Love help: I’m married with 2 kids, I’m madly in love with someone - Help.com

find good in your husband

I only see you mention your kids in the first line, how would this effect them, and your marriage will never get better if you are cheating.

okay so here is some advice you said, “I feel so much more connected to him and our personalities compliment each other so much better then my husband and I. But I don’t want to try with my husband, I don’t have any desire to. How do I know I’m not really crazy? “

so i want to say that your fam. is werid and that i support you, and that also that taking care of your kids is what comes second
what comes frist ( in a ture marrige, please don’t report me when i say this) is sxe
and that is what heard from dr.Phil (a t.v. show)
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sometimes people grow apart. if your having a relationship with the new guy i would recommend separating from your husband until you figure out what it is you want. also depending on how old your kids are i would sit down and talk to them about what it too. you have to do what makes you happy. just pray about it and see what happens

i agree with countrybaby, you have nothing to offer to your husband anymore, so why stick around?? your kids will understand if they see you trully happy with someone else. i can see that your husband cares for you since he said he would try and change but its not really up to him anymore if you already made a decision

joseph that makes no sence to me at all

ok hold the phone! don’t get me wrong, I think it’s good you want advice on this. However, not sure that help.com (no offence to the site) is the best place for the final answer. you might need to talk to a professional or something.
please please think about the children. they will suffer greatly if you get seperated from your husband BUT if you seperate on good terms and stay friends or something so the kids and still hang out with both of you and not be in the middle of a fight, that is lots better than you cheating on your husband and then it ending badly. what kind of relationship do you have with the kids? what kind of relationship does Dad have with them??

Your relationship with your husband is one thing. Your relationship with this other guy is another. Don’t let one affect the other. If your marriage is going poorly, yes, consider leaving him. But don’t make that decision in haste. On the other hand, don’t leave your husband for this other man. More than 90% of second marriages that started from an affair fail.

i also agree with singhor
if you what a professtional answer this would not be the best site to listen to

Excellent advice, AAA+++

qzeezenife wrote:
you could ask any old couple that has been married for 40 plus years, they have fallen in and out of love plenty of times over the years. what make their marrages last is that they just give it time. I have been married for 6 years, have 2 kids and have had my temptations. What I realized is that I knew that I was supposed to marry my husband after 1 week of dating, a year later we married. I had to remember that. He’s was and still is the only person who really knows me, but “I, I, I” had to realize that I was the one who shut myself out.
also, I came from a broken home. All I think about with my parents is that they’re lazy and stupid they couldn’t even take the time to try to work it out. They just gave up. Don’t do that to your kids. Try, try, try. They deserve that. You married your husband for a reason. If you have the courage, I suggest you put your side relationship on hold and do ‘everything you can’ to fix the realationship with your husband. in the long run atleast you’ll know you did everything you could.

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