Love help: My heart has been torn from my chest.

babs2005

My heart has been torn from my chest.

i dated this guy for a year. we then broke up and have remained best friends for the past 2 1/2 years. we always wanted to try it out again. the problem is that i live in vegas now and he lives in arkansas with the air force. i went out there to see him and it felt like it was the same. i love this man so much, but the possibility of us being together again seems hopeless. i had talked to him on friday night and we had a very deep discussion. he said he does not know how he feels for me anymore. my heart has been dying since. if there is anyone out there that can help me with this i would be so grateful.

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ajachiern #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 12 months ago (8 minutes after post)

Breaking up with someone and then taking them back is like taking some milk out of the fridge drinking it realizing its sour then putting it back in the fridge and trying again the next day.

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The1andOnly 1 #
Toronto, ON, CA | 1 year, 12 months ago (34 minutes after post)

well put

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cookai 1 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 12 months ago (1 hour, 3 minutes after post)

moving on isn’t the easiest thing hun but it seems it’s what we need.
better than clinging to false hopes huh?

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Axeman101 0 #
Littleton, CO, US | 1 year, 12 months ago (1 day, 16 hours after post)

I’m sorry he doesn’t seem to return your feelings. What caused the breakup the first time around? Was it an agreeable parting because one of you was moving away? That would explain why you could remain good friends and think about trying it again.

I am sorry it hurts. You seem to have good communication with each other and he seems to care for you even if he isn’t as sure as you are about how deep that caring goes. I hope you can work it out.

Maybe you will need some closure and to move on with your life. If he lets you know that there is no chance for the two of you in the future then I think you would be wise to give yourself some distance until you can see him as just a friend.

Good luck
Axe

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webjeff200 1 #
Chicago, IL, US | 1 year, 12 months ago (2 days, 5 hours after post)

It’s not an easy life when you are in love with someone and they are not sure if they feel the same way about you. It will be hard at first but you need to move on, and since he live in another city will not run into him anymore. Do contact him anymore and if he contact you that fine. Stay busy doing other things

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babs2005 1 #
Las Vegas, NV, US | 1 year, 12 months ago (2 days, 16 hours after post)

He broke up with me because I was still in my party out of control stage. The lastnight that we were together I was trying to fight a guy at a club, because of a misunderstanding. The next day he broke up with me. We laugh about it now, and I have been trying to show him how responsible I have become and that I am a better person. I am now 26, never been married. I feel there is alot of pressure on myself to make this work because he is the one, 100% positive about it. He is my best friend. When I went to visit him a few weeks ago it seemed that our feelings still existed for eachother, and we acted like we were boyfriend and girlfriend. He is going to Officer Training School to become a fighter pilot and is very focused on his career. I totally respect that and I am not asking for commitment now, just to know there is something in the future would be nice. He said he cant promise me anything, which makes me respect him even more because he is so honest. I have been looking for closer for the past 2 1/2 years but he cant seem to make up his mind with what he wants. I am going to visit him at the end of feb for 14 days, I want to show him that we can work it out, but at the same time I do not want to push the situation. I know some women that make the situation worse by trying to hard to make it all the better. I know this is long, but by your response it seemed that you understood the best about my situation. Thank you
Erika

webjeff200 1 #
Chicago, IL, US | 1 year, 12 months ago (3 days, 6 hours after post)

You have been hanging on for 2 1/2 years! Well love hurt sometimes and I know what your heart is right now and it painful. I would not wish that kind of pain on anyone.

When you see him in Feb you going have closesure right then and there, 14 day is enough time. When you leave him you will know for sure if there going be anything (NO IF AN OR BUT). If he still has no idea then move on, yes you will cry little but water make flower grow.

And it will take time to get over him, go back home, get your life back in order. If he’s not your soul mate then someone else is, take your time.

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webjeff200 1 #
Chicago, IL, US | 1 year, 11 months ago (1 week, 4 days after post)

I hope it turns out the way you want. You should not let this go on pass Feb.

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webjeff200 1 #
Chicago, IL, US | 1 year, 8 months ago (3 months, 3 weeks after post)

I just came arcoss this again how did it go?

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