Week help: I’ve heard my roommate vomiting in the bathroom at night at least three times in the last week. - Help.com

Well, it’s true that the flu CAN last a week, so I wouldn’t jump to conclusions. But that being said, this is a really serious issue. The first step is to talk to her. Even if she is purging, it’s almost certain that she’ll deny it. But you’ll hopefully be able to gain some insight from talking to her. If you think she’s lying, or if you keep hearing her being sick after her “flu” should have passed, you need to tell someone right away.
If you know her family at all, you might want to go to them. Is this your roomate at college? If so, then you should talk to a college counselor or someone at your student health center, they are really well-equiped, and can tell you how to proceed without making it worse or freaking her out. The important thing is to react to the behavior by taking steps to help her out. You’re already being a great friend just by being concerned and asking for help!
g’luck

This is a very complicated situation. You want to be serious about what you’re doing, but at the same time be kind to her when confronting her about her “might be” illness. You call a helpful adult too to help with this problem, and you should also just call help immediantly if you notice at all signs that she has bulimia. Be careful though, if she only has the flu you shouldn’t let words tumble out your mouth too soon, because it might spread rumors. Just be calm and easy about it, if your suspicious about it, but if you know for sure, go ahead to get help. :) ~Anonymous Girl~

If she has an eating disorder, you should seek professional help on her behalf.

hi there,
im courtney.
ive suffered from eating disorders pretty much my entire life, including Bulimia.
Bulimia operates by making the sufferer ashamed. ashamed of themselves, thier body, their self image…mostly ashamed and disgusted at what they are doing. therefore your roomate will most likely be intensly embarresed if you confront her about it.
but hopefully maybe secretly pleased also.

The most important thing is that she has support. as TJ suggested, student counsellors are a fantastic place to start. this porblem is way too big for you or her to deal with on your own, and you will need the help of professionals trained to deal with the situation.
if i were you, i would keep a very close eye on her for the next few days. if she goes to the bathroom straight after eating, if you hear vomiting for much longer-if she incessantly brushes her teeth or starts to look swollen around her throat and face-those are pretty sure signs something is not right.
with her history id say its pretty safe to assume she is struggling, and the sooner she gets help the better.
being her friend is the most important thing. confontation can be scary, so be gentle but firm with her. dont take weak excuses, but dont accuse her either. give her the opportunity to open up to you. id start by simply asking how things are in her life. eating disorders are just the symptom of the deeper hurt, so try looking past that to whats really going on in her life.

good luck, feel free to shout me if you want any further advice.

awesome answer there gus. not. if you dont have something helpful to say, why not just stay away next time hmm.

my friend has bulimia..
at first i wanted her to stop..
for the longest time..
but.. i realized that
its her way to deal with her problems..
and i had my ways to deal with mine..
i just hope i can help her see that bulimia is wrong and let her learn herself..

its not that its “wrong” kche. its that its a dangerous, deadly illness that kills, and its mental torture for the sufferer.

well i didnt mean wrong in that sense..
i meant it more as it isnt the best form of venting or releasing pain becuase of its dangerous qualities..
sry if i offended u..

you didnt offend at all, its cool:)
just clarifying things

what…the ****…
bulimia is an illness you can die from, you retarded troll

carameliciou wrote:
If it’ll make her beautiful, let her do it for a while.

that seems like a pretty dumb thing to say.