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I need some help.. I don’t know who to turn too or what to do.. I’m so lost..

I live in Sweden and i’m 16years, we moved here about 3years ago after my mom found ‘true love’ with another man who lived in Sweden.

My swedish teacher is failing me in Swedish due to me not speaking swedish. ( She tells me its a criteria) I understand swedish no problem, at all. I can understand 100% of what is said to me in my school, but I don’t want to speak it.

I don’t want to sound wierd, or with a dialect.. But this isn’t really the problem;

The problem is I want to move back to America but I know my parents won’t approve… I’d end up moving in with my friend and his parents (they know me very well, told me when I left USA that if we ever wanted to come back just ask and they’d find a way to save up money with us to buy tickets.)

Well, I don’t want to leave my parents in Sweden, but my dad isn’t legally allowed in America and I don’t want to seperate my family from eachother. I don’t want to go back to USA with my mom and leave my dad alone or go to USA with my mom/sister and leave my dad TOTALLY alone. I don’t know what to do…

Infact, is it even legal for a 16 year old to fly alone out of country? Thanks in advance

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An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 11 months ago (23 minutes after post)

go vist america you dont have to leave you can go vist like a summer there in america and swedan the rest!!

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max.Buste offline Verified User (1 year, 11 months) Long Term User Shouts: 0 #
SE | 1 year, 11 months ago (36 minutes after post)

Don’t have the money to do things like that though ;/ We arn’t rich, at all. My mom had to pawn some of her grandmothers jewlery (that she owned) to get us here in the first place.. And I don’t think I could stand another day of school at this rate. I’ve emailed my teacher about how upset she made me and what my thoughts are etc and told her that I wasn’t going to be going to school tomorrow, or probly not even the next week.

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jenny_bauerl offline Unverified User #
Bozeman, MT, US | 1 year, 11 months ago (40 minutes after post)

I you are starting to fail at school something needs to happen. I do believe it is legal for you to fly and I think maybe it would be a good idea to think about finishing school in the states. You are almost 18 and life is different then. You will be able to learn swedish if you want to and your commitment may be stronger…instead of having to. People finish school with different families all of the time. Being in a whole nother country is more intense yet I think if you sat down with everyone involved and discussed that you are having so much trouble, maybe finishing out high school in the states would be a good idea. Good luck, being 16 isn’t easy, sounds like you are smart and I am sure everything will work out. You would not be leaving your family forever, you have a long life in front of you and jepardizing your education is not a good idea. :) take care…

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max.Buste offline Verified User (1 year, 11 months) Long Term User Shouts: 0 #
SE | 1 year, 11 months ago (1 hour, 37 minutes after post)

Thanks alot for the reply, very much apreciated. I forgot to mention, probly important but in the stats I had a 4.0 GPA / 4.0 GPA. I was getting into scholorships and everything, I actually thought I had a good future going for me. Was in the JNHS Junior Nasionall Honor System aswell..

But here I just pass, not with exceptions or anything, just a good o’l cs/bs and I blame the language. I’m limited useing the swedish language.. Thats another reason why I don’t want to speak swedish, it makes me limited and I hate being limited. I like to use all the resources I can..

Thanks again for that reply Jenny.

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marie_noe offline Verified User (1 year, 11 months) Long Term User Shouts: 0 #
Dallas, TX, US | 1 year, 11 months ago (7 hours, 20 minutes after post)

ask your mom & dad if ya can move were they speak engish.If you dont whant to do that just start speaking sweden.

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frida offline Verified User (1 year, 4 months) Long Term User Shouts: 5 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 4 months ago (7 months, 2 weeks after post)

Hi, I’m from Sweden too. If you start talking swedish I think it would get easier. I don’t think anybody would laugh at you ’cause they know youre from America. And you just have two years left then you can move out and live in the U.S. Lycka till !

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