life help: I owe a my ex-boyfriend 50,000 dollars and I need a creative way to make the money back so I can get him out of my life.

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I owe a my ex-boyfriend 50,000 dollars and I need a creative way to make the money back so I can get him out of my life.

Any suggestions?

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Luvvie 4 #
Toccoa, GA, US | 1 year, 12 months ago (1 minute after post)

Did you sign anything? If not, where’s the proof you borrowed the $$$?

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pacificcoastmonthl 0 #
Marina Del Rey, CA, US | 1 year, 12 months ago (2 minutes after post)

He wired it into my account. Plus I really want to do the right thing and pay him back.

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An Unknown Location | 1 year, 12 months ago (2 minutes after post)

that is typical..so, why not just afind another poor sucker to rip off, than lie about owing him too..sheesh, nice, real nice

sheesh

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pacificcoastmonthl 0 #
Marina Del Rey, CA, US | 1 year, 12 months ago (4 minutes after post)

I didn’t ask for the money he did it as a surprise to help me pay for my education and pay off debts. I think we both hoped we would get married. I wasn’t trying to rip him off.

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An Unknown Location | 1 year, 12 months ago (7 minutes after post)

sorry, it was the comment by Semmaf that set me off.

honey, if I knew how to make an extra 50,000, I would have done it already. sorry

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Axeman101 0 #
Littleton, CO, US | 1 year, 12 months ago (11 minutes after post)

Just because you owe him money why does he have to be in your life? Lots of people have mortgages with banks and I don’t see them having dinner with their bank managers? Sorry if that sounds flippant as I am sure your situation is not.

Is he using the money as some leverage to keep you in his life? Because you don’t have to put up with that. If that’s his attitude tell him you can’t be bought. Or at least not for as little as 50K!

It almost sounds like he intended it as a gift at the time. Good on you for wanting to pay him back. I wouldn’t worry about doing it all at once. As long as you are making a genuine attempt to pay him back then he shouldn’t have any complaints. Agree a payment plan you can both live with and automate the whole thing so you don’t have to speak to him.

If it gets ugly or he demands interest on it then seek some legal advice. I am pretty sure if he wired the money into your account without you soliciting it you could probably argue that it was a gift. It is in his own best interest to work with you on this one.

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New York, NY, US | 1 year, 12 months ago (22 minutes after post)

if this was money to pay off loans, you would have been paying it back slowly over time anyway. i understand not wanting to have to interact with him, for whatever reason, but any scheme to make $50,000 “real fast” might land you in a worse situation. my advice: (1) maybe a family member or a friend could loan you the money and you could work out a payment plan with them instead… or (2) talk to your ex and work out details on a payment plan with him - include a time frame, how often you send in payments, and if there will be interest. if you didn’t have a contract with him to begin with, you have a lot of flexibility here. (3) buy a scratch ticket and hope for the best. but don’t buy more than one!

i agree - good for you for wanting to do the right thing. it sounds like he tried to do something really nice for you. whatever the reason you are broken up and wanting distance now, he still did that for you then, and it is respectful to want to repay him.

good luck!

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pacificcoastmonthl 0 #
Marina Del Rey, CA, US | 1 year, 12 months ago (25 minutes after post)

Thank you guys for your helpful and sensible advice!! It is encouraging. Thanks

Luvvie 4 #
Toccoa, GA, US | 1 year, 12 months ago (1 day after post)

Well, to clarify what I said:
I am NOT suggesting that you rip anyone off, thank you very much, I know what it’s like to be left hanging and wouldn’t want it to happen to anyone else. It sounds like it was a gift to me and if you really don’t want this guy in your life just send him a money order every month for whatever you can afford.

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An Unknown Location | 3 months, 1 week ago (1 year, 8 months after post)

Why are you trying to get rid of him? He’s a nice guy - he helped you out alot! Why are you so selfish? I suggest you go read a book, do some relaxing and then think about your boyfriend again … look at his photo, you’ll probably realise that your actually a very lucky person to have someone like him in your life - don’t lose what you’ve got trying to chase after empty dreams …

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