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I just can’t talk anymore, i don’t want to talk, i don’t see the point in talking.
I force myself though, if it was up to me, i’d be happier never speaking. Being at university makes it harder, people think my inability to speak is because i am perhaps retarded, when in actual fact it’s because i don’t have the energy or need to speak.The only time i want to speak is when there is something important to say, otherwise coversation just bores me. I almost switch off when i’m forced in to a discussion, i’m talking and i’m making sense to people but i’m not actually making any effort to think. I think i am depressed, i don’t enjoy anything anymore, i feel numb and mute.
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Runs to you and hugs you… :***0( I fel the SAME! EXACTLY the same!
im not nearly as bad as that, but i hate tlkn to people. i never know what to say. im not retarted or stupid, but when i am askd questions, i cant think of good answers, i have short answers. i might as well just shut up, cuz im sounding stupid
I enjoy conversation myself because i believe the wisedom of others can influence you in some way. What has prompt you to feel this way? If you believe your depressed, not enjoying life to the fullest extent, then wouldnt something productive help you? Like explaining your feelings to someone you trust or maybe someone not so close but makes you feel more at ease?
I’m just trying to help in some aspect. Idk what you really want. DO you enjoy being this way, or do you want help?
this sounds a lot like depression. you have needs like everyone else. you can’t fulfil your needs without talking. but you have these ideas about communicating that prevent you from doing so. i would go to a psychiatrist and see what they have to say if i were in your situation. you will be much happier if you are able to communicate with people around you.
Undeveloped, that may be part of the reason, i never really know what to say and after the many uncomfortable conversations i’ll be forced in to throughout the day, i’ll worry about whether i sounded stupid etc.
Most conversations do not bring wisdom…a lot of the time people talk a lot of rubbish in conversations, as i even do sometimes. People think they are so intelligent and have so much confidence when they speak, when they have no idea what they are saying. I never correct them, mainly because i lack confidence.
I don’t think anyone would understand my feelings and even if i did explain it to them, i don’t think they could help. I’ve always felt like this, but a lot of things have happened in the last year to make it worse.
I do speak, i have not completely stopped talking, i just wish i could stop. I definitely do not enjoy being this way.
I wish i could be able to have conversations with people and enjoy them, just like other people seem to be able to do.
its alot easier to tlk to people when you feel really comfortable with them. im fine with not tlkn to people i dont know. im fine with not talking alot. i wish i were more open tho. i know i shouldnt have done this, and you shouldnt either, but when i use to smoke weed, i didnt care what people thought, i just said stuff, sure, alot of it was stupid, but i talkd alot more. im not saying you should smoke, but find something that you feel comfortable tlkn about.
I feel the same way aswell. I know its horrible and im seeing a counsellor about it right now but it just seems that sometimes nothing anyone can say will help it. you try to snap out of it, break out of the shell but its so difficult and its like you’re trapped
I understand the situation and, by association, you.
I feel like you…. i think it’s exhausting having conversations especially when there are many around. don’t think I’m a shy person just that there are very few things in life that give me pleasure, for which i can look forward to, a lot is just ******** and most of the time i feel kinda sad and tired :-/ **** it
i personally think it is alright not to talk or speak especially voice my opinion… less talk less pain. Each time I speak, i regret. Told myself to have as little contact as possible … with people.
why do you think you don’t want to talk?
is it because you feel what you have been saying are not your true words?
or that you feel no one hears you?
i think i had the same thing a few years ago. i didn’t/couldn’t write anything either. now i think it was the beginning of a depression.
have you thought of seeing an art therapist? perhaps what you don’t want to put into words can out through art, or music, or dance. worked wonders for me.
May God bless you darling.
I feel the same way
I feel trapped in my body and feel unworthy of anybodys time, or even their listening to me at all
I feel constricted and pressured
I want help and am sick and tired of feeling this way
It’s suffocating and lonely and depressed
What’s worse i think i have developped a colossal crush on a boy 3 years younger than myself
I am the student council president of my school, but i dont want to have anything to do with human contact and this responsibility is slowly making my situation bad
People are so ignorant, I hate seeing such happy people around without caring about the rest that are suffering
So mate, you’re not the worse case here
Where do I start?? Well, I have diagnosed Asperger’s Syndrome (a mild form of autism) and that alone i think plays a key part in my difficulties socializing with people. I’ve always found making small-talk with my peers extremely hard - sometimes impossible, but over the years the problem has become increasingly harder to deal with. I had to move away from home at the age of 14, due to family problems and difficulties at school, and was placed at a residential school where the education system was very poor, so therefore had no chances of achieving the grades I once had great potentiaal for. This failure has played an enormous part on my self-esteem and self-worth ever since. You see, I come from a family of very bright, intelligent people. My mother is a languages teacher and went to university like my grandparents before her. My father, although not in as high a profession as my mother, studied with the Open University and has natural artistic skills and great talents. My younger sister is at university and on her way to becoming a fully-qualified primary teacher. And me? I have no degree, no job, low self-esteem, low self-worth. I hate myself. Don’t get me wrong, I know the last thing I should be doing is wallowing in pessemistic self-pity - I mean what good did that ever do for anyone? But I’ve lost so much confidence throughout the years, I can’t help but feel helplessly lost in myself. I’m nearly 24 years old and I’ve achieved absolutely nothing. I’m not a stupid person, but I may as well be. I suffer from anxiety attacks in social situations resulting in intense bouts of depression. I hate speaking to people because I never have anything positive or interesting to say to them and I feel as though I’d be better off having never been born. The only time I ever feel remotely relaxed is in my own company. I could quite easily stop speaking altogether, then I’d never have to feel embarrassed, stupid or uncomfortable again. This worries me a lot.
sounds like avoidant personality disorder
This stuff scares me
i dont like to talk anymore either. i hate my life and i dont know what to do. i am totaly depressed and i dont want to help, and i dont want to talk to anyone about it. i hate this horrible life that people call “great” and “exciting”. i dont c the point in those words anymore….
I’m 52 yrs/old and feel the same way. I will talk to people for a minute and get bored. I’d rather read a book written by people. I feel like I am nosey if I ask where they’re from or where they went to school. Maybe they didn’t go to college and I will embarass them. I hate talking about myself.
I stopped speaking four days ago, and I have decided that I will not speak anymore, ever. Nobody ever listened to me anyway, and when they did I feared judgement so much that I just felt like a moron. So I simply stopped. I haven’t said a word. It’s nice. There’s no need to talk if you don’t want to, at all.
If you’ve stopped talking, it can be difficult at first, but it gets easier, and after awhile you forget why you ever bothered to talk in the first place! ^^
I’m so tired too. I don’t care, but I do. Because I want to try and be friendly with everyone, I try to think of anything to say, and because I have nothing to say, what comes out is so stupid. Just today, there’s a person who works sort of opposite me and I’ve never talked to him before and it has gotten so awkward and so I always want to say something, and he had a lot of customers and then when they left I said, “so busy”, than he said yeh yeh, and walked away. Even though I can say so much here, I can go so long without talking outside..Talk about what? I went to the shop..yep, you did..hello, yep hello..and I do just say yep outside, and then they just walk away..
if u fill like me your probly dead i look for help and this is what i get.if your still alive HELP ME!
im reaching for u help me help you
You describe me really well :(
Has anyone overcome this? If so how? Because that’s all that really matters. If everyone knew how to get over that feeling occurring during a social situation then we’d all be better. I’m tired of trying to look for an answer and nobody has one, only how they feel and I’m pretty familiar with the feelings. So lets discuss a solution instead.
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