately Qzzzz I must choose answer A. I have helped personally many people throughout my life, even when I had little or nothing to help with. I have sacrificed and endured under the assumption that one day, it all will be returned in life. Today I have nothing to show for it all except a few people who will smile at me and say hi on a sunny day (they all seem to be inside on the rainy ones). That kinda sucks, and it certainly doesn’t motivate anyone to continue caring for anybody.

I understand that more than you ever know…lol…I have very deepset morals and values and I’m not willing to compromise them for anyone and that includes jobs that I have had and been fired from because of my stance. Do I care yes I do because my clients have suffered because I refused to bend. Believe me I have been called a *****, accused of stealing, harrassed because I won’t bend and I make them fire me. It’s my own personal way of fighting the system I guess. I was taught that when you take on a job you give 100% of yourself and that is what I have always done and somehow it gets me into trouble..Such is life…lol..

What’s sad to me is the whole idea that a person doing a supposed act of kindness would expect to be compensated. Shouldn’t the act of kindness be the reward itself? A sincere act of kindness feels good.

Vickier, I understand your frustration about rude people, but isn’t telling your kids not to move teaching them to be rude. It’s still as simple as when I was a kid, two wrongs don’t make a right. Just because someone else is rude doesn’t make it alright for me to be the same way. The thing is people aren’t taught the basics of manners anymore and that to me is sad.

No it is not being rude when they are standing there unaware that someone is behind them and they can’t say two simple words but just decide to push or shove them out of the way. All of my kids who are grown now all say excuse me if they want to get around someone they don’t shove or push. That is the rude part.

do you know what it is? no one cares about anyone if they have ever met them. of all the people you know, how many truly care about you, and think about your problems before they close their eyes for sleep. no one. we can think they do, hope they do, but we can’t change WHAT they do. no one cares about anyones feelings, but only for there own. everyone gets something out of it. somone’s bag split, all their personal belongings are spilled over, the helpers GET the benefit of feeling good, what the poor woman now had a split bag, and is carrying a load of belongings.
What did the helper do except fill the woman’s hands?

i think it is cultural, yes people care but to what extent? Caring in itself is selfish as you can see from above people who cared once expect it to be returned and if it was not it ended the caring. We like to think that if we care about someone else then they will automatically care back. This however is not true..we care about our kids, right? do we expect them to care back, or if they don’t does it stop us from caring? i would like to say no but this is not the case. see survival is everything, in order to survive we must have people in our lives to help support us. Problem is we no longer need other people to survive. so we don’t automatically think to care about them. Our world is full of people who are caught up in their own lives and we fail to be involved, if we were involved more we would care more. Or if we needed to care. example the guy down the road needs help to fix his car, so you help but your not doing it for him, your doing it because you may need to ask a favor of him in the future. Our society was built like this. But now people have money to get the car fixed in a garage and so on so we don’t have or need that connection anymore. this is what Capitalism is doing to us…

In our own society women used to gather in the local shops and talk or gossip. This builds our view of what is socially acceptable. I remember walking to the shops with my nan all those years ago and it took the whole morning to get up the road and back!(with the amount of people we ran into on the way) As a culture we don’t talk anymore, I was in the shop the other day and people are just in a hurry everybody thinking their time is more valuable than the next. I had a headache by the time i came home and i’m sure everyone else did too. also because i overheard these stories of the community it opened my eyes to alot of things. Our kids today are missing out on that. Sometimes i wish we were a closer community.

I miss those days too.

thats not true your family relatives cousins and friends care about you

=P just wanted to make it clear that I didn’t mean you should EXPECT something in return for an act of kindness or caring for another person. What I meant was that by not recieving anything in return and because a person doesn’t have an infinite amount of emotions, an infinite amount of time or an infinite amount of money, the more caring you are about people and the more giving of yourself, the less you are left with in the end. I learned the hard way that giving the shirt off your back to someone in need means you’re going to be very cold afterwards. An act of kindness IS rewarding in of itself (emotionally). But at the end of the day, no matter how kind you are or how much you care for so many people, you still have yourself to take care of and the pot is that much emptier. You can’t sacrifice yourself totally for others your entire life (except special situations, like missionaries). Eventually it costs you yours. In this dog eat dog world (which is only natural competition at work) sometimes you need to draw the line to save yourself, and caring for others too much can often compromise how much you care for yourself.

I am so sorry you are going through this, really.

the big Q is deactivated. i am sorry Q for what happened.

Why was he deactivated? Does anyone know.

i dont know

I don’t know either, but have been sort of weary to bring it up.

yeah

Didn’t read everyone’s responses but you’ve been in a prophetic mood lately. What is really going on? We’re here for you.

Just making a post under my old name, Qzzzz

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cotton!!! :)

Sigh, I can argue untrue :) - but I can guess that what happens is that those acts of SHOWING that care can get lost in the mix of life. That is when people have to step it up if they really do care. Likely transcend those things to reach someone.