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You need to remember that going to the doctor is part of nuturing yourself. I would explain your concerns to the doctor before the examine. This is tough, and I’m so sorry you have to go deal with feeling this way. Have you sought out any counseling to try to deal with these feelings?

I haven’t- I’m trying to convince myself to go. I have a wonderful pair of parents, but they fostered in me the idea that counseling and mental-health care was for hypochondriac-types. Thank you very much. ^.^

You don’t have to answer this, but were you abused as a child?

My wife hates going to the gynecologist too, so I can understand a little bit of what you are going through. While a physical exam might be necessary eventually, it seems reasonable to explore alternatives. I wouldn’t be afraid to stick up for yourself!

Just because I feel like it:

YAY!!! for being a virgin. Some guy is going to appreciate the great gift that you are giving way more than some runny nosed teenager ever would. Keep it up!

It would make more sense if I had been, but to the very best of my recollection I have not. As strange as it sounds in print, I’ve gone so far as to feel guilty for having these feelings with no solid reason why.

And to Gimli: Thanks so much! ^.^ It’s nice to know there are more virginity supporters, xD
I plan to make sure I ABSOLUTELY have to have a physical exam before it’s done.

There is some root to your feelings, so seeking out help from a therapist is your best bet. It might even have a cause that surprises you. You need to understand that you should not feel guilty, we all have issues we have to deal with. Even if you never understand the cause of your feelings, learn to accept the feelings may help with your problem. Good luck, I wish you the best.:)

Thank you so much! Your kind words really do mean a lot to me.

Hey Anonymous, I’m a 21 year old virgin, I hate being touched, and I’m going to the gyno next week for the first time for the same reasons you are. I expressed your same fears to my mother, who is a nurse and is forcing me to go, and she said she felt a physical examination of you-know-what would probably be unnecessary for someone who’s sexually inactive. Maybe it will be necessary, but you should make sure to let your gyno know that a physical exam is only to be used as a last resort. Me, I will just refuse, no matter what. I’ll be thinking of you during my visit… and hoping you’re having a better time with yours. :(

Thanks, it makes me feel tons better to know I’m not the only one!
It was my best friend’s mother who really prompted me to go (she’s a nurse as well).
I suppose all we can do is make sure the physical exam is the last possible option.
I’ll be thinking of you, too! Best of luck and take care

Just make sure you tell the gyno that you’re a little nervous and on’t really like to be touched, they’ll understand. It is very awkward but at least maybe afterward they’ll figure out waht’s wrong.