Life takes its toll on all of us. Our minds, body and spirit all suffer from the demands of modern day lifestyles, and sometimes we feel we just cannot take any more.
This overload of stress can cause us to experience headaches, irritability, tension and suffer sleepless nights. Sometimes we experience panic attacks, feelings of dread or we constantly feel tired, run down and completely overwhelmed.
How stress develops:
Children from every family have to a degree, a lack of safety. For example some children are not allowed to demonstrate anger and therefore suppress this negative emotion. Some children are not allowed to display various other emotions because they are seen as a sign of weakness. A number of children grow up with fear.
As these children grow up they try to suppress these emotions through life and think they will go away. On the contrary, suppressed emotions never go away, they actually grow and build up inside us creating a variety of stress related problems.
They create anxiety, fear, tension and depression to name a few and as the energy from these suppressed emotions builds up we react in ways we don’t like or even understand.
Sometimes we will release the anger and lose our temper or let off steam to release the pressure of the pent up emotions. Although this may create a momentary feeling of relief because we have put the emotion into action it doesn’t get rid of the emotion. In fact it does more harm by offending and hurting the person the anger is directed at and it also causes us to endure the extra pain and burden of guilt.
Sometimes traumas received when we are young, restrict the normal growth of our unique tolerance levels. This restriction means we are less likely to adapt to setbacks, disappointments or pressure and our interactions with difficult people may result in behavioural trends and dysfunctional emotions coming to the fore.
Deeply rooted within us is a behavioural key which we use to unlock previously conditioned behaviours and when we become angry, fearful or feel overwhelmed by situations and our tolerance levels have been breached, we use these pre-determined functions as a way of coping.
These coping mechanisms we use to distract ourselves are sometimes in the form of overwork and being unable to relax and sit still, over-eating which acts as a form of comfort or perhaps alcohol or drugs may be used to help the sufferer from having to actively deal with the problem.
The choice of coping mechanism we choose to use is of course largely dependant on how we were pre-conditioned to respond in our early years.
Instead of using these self destructive coping mechanisms, we can learn to raise our tolerance levels and break free from our prison of self-imposed limitations with the regular practise of meditation.
danbo513
penecon
neku
kmustico