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I’m having girl problems.
I’ve never had a girlfriend before, this might shine some light. I told a girl that I liked her and she says she liked me back. She broke up with her boyfriend which I assume the reason was so she can give me a chance. I’ve slept over at her place where we just laid and kind of held eachother. We’ve walked home from school twice even though we live four miles away from it. I just have no confidence at all in holding a relationship. It’s all so new to me. I’m worried that we’ll just be friends or not even that. I feel like **** because I can’t always be the same with her as I was when we were friends. She wants time to get over her old boyfriend I get that, but she told she had been trying to make me hate her. She said she’s sorry and thinks it was stupid but I think I do hate her now, I’m trying to brush it off as a stupid game but bdalkhaflkmahfldk. What am I doing wrong? Am I thinking about it too much? I think too much. Am I too clingy or something? Do you think she’s feeling the same as me? This stuff makes me wish I was dead (more like never got into it at all). Like some people find it strange but I have gone long periods of time without having crushes on anyone, I’m a picky (not shallow, I’m picky) guy and this girl feels so good to me when she’s around me. But having a relationship with her makes me feel like **** right now. If she reads this she’ll know exactly who wrote it but it really doesn’t bother me if she does. Someone try to take the time to focus on my post and just try to give me some help or a word of courage.
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you prob don;t want to be with her because ur aware she hadn’t been faithful with her last partner, so you might be thinking whether she would be faithful to you as her last relationship might not show she has the capability.
she could treat you the same way and maybe make people hate you behind your back?
you want some1 to love you for the way you are.
do you know why she split with her ex? asking her that might tell you a lot more about who she is. i would.
Post a reply Man, rember this, its an ols saying>>> Dont put all your eggs into one basket!
Why do yu think you don’t want to be with her?
when i first my husband, i liked him straight away and new i wanted to marry him after a week, but he never even knew i liked him, we were “just friends” and went skateboarding all the time together, i never hit on him or hugged him or anything but i was in love with him! so i guess i was just stupid about the whole thing! but you have to just let things happen naturally sometimes even if it means being just friends for a while, she probably wants to get to know you completely before she commits herself. and if things dont work out it is her loss
she should be trying to make you happy too! even if that means just always paying attention to you and putting you first over her friends. you sound so sweet! its nice that you want to make her happy, but she needs to strive to make you happy too, its the little things that count like giving you the last peice of a cookie hhehe.. i dont know! its hard to say with out knowing both of your personalities. becuase i am a complete cheese ball and i still write “i love patrick”(my husbands name) on my hand, and weve been married a year!im at work right now so its hard to focus on what i wanna say! this is the first time ive replied to this sort of thing, its just that it is a familiar situation and i wanna help.
if she she deserves you she should never be bored around you, im sure youd like being with her even if you werent doing anyhting! maybe shes not bored! but if she is she doesnt deserve you! i mean it!, you deserve someone who always wants to be near ya even if youre doing nothing at all.
let me know what ya think
- i was in the middle of typing something to you but i deleted it all cuz your absolutely right! hey! and dont get discouraged, i never had a boyfriend till i was 21, no lie!, he turned into my husband haha, i was very picky like yourself,but hey, when you find the right one youll be so glad you waited i promise!
i know everything will work out for you becuase you deserve it!good luck !
i was just gonna say that you should talk to her and let her know what your thinking . if she doesnt appreciate how you feel about her than she doesnt derserve you, if she really likes you for who you are as she says, then shell be happy you told her! so theres nothing to lose!!!. it sounded better the first time i wrote it, then i read what you wrote and it sounded like you had it all figured out! hehe.becuase everything you said was so right! so just be confident! and try not to be negative! i know its hard cuz im the same way sometimes, and its easy to be paranoid when you like someone so much! if you always focus on things that could be negative you might miss out on the positive things-ekk im so stupid i should practice what i preach, my husband made me breakfast this morning and started the car for me becuase it was freezing out and i still got sad at him for something he sad on the phone earlier that was completely innocent! and why did i get sad! ?because im to negative ah crap haha! he didnt mean anything by it ! he was shouting at the fact his mom threw a way a table he wanted, but i thought he was shouting at me lol and i got sad .i think im just to sensitive lol, i should call him now!, sorry to go off on a tangent! haha, but your right, and by talking to ya i realise i was being a bit stupid to day. he you know what your doing! dont sell your self short!, youve helped me with my relationship today ,and im the one whose married a year lol
i hope i was helpful, i feel like i wann quite while im ahead so i dont give you any bad advice haha, and before you think im a freak! i liked talking to you. i hope your happy ! and i hope your confident becuase you should be! yougo0d luck! and happy christmas!! if you celebrate christmas ,that is. if not , happy holidays!
and i should get back to work lol im not doing anything but talking to you haha, bye beye
hehe thank you !
hey hey come back! write back another day! okay! ill check back on ya!
when i dont have anything to say , or there is akward silence i say “sooooooo……do you like stuff?..?…? ” then you usually get a reply someting like ” huh ? waht do ya mean?” then you can say something like” do you prefer things …or stuff?” it always gets a laugh and gets you caught in a twenty minute conversation about somehting thta doest really make too much sence at first but but at the end of it youll know if you prefer things our stuff! i must say that I like things more than stuff. or if that doesnt work you can always take her hand and challenge her to a thumb wrestle war, moving your thumb back and fourth saying 1…2..3..4.. i declare a thumb war…5…6…7…8… i hope this thumb war is great… and just play and have fun, you can also ask her to teach you a patty cake game,” like i went to a chinese restaraunt” thatll get ya both laughing a s you try to play. dont let it get you down if you dont haver anything to talk about , it can be a good sign, theres usually more silence between people when they are comfortable being around eachother, my husband and i havent done much talking the past couple days but yesterday we had fun painting eachothers faces, heres some other things you can do when there is nothing to say.:
-have a paper airplane making contest- see whos will go the farthest or can do the coolest loopty loop
-play with her hair
-make pb and j sammiches
-make pancake art~add food colouring and chocolate chips etc and try to make cool shapes in the frying pan
-do a jigsaw puzzle
-try to make spit wads stick to the ceiling(if its your own house or bedroom)
-if your outside pick a target like a tree or a rock in the road and see who can hit it first by throwing pebbles
-have a snowball fight or build a snowman or make snow angels
you can always talk about you your favorite movies. and play a game of” guess the movie” taking turns saying quotes and guessing what movies there from; also you can look up quizes onlijne and play together. share embarassing memories like if you secretly liked the backstreet boys when you were ten haha
-you can also have drwawing contest! let her pick the first thing . it could be a bird or sumthing, you dont even have to be good at drawing! haha, the very first time my husband and i hung out, we had a drawing contest, we drew robots and birds it was a lot of fun! you cant show eachother what youve drawn until your both done, i cant draw at all so i usualy just draw sumthing funny looking hehe.
- also you can have a staring contest, the first one to smile loses!
theres lots of fun things to do if there is nothing to talk about! just get creative, play games you played when you were kids
it will usualy get ya talking about somthing!
**here are some things to talk about when you dont know what to tlk about:
ask her what christmas was like when she was a kid: when did she find out santa wasnt real?, the easter bunny? etc, what was her favourite present any other holiday ?family memories bad or good, what was school like when she was a kid, did she fight with any one or what were her favourite games, get her to talk about her child hood and you can share your memopries, its always nice talking a stroll down memory lane hehe,. take turns telling eachother secrets about yourself like if you have a dinasour-shaped toe or a fear of bunnys . talk about bad memories tooo- like getting kicked out of school or a resturaunt hehe, when my husband and i were first seeing eachother i used to make a list of things to talk about with him, and when id call him i wuold have a list of questions and things to tell him incase i got nervous and couldnt think of anyhting to say, also i made a list of things to do with him, i would jot ideas down when ever i thought of them so i wouldnt forget! for example he had never had macaroni and cheese lol! so i planned on making him mac and cheesewhen he was over- with ketchup! theres lots of things to do !,some people say to watch a movie but i think thats not always a good idea because you can wathc a movie with anyone!you should do somthing that will help yuou get to know eachother, even like learning a foriegn language togethre(french spanish clingon)or if she knows a language impress her by sayinging somehting sweet to her in that language. its okay if its really cheesey if you say it in a freaign language haha oh my gosh ive been wrting a lot and i could keep on writing ! i have a lot more ideas too so just ask. oh heres anohter one you can give eachother fake tatoos. does she like to draw? ask her to draw a picture on hyour arm and then dont wash it for like a week hehe! my husband and i drew mathing hearts on our hands and he didnt let it get washed off- i just loved that lol. and ask her i you can draw somehting on her back or arm. good fun good fun! okay then good luck, i hope this helps1
if you want to talk about somthiong serious, than do one of theings above first to get her to feel comfortable and to help you relax, let her know you wanna talk about somehting, even just by saying “can i tell you something” or “theres somehting i reelay want to ask you”, if you dont feel comfortable doing thattry getting her to talk first, by asking her if theres anything she ever wants to say but doesnt have anyone who she can tell” even if it takes alot of akward silence before you build up the courage to say waht you wanna say it will be worth it, and if shes worth it she will wanna listen and shes gonna be just as nervous as you. sometimes its good to just let there be an akward silence and wait till she trys to say somehting, sometimes we worry so much about what they are gonna say next that we dont give our complete attention,sometimes it best to just sit back relax and let her think about what to sya or do hehe, you might learn something new about her that you would of never got the chance top learn other wise
haha! crazy! oh goodness hehe its true, i was meant to find ya
explain that a little bit more, what are you paranoid about?
yes you are just being paranoid! it doesnt really make sense that she would use another girl to get you away from her, think aboout this-cuz why would that girl agreee? then she would also have to get you awayy somehow haha! hey dont you even worry! that girl really probabaly just liked ya! hey you are just being paranoid! and its okay and its not that unusual but you just gota keep reminding yourself that you are being paranoid! do you feel comfortable enuf to share how you feel with your girlfriend, heheh so shes technically your girlfriend now? just let her know and if she really cares for you the way she should she will help you over your paranoia by saying things and doing things to reassure you! go for it! tell her stuff!
yeah that would be akward i dont know really, im no expert, you can only do so much and then you have to let eveything fall into place, i dont know what the heck everyone means by chemistry, you like someone or you dont ~i think??!, I loved Patrick straight away, we were both paranoid a lot, cuz we were both just to shy to let eachother know how we felt, he was never even technically my boyfriend he was just the boy i loved ! i dont know how it all works but when its right it just doest, you just cant worry, but if you believe in praying, pray a lot that helps, the best thing is to not worry and keep telling yourself it will work out if its meant too, if your really meant for eachother , nothing can break you a part, just enjoy your time together right now
i dont think she should be talking about her ex-boyfriend, she should be focusing on you and if she has to compare you to him she doesnt know what she wants,when you love someone you shouldnt have to compare them, you cant compare themm to anyone, it could be that you are just too good for her, if things dont work out -you cant let it get you down, your stilll young and you have all the time in the world, you dont have to go finding love, it comes to you when you least expect it! i swear!
i cant say for sure because its not me, but it sounds like shes not serious, there is no way in heck she should be visiting or hanging out with her ex! grrr that really makes me so freaking mad!!! it really p’s me off, im sorry to say but i would drop her, you are way better thqan that! im soo serious, that should never happen,! you should even re post that last part as a new post to see what other people say! i think everyone will agreee. im really sorry but thats just not right. you cant let it get you down, i really mean it you desereve better. get out before it gets too messy, even if you still have feelings for her, run away fast before she shreds your heart to bits. im really mad right now, that just ruined my day.
daggers to my heart.
girls are dumb!!, most of em! theyre always playing mind games and complicating everything, im a big tomboy so im an exception ;)
sorry if my last comment mad you sad, im just really mad at her. at the end of the day ..you know whats best not me.
no i dont have aim
hey i dont tknow what ta say but i just wish ya the best of luck! and dont forget you deserve the best
girls are so confusing ive been threw alot of **** before and you just have to talke to her about it and tell her how you feel
you’re a ******.
eff aye gee gee oh tee
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oh and good luck with your girl problems sweetie! !! ! !
are you sure its not a dude?
why didnt you ask your mom for help?
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