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sucks to be you dude.

she might have greater feelings for him than she is letting on if she doesn’t know if she is gunna break up with him tbh. there is a phrase that is useful here: once a cheater always a cheater. Take it easy mate and don’t force her to do anything. but be careful she sounds like a nasty peice of work and you can do better but if you do go for it be careful

i’ve never really seen the point in open relationships. you’re either with someone or not. not both. lol anyways…just be careful dude and don’t expect anything to happen. Just carry on as friends and anything more is a bonus.

I’ve just come out my most serious relationship to date, she turned round saturday and said she loves me more as a mate. What helped me, i dunno if it will work for you but try it if you like is write down your feelings. I thought it was daft when suggested to me, but it turned out 4 pages long and quite deep, it won’t work for everyone every time but it might help and it will help clear your head and show you what you want

ask her if this is the first time it’s happpend…. if shes had this happen before, thats definately not a good sign…. lets hope that this is a first and last and that u 2 can b happy together

Wow. She sounds a bit like me. I’ve been in a very similar situation for nearly 2 years and am now thinking about getting therapy because I don’t know how to fix it myself. The circumstances are somewhat different, ofcourse. Everyone has their own story. If you’d like to hear mine, you can email me. I enjoy talking about it, too. :)

Ah, yes. The classic case of a girl trying to have her cake and eat it too. I also have been “the cheat” in a relationship in which the girl was engaged. I was younger and in my “take what I can get” phase, and she was basically throwing herself on me. I didn’t know she was engaged at the time, and although she was en-route to ending the engagement, it still didn’t make me feel any better about it.

I would say this - she needs to decide, him or you. And no more of this open relationship bull crap. Open relationship = might as well not even be in a relationship in my book. From the sound of it, you can do much, much better my friend. Find someone that is 100% and then 25% more committed to you and her as a couple, and you’ll find happiness you never knew existed - and this is straight from someone who has been there.