Love help: Is there life after addiction? - Help.com

It’s hard to come back , but it possable . 28 months now rebuilding my life it’s hard but so worth the work . You have to start small and things will start falling in place…………NO.1…..don’t get high….no matter what , reach out to others who are like you but getting sober …YOU can do it , I did!!!!

I’ve never been in that hole, but I know how hard it is for my mum to get a job seeing as she went to jail almost 10 years ago. aw states it cant come off her records for 10 years, so yeah. All I can say is do your best. Maybe join a church.

Oooh, someone who agrees with me, yay.

There is, indeed, life after addiction. At least in my own personal experience. And, in most cases, its a better life than before.

You simply focus on one day at a time, with an heart full of gratitude even for what little you got. Every morning and night as you are lying in bed, repeat to yourself, “I am getting better and better with each passing day, I am becoming stronger and wiser. I will make it through today and do my best.” This can help you set the right attitude. Blessings.

We learn a new way of life after we get trapped in our disease. Life isn’t always pleasant but we learn to deal with things clean. I am glad that I found you article. I was searching for something to put into my blogs this morning is how I ran across your post! You can do it just as we all can do it.

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My boyfriend of 3 years has just admitted to being a heroin addict. He has been caught several times before in the act by myself, but he kept promising me that he would stop and that he had stopped. He has finally admitted it to his parents last night and they had started him in outpatient rehab this morning. I am head over heels in love with this man. He is 25, but I am only 19. I have given up everything for him, my “college experience,” friends, I have supported him financially. He is the only person I can see the rest of my life with, and he feels the same as we have spoken about it constantly. But I am so young. I don’t know if it is worth sticking around through such a nightmare for a third time of sobering up. I am so young, there is so much of the world for me to see, but all I want is him, and I don’t know if there is any hope for us after he gets better. I don’t even know if he will get better, and if so, how long it will take. I just need help from someone completely outside the situation who has either been there and done that or someone who is an addict and knows what they would want of the woman/man that they love. Please help, as with every passing moment I am falling apart more and more. Thank you so much and God Bless you all.

I am a recovering addict. your life hasnt started until after you stop. Becoming sober is the best thing to happen to me. Right behind Jesus, On the cross, His blood cleans you it does.

My boat isn’t so different from yours. I don’t have a partner, well a romantic partner in crime. Its me and my best friend. We get high together and we talk about it. I’m trying to keep things from unraveling. I haven’t mounted all the legal fees but I’ve put myself in debt. And I guess its quite manageable, at the moment.
We both need to be clean. I don’t know what to do. I would be with her romantically but she dosen’t feel the same. I need to break away from her to do so and she probably needs to break away from me. I guess I can’t worry about her.
I just don’t know what it is or how it is to proceed. I’ve become so accustomed to being high. I’ve done heroin, smoked crack, smoked coke, snorted coke, eaten and snorted pills. I just don’t know how much lower we can go. She shoots up everything she can.
I feel out of control. And i’m still split with the life of getting high but trying to be financially responsible.
So I don’t know how you guys are doing but I wonder if it is better with a partner.
Just don’t know anymore.

This response is for you, Lisa A. I can only speak for myself and my own situation now. I am NOT an addict, but the love of my life is. He has 26 days clean now and attends NA meetings as often as he possibly can. One thing they stress in NA is detaching from your precious life and immersing yourself with NEW friends that are also in recovery. Michael is an outpatient in a rehab locally, and he is doing great. He has bonded with 4 of his other groupmates that are also in recovery and together they go to meeting after meeting, sometimes 3 in a day, go bowling, to the diner–whatever it may be to fill their time with anything other than drugs. Michael recently asked me for space in his life because he needs to learn to take care of himself before he can take care of me. It is also stressed in NA meetings, as well as rehabs, that if you put anything before your recovery, that will be the first thing you lose. Financially, Michael relied on everyone else. Thankfully, he had no legal fees, and his father is paying for his rehab and medications. I take care of his bills, but he pays me cash from working part time and I write out the checks. His mother keeps a roof over his head. He has an ideal situation. But, the best thing you can do if you want help is admitting it to your family and tell them you NEED THEIR HELP. If you can get into an inpatient rehab, DO IT, at least to detox. I am proud of you that you are strong enough to acknowledge you have a disease that hurts so many people and that you acknowledge your responsibilities financially. You have already gotten through one of the hardest parts of addiction. I hear all the time from addicts that life while you’re high could never compare to life being completely sober. However, in regards to the question of is it any better with a partner, the answer would have to be no. You need to want this all for yourself and you need to get through this hard time as an INDIVIDUAL. Michael and I are so much in love, but he realized before there could be anyone else in his life (whether it is a girlfriend, wife or best friend), he needs to get healthy first, otherwise he could never possess healthy relationships. Please, email me at (email removed), I would love to hear from you and help you through your hard time. I wish the best for you. Thank you for listening and I look forward to your email.

Love,
Sam

Hi, I recently at age 51 abused retilan, I had only been on it for about 4 months when a psycotic episode hit, I totaly lost touch with reality for 4 months, during that time I lost my debt free life style, business, cars , investments, freinds, family, I enjoyed competative dance, was involed in creating a foundation, and helping others with their dreams. Today I experience the trust is gone when you screw up. I did not abuse before taking retilan., and the drugs were prescribed. I’m clean 13 days after several prevoius attempts to stop it keep me from having to face deppression, shame, guilt, stopping the drug use at least is allowing me to face whats real face it all and find ways to heal that suit me.. I’m finding the good in my personal growth their is lots of areas for improvement. The thing I miss most is the trust others gave me and their love, most people are fearful of me now because I lost my sense to reality. Today I’m back, no drugs and have stop retalin use on my own. I trust life and working on trusting myself. I say this incedent is giving me a sense of compassion for others that face challenges which seems to be most people. There will be lots off people who trust me again, it feels good to have trust. I’m grateful for the few that do today. I’ve been searching for healing most of my life from other tramatic events, I don’t belief hard things to handle in life stop ,for me it is my opportunity to bring about more personal growth makes those tough things worthwhile and a way of getting through. Maybe I’ve attracted it to me. I trust life to show me the way. I trust life with stength for today. I trust life to allow me a journey thats not bigger than me and if it is bigger than me I’ll let life own it while I relax knowing that it will be okay, I won’t run away I’m here to be a part of it, and release my veiw that way possibly to share with another life.

Here is a video called life after adction.
I like it a lot. I don’t want to build it up.
Just check it out and see if it rings a bell with anyone.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QYAmjY…

Pray Pray and Pray some more! After 4 years of trying to get my life back I decided to take the advice of other people in recovery. I got on my knees and prayed every day. I must tell you great things started to happen and my life has really turned around. Four years of failure in recovery and then in less than one year my life is great. I still pray everyday. Give it a try what you got to loose that addiction has not already taken.

Pray, Pray, and Pray some more! After four years of failure in recovery I decided to do what others in recovery had sugested I do. I got on my knees and prayed every day. After four years of failure in less than one year my life turned around and good things started to happen. My life is very good now and I still pray everyday. I think you should try it what you got to loose that addiction has not taken from you.