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Right, I need some advice, this is the basic gist;

Well, after a very pleasant happy phase, my depression has returned, I knew it would, I just hoped it missed Christmas this year. I’m also not being very kind to myself, I seem to fail at the easiest of things in life. As well as all that I’ve sort of seen this guy who appears to like me, and I like him, he’s very kind and very quiet, well, he’s very quiet when he’s around me, I go quieter, he gets clumsy, I get even quieter. Then that’s the encounter over with.
I am so crap with the whole meeting people thing, I’m very blind when it comes to these matters. And I can’t help but think I should do something to let him know I’m interested. But like I said, I haven’t a clue, this sort of thing does not come natural to me. I also loose my ability to string a half coherent sentence together.

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Axeman101 offline Verified User (9 months) Long Term User Shouts: 0 #
Littleton, CO, US | 8 months, 3 weeks ago (22 minutes after post)

Write him a letter. You never have to send it to him. But the act of writing out your thoughts might make it easier to speak to him next time you see him.

And instead of thinking big heavy thoughts like, are we destined to be together, try starting a conversation about something you have in common or something he might know a lot about and you are interested in.

Ask him a leading question rather than a closed one i.e. a question he can’t just say ‘yes’ or ‘no’ to.

Make a list of some in advance and rehearse them in front of the mirror if that helps.

Just focus on talking to him a little each time you see him. Even if it is just a hello and a smile. Over time it should get easier.

Good luck

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An Undisclosed Location | 8 months, 3 weeks ago (1 hour, 51 minutes after post)

Thanks Axeman101.

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Axeman101 offline Verified User (9 months) Long Term User Shouts: 0 #
Littleton, CO, US | 8 months, 2 weeks ago (3 days, 23 hours after post)

Any progress?

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