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you’re the kinda guy who keeps it real.. thats a really great quality to have :P

I like you.
You are never nasty or rude (not to me anyway, or that I have seen)
You are good at dieing advice.
You are a nice person to talk to without feeling like you want to be some place else.

You are who you are and so what ifyou goto the cinema alone, I mean you only sit and watch a film without talking to anyone even if you go with a huge crowd or not so you may as well be alone.
Whats wrong with going for a walk, you are not hurting anyone and you are not doing anything wrong, so why be worried about that, it sounded quite nice actually, to be able to wander like that not knowing where you will end up.

Don’t change who you are just because of other people, let them live their life how they want and you how you want. No one can understand you like you do so keep yourself happy and aslong as it does not hurt anyone else, sod the rest!

Why did I put dieing advice?? O_o How bizarre was that.
I meant “giveing advice”

Sorry dan, had to delete both replies up there. You went and quoted the one I was deleting so I got yours too. Sorry about that, don’t take offense please! :)

Aww Dan.. Be happy cuz you’re an awesome person i have never heard a mean thing from you. you shouldn’t be sad that ppl have to make fun of others to be happy.. ignore them and i wish i could wonder around…

Be Happy Dan :)

Look Dan, with the experience and deep heart you have at your age you’re not going to find others your same age who will give you the respect and caring you give them, or that you deserve!
Unfortunately that’s just how it works. I experienced it, and every deep, sincere soul I know has experienced the same thing. You are obviously liked and loved on this site. You give without measure and eventually you’ll experience the same in your ‘real’ life one way or another. Hang in there and in the meantime know this:

YES, WE LIKE YOU. WE LOVE YOU AT LEAST MY LIFE WOULD BE LESS WITHOUT SEEING YOU AROUND

Merry Christmas, and thanks for all the help you’ve given me with oyur posts the last few days. it helped!

Those people at the cinema were just stupid! From what I know from your posts I think you seem like a really great guy. I know how you feel though. I spend my days alone and often find myself wondering what’s wrong with me.. but actually, as much as I wish I had people around me, I still kind of enjoy walking alone aimlessly just thinking sometimes.. but it could be cause it’s all I know..

I do yeah

I have been that long haired loner guy… I know what it is like. Work made me cut it. Or I would still be that guy. Odd how it changed peoples out look of me. I also go walking randomly. Just be sure to carry a pack of smokes with you. I do not smoke but, people who do will tell you anything you want to know when you offer them a cig. They probably would not have given you the time of day had you payed them money but, they will answer any question for that cig… We are the type of people that have to initiate conversation, otherwise people are just to intimidated by us. Not because we are scary. Because we are out side the level of there comfort zone.

Find a youth group or adventure group to join. Give me your city and I will see what I can come up with. Feel like possibly joining a volunteer S.A.R. group?

Hahaa… We love you. Help.com just plain loves you. You give good advice, you never insult anyone, you are helpful. Just because you like taking walks and being a loner sometimes, that doesnt make you any less interesting (actually makes you more interesting, imo, more to learn) or good. But well, you know that don’t you?

hey man u sound more like me than i thought :P … well i use to go to the beach at times alone and sit and enjoy the sunset and enjoy the waves and stuff but i use to see couples there most of the times it really use to hurt me to see them and i was alone with no girl ,, my girl , where is she ,, what is she doing … i wondered… no answers… so then i decided that i will not go there anymore cause i was getting worst instead of getting better and relaxing so now i have no place to go…
i told u this so that u realize it is not only you who is alone and have no place to go and stuff… :) and we are not the only persons that are going threw this :)…

it is hard i know , i know …

u are a gr8 guy and i hope u find a girl that understand you and be there for ya , when the time gets hard on you…
my best wishes for you…

dont listen to the ppl in this world , they dont have a clue about what life is they are just acters ( in general)…

yup, i like you. dont know what else to say. but youve always been nice to me, youre not nasty and you dont get involved with arguments. so yeah, i like you

Of course Dan TL! I have seen some of your posts and responses here and you have been nothing but kind and supportive of many who come on here seeking advice or someone to lend an ear or just listen. You have brought light into other’s lives just by being you and by being here. I am positive that you also are like this offline too.

I think many of the greatest thinkers and philosphers in this world would spend their time alone processing various thoughts and clearing the cob webs in their minds. It is good to be introspective and gain insight through quiet observation. As someone who works in the arts I find myself doing this quite a bit too (sometimes getting new ideas or mulling over various details.) And as for going to the movies alone I also do this. I have often gone out to eat alone or to have a glass of wine and watch the sunset alone. I even like to travel alone (of course I meet new and interesting people this way too!) Although sometimes it feels lonely I think it can be very rewarding… you can hear yourself think! That was a silly thing for that person in the theater to say. He/she doesn’t know how to appreciate or experience their life without someone else in it. While it is truly is a wonderful to have someone else in our lives, it really isn’t always possible. Learning to love and respect ourselves and take some time out for ourselves is a valuable thing to know. As I mentioned before you sound like a very passionate and intelligent person with much ambition and drive. From what I know of you here it seems you have a fine balance of social, emotional and academic intelligence. I imagine you will go far! Don’t set limits on yourself. Theres a lot of great stuff happening in your mind!

I think you should celebrate YOU this Christmas …whether or not you believe it about yourself - you are an amazing individual! :)

of course i like you
i always have
♥
don’t forget that baby

i like u a lot, woudn´t mind hanging out with ya anytime, lol. I go out alone too, go to the movies, eat alone, go to bars alone, etc etc. Nothing wrong with that. But I just want to make a difference, u r too negative, too pessimistic: ‘I don´t have a love life, never have, never will’ … :S what´s that about??

don´t lock urself in a comfortable lonely place just because u got used to be alone. I know u´ve been dissapointed by ppl a lot in the past, but just don´t stay in the same rutine or doing everything alone, if u want something, go out there and get if, it u want to have more friends, socialize more, have more relationships, then u have to be more active, don´t wait for things to just happen, u can go out but try to find ways to just talk to ppl, any1, talk to the waiter, to the person next to u on the bus, just talk to ppl, don´t stay quiet and go everywhere with a sad face, if u want change, progress, then u have to start with your attitude in life. Try to live each of ur days with as much contact with ppl as u can, just show urself easy to approach, take the initiative, changes will follow I´m sure, just take risks, nothing to lose really.

Take good care Dan :)

i think some people’s intellect is far beyond thier years. for someone who is never alone, i often rely on bits of selfless inspiration and moments in nature to refresh myself and heal me. i’ve seen alot of your posts and replies… and i will say you have what most peolple dont seem to see much of anymore…
a soul.

you have a very strong spirit dont let ‘being alone’ damper that. and yes; i like you very much. i could see myself showing you the latest lyrics of my song, the first person i handed my novel to. you’re real and inspiring i wish more poeple saw what you had and took hold of it. someday you’ll find someone who wont mind sitting on the beach and watching the first sunrise…
and you wont be alone. and you never are- you have your thoughts and dreams to guide you dont look too far from what you already have.
Best wishes and love, merry christmas to all.

Awww. Dan, yes I like u:) youre such a sweet, loving, and caring guy. How can anyone not like you…youre one of the best friends that I have..youre enccouraging, loving..and i love talking to u..u make me happy…:)
ur an awesome guy:) and DONT ever let anyone tell u otherwise..

Thanku for everything Dan..youre sweet:)

Well i dont know you really, but from what i do know i like you.

as for your two points:

1 - well yah people dont usually go to the movies alone and like u say “only 2 people that could of gone”. You should try to make more than two friends.

2- no seriously i would love to be able to do that.

Dan,
Of course I like you. What’s not to like?
I have 3 friends off of this site that are similar. Two are directors and one works with online film ditribution. All 3 gentlemen have long hair and seen films alone regularly. Perhaps those people were intimidated or merely limited someway (see Ames’ post).
As for the hiking issue: What if you picked out some places you have always wanted to see, or even developed some favorite places locally? Perhaps you could even take a journal. You are a very deeply sensitive, talented person and I hate to see your adventures end in experiences that make you feel so badly about yourself.
I love writing cards as well. People do really appreciate them and reciprocate. Sigh, I want you to have that too.
I am glad that you are taking care of yourself even though you feel lonely - doubt it will last much longer though. Look at how many of us like you :) There will be people in your environment that will see that too. (see mauri post)

I have read your profile and also have read post and replies that you have authored and with your experience you would think that would give you profound point of view of things.

I have to admit that seem much wiser than me. Maybe someday we will meet and i will see what kind of person you are. but one thing is clear right now you seem like a good person. I like good people , so yes i like you.

I hope you are not posting this cause you did something bad.

by the way i take long walks by myself all the time.

yeah i like you u nice, helpful, resourceful, never pesstimistic towards me, and you are very smart

i dont know whats not to like

I like you. Of course, I also have gone to movies by myself and wandered around aimlessly by myself until I found myself in places where I probably wasn’t supposed to be.

Hi Dan,
I don’t know you but after reading your post I asked myself does this person like himself. If you are not in a good place with yourself then you may attract or find yourself around people and places that bring you down. Find what you like about yourself. Pick something that you are good at doing and do it. During our journey through life there are many lessons to be learned. Instead of trying to find people that like you find your path in life and grow. Learn from you mistakes and keep growing. There are many content people who do things by them self and still enjoy the world around them. Being alone or lonely that is the question. When you are not searching for something that is when you will find it.
Hope you take this in a positive way. And keep out of the ditches.

Yes..Dan..we do like u..ur such a great guy:) and ur a good friend..thanku for everything:)

Dan I have never spoken to you before, going for a walk or to a movie by yourself is not wierd. I used to do it all of the time. I used to get up when I was single at 5am to take and walk by myself and watch the sun come up over the mountains I called it my time to go inside myself and appreciate what is around me. Maybe that walk you took and ended up there was for a reason.
I used to be a very shy person and literally had to force myself to talk to people I didn’t know and then I would always say something stupid. I had to force myself to change and now I’m in sales…go figure…lol.
We are a very social animal and sometimes we put to much on the socialization aspect. Sometimes it is better to be alone.
Good Luck and you can shout to me anytime you would like.

Dan, I can’t say that I never felt negative. But it’s a good thing that it does last to long. So you it sounds like you removed another road block and things are looking up. Happy for you!!!

I am new at this site and trying to figure what everything means. Like “shouts”; what is “my posts” is a reply not a post??? or is a post your profile. just a confused user. I see you are a long time user and thought you may have some answers.

You seem like a totally chill person. One who is calm and keeps to themselves and doesn’t make a fuss to anyone. People are so rude, even when you have done nothing to them. That is something that I have encountered myself. You appear to be one of those really great dependable friends everyone wishes to have. My only question to you is, who wouldn’t like you?

You seam rather interesting, I hardly know you and yet kind of reminds me of myself ,yes, I like you.

I like you. You appear to have more self confidence than most people. It takes guts to go to a movie alone, to go to the beach alone, to walk alone in busy business places. It sounds like God made you to be a writer or an artist.

I’m the female driving alone cross country, the one walking her dog alone, the one at the library alone, grocery shopping alone. You remind me of myself. I like you.

You know something you can be alone in a crowd of people it happens all of the time.