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Thankyou :)

Unfortunately because I’m very inclusive (if that’s the right word) I very rarely hear anything good about myself. Although I definately feel my confidence has built recently (i.e., in a situation where I would have simply got embarassed and ran away from the situation, I now go on the offence and attack the sitation), I still never go out and cannot form any new relationships past the ones I already made at school, or it takes me very long to form any new friendships, just to gain the trust.

Thanks for your reply :D

Claire, I’d say we’re friends too :) But say if you spoke to me in person, I can’t say I’d be the most exciting person to be around at first, I can only truly open up to friends I’ve known for very long, I hate it it’s like a barrier! And of course a cardboard car would make me smile, that I can’t deny! :D

Cotton, thanks alot for your reply. I have to say sometimes I enjoy this new found anger I have aquired. I was always angry at what happened to me, but it seems only recently it’s started to affect how I act. I just need to learn to control it like you say. I can’t say I’d be good at controlling these people with kindness, in all honesty I’d rather pummel them through a few sheets of glass with no remorse or pitty, but then the consequeces probably wouldn’t be too great.

Rebellionaire, I notice you live in the US, I think over there red hair is more widely “accepted” than over here. If you ask anyone from over here about it, they’ll probably crack a joke about it, or say they’ve witnessed it and think it’s ridiculous.

Claire, I know I’m getting loooads of replies!! :|

Gin, I can relate to how you feel and I’m sure you can relate to me. That punching bag sounds great… Maybe I should get myself one! Thanks for your comments :) it’s a shame everyone doesn’t think like the people here!

ClaireLove wrote:

ramsyzool wrote:
Claire, I know I’m getting loooads of replies!! :|

and some are of me having a conversation about cardboard cars :D

Lol yeah it’s exciting :p :)

Cotton1946 wrote:
Lol…understood…just imagine with your mind’s eye, them flying thru the air after you hurdle them with your bare hands…Nothing wrong with that..there are so many ways to look at thing…Just do everything that help you become the person you want to be…You control people, don’t let them control you….that is easy written and hard to do sometimes…believe me..I know!

I have tryed everything, alot. It’s all I can do! I always do imagine doing these things but it just seems to fuel it. I still have yet to find what helps me.

Cotton1946 wrote:
Just one more thing Ramsyzool, so ENJOYED your post. You are a very good writer. Look forward to talking more. It was my honor to add you as my friend on help.com. Have a great evening…Cottonn

Wow, thankyou very much :) I look forward to talking with you too.

Take care.

:D It does feel good to hear something nice for once.

Thanks for telling me about this site! :)

Cotton1946 wrote:
The adventure of life is to learn. The goal of life is to grow. The nature of life is to change. The challenge of life is to overcome. The essence of life is to care. The secret of life is to dare. The beauty of life is to give. The joy of life is to love!

Hopefully, this will help. It certainly helped me!

Makes alot of sense, “The secret of life is to dare”, that probably means the most to me. In most situations I will think “Hey… what if!” but will back out, or leave it at a thought. I’ll read over that again a few times. Thanks :D

Hi Ron, thanks for the message :)

Cotton1946 wrote:
The one that is the hardest, the nature of life is to change! So hard to break bad habits! This certainly applies to me!

I know what you mean! I feel me spending a good majority of my time alone on the PC has almost become a habit, and I can’t break out of it. I think once you feel comfortable in a situation it’s hard to get out of that routine, because it feels safe.

slimline2 wrote:
hi ramzy “welcome” and tell me you have got a close resamblance to prince harry in the picture not saying much, maybe the potato prince had something to do with it?

Lol people keep saying I look like him! Thanks for the message :)

Cotton, since leaving my psychologist a few months ago (I was with him for about 2 years), I find the internet is the only place I can talk to people about these problems, while it does feel great and I do get some of the best advice on here, I just wish I had it in me to chat about it in person with someone. But my problem is, I feel like I’m just whining and the other person doesn’t want to hear it, like I’m trying to get attention, so I just don’t do it in fear of looking like an attention seeking little whiny *****. On the internet though, I know people have a choice of reading what I write and there is a lack of expression on here so it feels safer to express myself.

I see what you’re saying, not fighting back is always the best form of getting back at someone.. sometimes the feelings are pretty irresistable though, I have yet to act upon them though :\

:) Thanks for the inspirational words :D

I will give it a go, I have work tonight I’ll try it there.

Speak soon, take care.

I don’t express my anger, atall. Well, unless keeping it all bottle in is expressing it?

I tryed giving that a go at work.. It was just another normal night really! Whilst I was walking home from college though. I just thought.. “I’m in work.. I have friends there, I’m not hated by anyone.. I’ve left school and never have to retur there.. I’m learning to drive and am always getting great compliments from my instructor on how well I’m doing”. It just felt so great, the moment I just… realised! I hope this lasts lol. I’m not expecting it to, but I’m hoping it will.

Thanks for the message psychicgus.

Been a while since I’ve posted here!