Love help: I’m caught between two guys that I really love and I don’t know what to do… - Help.com

Ive been with someone who I really liked but who kept hurting me, I was in love with them so stupidly I forgave everything they did to me and took them back only for them to hurt me again. Trust me, if he has hurt you more than once already then stay with Scott, at least he’s not going to hurt you.

i would go with cameron, but arent u supposed to fall in love with someone, not just love them @ first site? and love should not make u scared, do what your heart says!

I learned this from personal experience recently, “Never, ever, ever settle for good enough. Find the love that’s too amazing to be called anything other than amazing and accept nothing else.”

It sounds like you’re using Scott. Maybe once you resolve the Cameron issue you’ll be free to fall in love with Scott or someone else. Good luck–I’m sure this is very painful.

I’m sure it can’t be easy. You don’t know what you want. Maybe Cameron is the passionate love of your life and rushing into his arms will lead to celestial music and eternal bliss. On the other hand, you may just want what you can’t have–we all have some of that Scarlett O’Hara blood in us. Are you willing to risk the “best boyfriend” to find out? What if you dump Scott and then discover HE was the love of your life? And what’s the alternative? Be disingenuous with Scott while you figure out the Cameron thing? Is Scott the sort of saintly person to whom you could say, “Look, I’ve got to resolve this other situation and see what it is I really want, because right now I’m not sure”? Did it occur to you that maybe neither of them is right, or you’d just KNOW?

It’s a delicious dilemma on one hand–but on the other hand, it’s stressful! It makes me glad I’m not young any more!

Good luck to you, my dear. I hope you make a happy choice.

poor scott.

I’m actually in the same situation with you hun… and it’s like I don’t know what to do… I’m thinking I’ll take a step back and see what happens…

Hi there. It happened to me before this thing. A good advice is to put thoose two guys in front of you (mentally of course). After you remove love from your soul, try to see what kind of person are they. How do you see them? How many common points do you have? What percentage do you fit in what you do on a daily basis? Wich one respects you more?
About your friend Cameron, you obviously broke up for a reason, will it still stands? What is it based upon?
To mee it seems that both them do not deserve you, because your soul should pop up and say: Yes! This is the one! but it doesn’t. You are also confused and lonely. That’s why you still want your ex boyfriend. If you are afraid of assuming decisions, life can punish you in a hard way, you know what they say: “Broking up hurts, but it hurts once, meanwhile making compromises all your life will hurt allways”.
Be yourself, don’t let the lack of options ruin your soul. Be a little more patient.

i am in the same situation right now