is this what you want me to read? I’ll read it, give me a sec..
you already know how he is, you been with him for so many years, don’t try to cover the truth from you own self, Only you know what is going on, if he said he didn’t love you anymore then I’m sorry but its probably true, I suggest you let him act with out you telling him what should be done or should not be done.. its complicated but i think you know him more then anyone,
he’s just a jerk right….I suppose I can’t believe anything that is said by him…I honestly don’t have the money to move on with our 3 kids…he is the breadwinner…I’m scared because of everything…and I think I am trying to read good stuff into the things he does do…he was snuggling with me and holding me and I thought it was going to be ok…but I am scared of me seeing what is not there…and I have no way to voice it or ask//..I told him today..you’re never going to love me again anyway.
Try not to be so emotional with him, **** its hard from what you tell, but i don’t think he loves you, can’t you move away from him? your parents? friends?
family is dead…we take care of my mother whom lives with us…he won’t love me again…I can leave but my life will be pretty bad without family or friends to really lean on.
All of his promises seem to be lies…like he can’t deal with the stuff that’s going on inside him… what is so wrong with talking about things to try to just get it settled in your head…the other day I said to him “you know it’s bad enough not having a family around the holidays but then you pull this s__t on me.
Well you have to try to do something, i mean i doesn’t have to be right now, but with time and planing, get a better job somewhere, somewhere you can afford to live, as long as there is life there is a solution to everything..
I’m just tired of dealing with his problems…I can’t live like this…it’s like pretending…what the f__k is the use?
do you think if I stop being emotional about him and at least pretend not to care it will turn him around…and then what is my first step?
Don’t pretend, you have to be strong and let him be, don’t care so much, stop being so emotional, he will see that, he will wonder then act all crazy and confuse, lol..
crazy and confused how? just so that I’m not stupid in the signs..and then even if I do turn him around how do I keep him turned that way…can I never be myself again?
does that mean I am playing a game
your playing a game right now, your playing his game, where he is the ruler and your the victim, be your self, but don’t allow your self to weak, He will act confuse,,, some woman are so stupid,, really they are,, the truth is, woman are suppost to take the lead,, not man, man is stupid, is like and animal, the female has to come out and the the head, that is how it is, the female is suppose to let the man think he is the head knowing she is, keep him check, like a **** animal, because that is what he is,
help me figure out my game plan..I tried not talking about us the last couple days and only talking about bs but he didn’t even notice..
he know, woman are so dam predictable, REALLY, so predictable, so easy to figure out and see what is going on,… Is not a game what i’m about to tell you, you have to let it go, Allow it be what it is, don’t bother if he talks to you or not, But to truly let go of the feeling of need of him.. its hard, but you have to do it, in oder to attain a stable mind set…. don’t hold it or force it, but allow him to be who he is, and just accept it, then let go of him, in essence you don’t need him.. think back to before you met him, you use to be just fine.. you can attain that again.. he will go crazy and became confuse with time, but you have to allow him to be. he will see with time, you won’t change him, life will..
but that will be too late for our marriage. wont it?
do I still live with him?
this is true from what I know…when I don’t talk to him in the car he always has to ask me what my problem is…it’s true…then these last two days he must have been figuring a new game plan when I refused to engage in any “us” talk…but do we remain together til he changes…or does he move…
another thing is he has never felt the sadness of missing someone like them passing on….it sounds bad but I wish he had then the people that love him would be so much more important.
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another thing is he has never felt the sadness of missing someone like them passing on….it sounds bad but I wish he had then the people that love him would be so much more important.
Don’t worry, no need to wish for that, it will happen with time.. just wait. give me a sec.. i want to give you a video.. hold on…
I don’t want anyone to die…just wish he’d experienced it prior to us.
i’m trying to find the other one.. give me a sec… hey i know those vids may sound stupid to you,, but if you actually try it, and come out of the box of your own mind. things change. for the better. you see things more clearly
my dial up is too slow to see it.
it’s like 30 sec in and nothing but just the girl on the rocks
okay I’ll say it then… it might not make sense to you, but it for real.. Happiness it self is a choice, its not something you gain from something, some object, some relationship, happiness is a choice, and the more you choose to be happy with what is the more happiness you will achieve (from with in) happiness can not come out of anything that is outside of your self.
but i can’t really help you.. i tried. but in the end its up to you, just do what is right to do, everyone knows when something is right.. so you can feel better with your self.. and try to let go of him, allow him to be as he wishes, if he chooses to change then good, but if not, move on.. good luck in your life..
I understand that…I am happy about many other things but am not happy with his irresponsibility in our relationship…I know I can be strong…but I need to know which route to take…I want my friend, my husband back the way he used to be. He chose to change to this…he’s not happy about the way he’s become or else he wouldn’t be acting like a child. So basically by saying happiness is from within I can be happy with him acting as he is if I choose it? I want both of us to be happy. I don’t want someone who is the way he is now. I need him to get back what was good in him…not only for me but for himself and the kids.
yo.-03l/poe