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You sound like a good father, and I bet they will love you. At first, yeah, they may think you are taking the place of their father, but soon they will love you. I remember when my mum hooked up with the man I call Dad. I didn’t like him much, but now I love him to peices. They will do the same. Spend some time with them, and make yourself availble, things will work out as perfectly as they can.

I would first meet her children for diner or something at their home. It’s their comfortable teritory, you could help cook or help entertain in some way. Try to be casual with them; act like an adult, by not overly athoritative. Don’t pull any “i love you mother”s on the first night you meet them. Make a slow transaction between randome man & mothers partner. After you have met her children, it’s time for her to meet yours. Maybe one at a time, depending on their sceduals. Again, make things casual. After everyone knows the children, and you are sure this is a long time comitment, have the children meet eachother in a stress free enviornment. Try to be open to everyone. Try to make a smooth transition.

Welcome, it’s nice to know I could help.

first of all congrats! I think you should answer her exactly the way you put it in your post,tell her you’ll love them like your own kids if they are anything like her! That was very sweet. And because you have grown kids of your own you’ve been through it and you understand what her kids will need. Good luck!

my suggestion is this… be yourself.. do not be someone who you are not… to them..

do you have a set time in which you are going to meet her kids? i do find it great that you two are dating before you pull the kids right in… that is respect…. good for you..

don’t say weather or not you’ll love them because there is a chance she might take the “if” the wrong way..just make some time you wanna take out her and her kids somewhere so you get to meet them..thats what I’d do

Good lucK!