lol, true , true. but i belive that this site is open to all and all questions. so really i think that its fine for them to ask for help, because most people arent as comfortable with themselves or as strong as they like to think.
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Too bad none of them read the advice given to them,
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OMG, no. It’s not that complicated a question for anyone. In fact, I answered it in less than 30 seconds in the post above.
I really wouldn’t care except it seems that 50% of posts on this site seem to have become THAT question. Contrast those with the cutters, suicidals, and kids living with alcoholic parents, and I wish everyone’s problems were so simple.
I think that’s a little bit asinine of a post, I’m sorry. Some people here have problems going on in their lives, and at such an age, yes, those things are rather huge for them.
What about your problems compared to someone who’s 78, just had heart surgery and has a healing leg and can’t sleep at night? Don’t your problems seem rather small then?
Before you condescend, get that others are out there with bigger problems than yours.
Maybe also understand that not every situation in life is the exact same.
So in all fairness, please, before you declare the beginning of the apocalypse, just ask the dude out and see what happens.
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lol yeah, i agree. but really, i think that if you try and say that your problem is worse, or more important or w/e than someone elses’, than you need to stop being so selfish and grow up, even if you are 78, or if you are 13. Who is to say who is in more need than anyone else? (plus, you guys can complain as much as you want, but the posts arent going to stop at all, you know that right?)
Exactly^. However, the large part I’m finding bad about this, I just think this is ridiculous that someone’s going to offend a whole large group of people whom come to help.com for advice only to find someone saying not to come in the first place.
Bigger problems, pretty? Are you actually looking me in the face and telling me that a teenage crush is a BIG problem for anyone. I’m not trying to be callous, but as I stated in the post above, there are people on this site with REAL problems - the kind that won’t go away after junior prom. I respect that growing up is hard to do, and I respect that sometimes it helps to get a little grown-up advice while you’re making your start. Part of growing up, however, is developing courage and realizing that some issues need to be tackled head-on, not by posting online missives and asking your friends to do the legwork. I think it’s fair to practice a little tough love in this respect and help them to realize that some problems are within your grasp, so long as you have the fortitude to tackle them.
The point is that there is one problem that most young girls face and that is they want attention from teenage boys. Tj is nicely trying to tell these girls they are not going to get the miracle answer here. Also, what they are suffering through is very common and natural, so it is not exactly a huge problem. I work with teen girls everyday and I hear about this issue daily.
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Exactly^. However, the large part I’m finding bad about this, I just think this is ridiculous that someone’s going to offend a whole large group of people whom come to help.com for advice only to find someone saying not to come in the first place.
He is not trying to offend anyone, he is given very pratical and reasonable advice.
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Its not a huge issue, people sometimes just need to hear what they are thinking from someone else before they get out there and try it!
Honestly, this post was written in jest, as many of mine are. If any young girl sees this post and runs away crying from Help.com, the sad truth is that she is NOT going to get the guy she wants or anything else in life.
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Bigger problems, pretty? Are you actually looking me in the face and telling me that a teenage crush is a BIG problem for anyone. I’m not trying to be callous, but as I stated in the post above, there are people on this site with REAL problems - the kind that won’t go away after junior prom. I respect that growing up is hard to do, and I respect that sometimes it helps to get a little grown-up advice while you’re making your start. Part of growing up, however, is developing courage and realizing that some issues need to be tackled head-on, not by posting online missives and asking your friends to do the legwork. I think it’s fair to practice a little tough love in this respect and help them to realize that some problems are within your grasp, so long as you have the fortitude to tackle them.
Mr. Tee, your argument is just, but you do realize there are tags which can point you in the right direction if you need to help real people so badly? There’s a section called “real help” if you look into it. If these trouble you badly, then all I can say is that things are changing and we must deal with it. A large portion of kids that are around the age group of 13 are using the internet, I’m not going to say it’s good or bad, I’m just saying we should bare the change openly and deal with it accordingly, not tell them that their problems are general and can be easily fixed because many of the kids have large problems at hands. There are a lot of cutters today and people with anorexia, I don’t like it. I don’t like that I had anorexia, that it came from a deeper root and there are kids out there today who WANT to have anorexia or to try acting like they have a mental illness like I had, it feels as though I’m being mocked. I think many things need fixed, but it can’t be done on here, we simply have to filter out what we need to, it’s tough, but I’m with you on it. I’m sorry if I came off as in any form of an argument, it’s been a long day and I hope that things get better on here as well, thank you for being kind and reasonable, that’s a very commendable thing and I thank you for it. :)
I think that we should just leave this topic alone, because nomatter what they’ll keep coming. It’s kinda usless and a waste of time that you could use helping those who need it as opposed to debating over somthing that is unchangable.
Well thank you, Pretty. I really appreciate your candor. A lot of users wouldn’t have had the courage or quality to revisit their posts like you did. I think part of growing up is learning not to take yourself so seriously, and that is what I was trying to accomplish with that post.
I agree with you wholeheartedly that the issues you mentioned above are indeed serious and I am very glad that we have a positive forum here in which to discuss, and hopefully, combat them.
Cheers!
:) You’re welcome! I think the world can be a better place and I’m glad there’s someone else who would like to see it get better in such a way. If there’s anything we could do on the site, I’d be more than happy to help.
And cheers! :D
LOL. Im like 45, that’s like old so I know this doesnt apply to me… So, I like this guy……..rofl.
hehe, i like this post, it’s realistic. there are too many people filling up the notices with trivial stuff:)
dude shut up…..this is a site to where we can get answers for ALL our questions…being about boys or not…..so why dont u stop complaining….?
i understand what ur saying, but for girls, problems like that, girls need to be reassured, and they’re not SOME guys. Girls are much more complicated, and i think what they have to say and ask is okay.
Oh if only the gentlemen here would stop helping and instead post a never-ending barrage of questions about video games. Then we’d see from whence the complaining came.
“OMFG, is this site ALL about freaking video games? Some of us have REAL issues. Why don’t you guys just grow up…grrrr…”
Incidentally, to further illustrate my point, here is a screenshot of the last 4 Hel.com posts a/o 1:54 PM (CST):
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Incidentally, to further illustrate my point, here is a screenshot of the last 4 Hel.com posts a/o 1:54 PM (CST):
Number three I would read, it looks like it was typed with someone who is aware of the function of the [shift] key. I bet it is in nice short paragraphs too to make it easy to read.
As for the rest, the lack of capitalization is a major turn off. Speaking as a guy, girls who write well are a major turn on. Maybe that’s where most are going wrong…
Ofcouse, I should not be too damming, my English is very far from perfect. The again, I have advantage of being special (read: dyslexic) so i feel I am excused from the good grammar and spelling game.
Ha. I’ve met some brilliant dyslexic persons in my life, ross, so don’t let it get you down. Ironic that you find good grammar such a turn on, though. It’s kind of like someone in a wheelchair fancying joggers; though I agree with your assessment nonetheless :)
I seem to find people who are things that I am not attractive. Usually when I want to be what they are - for example confident, stylish or assertive etc.
Anyway, we digress…
That would be a more serious quesiton.
I think what TJ was trying to make the point that there are young girls that post this question over and over, and sometimes from the same girl. They want attention I get that, but asking the same question is annoying. I work with teenage girls who have emotionao problems. I hear these types of quesitons daily and I try to put things into perspective for them. But if they asked the same quesiton over and over I would give them a reality check. Which is what TJ was trying to do! There are bigger problems in the world than whether the boy you have a crush in math class was seen talking to another girl and it is so important for young people to learn this. Those young people would make their lives better by not posting things that are silly and using their time on here to help others.
I agree with Max. There are waaaay more important things to worry about…like what will happen on Season 4 of LOST.
Ross, you’re probably brilliant and simply don’t know it yet. 2 years into Uni, you’ll probably invent the next great operating system and be a billionaire by the time you’re 30. If only the rest of us could live that dream.
lol yeah there are a lot more important things in life to worry about then whether a guy likes you or not
hmmm, I agree… I tend to get annoyed with all the teenage drama, but I remember when I was 15 and a boy didn’t like me I thought my world was over. Its the mindset of young teenagers… I dunno why they are like that… I guess the hormones just get the best of them and they get overly emotional.
It’s more than that - their prefrontal cortex shuts down, which is the area of the brain responsible for extrapolating consequences and future events. Instead, they thrive on a very primitive part of the brain responsible for base emotions and such. Surprisingly, that knowledge made me much less abashed at my own behaviour and somehow more prepared for raising my own teenagers someday.
I agree. I’m pretty young and some of my first posts are like that, but I really don’t care anymore. If he likes me, cool. If not, his loss.
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