life help: PROBLEM: family Christmas letter. - Help.com

You need to tell him right now that if he wants to send out a family letter, it is important to you that he runs the content past the rest of the family, including yourself, so that you feel like it is just a friendly letter and not a biographical tell-all. Tell him that there are accomplishments that you’re eager to share with friends and family, but there are other things that you really only care to share with your very closest circle.

yes. i would think if you tell him that what he’s said makes you uncomfortable he’d respect that and change it.

maybe he just meant it as a ‘can you believe she’s old enough to date? just a short time ago she was watching cartoons and slurping milk…type of thing.
and as far as the weight thing goes, he obviously believes in you since he’s telling the family that you’re going to look a lot different, it sounds like he has much confidence in you

try to talk to him, and tell him how you feel. maybe you can rewrite it together. :O)

he is proud of all of you and he wants the world to know i would ….

Much ado about nothing! It is a family Christmas News Letter. Just be thankful somebody like my mother. Every time she was asked how she was feeling, instead of saying, “fine thank you”. She would give the full litany of her medical history from 1948 and a few births too. Had to start telling her to say, “fine thank you” or “not so well.”

Try getting together with him and telling him which parts you like, then constructively (don’t just say “I hate this”) tell him which parts you don’t like so much, and ask if together, you can rephrae or re-write them.
Two is always better than one.

I agree, confronting the situation up front and calmly is the best approach. If he knows how it makes you feel, he will probably change it. Parents always want to share what they are proud of– but they do not always realize that what they think is cool may be uncomfortable.

let him know that it bothers you and tell him if he wants to send a christmas letter to have a family picture taking and say things are good