life help: my problem z funny but it makes me so nervious and for me it’s - Help.com

Go to camp, helps build leadership and confidence =)

i don’t think that i have such things here i n the area where i live …but thnx anyway

Well doesn’t have to be close to you, go to another state or another country. It works.

Maybe you care about what people think about you, or just don’t wanna get anyone’s attention? Especially people you know? You don’t have to express yourself with people if you can’t find the words to, but you can express yourself in that one thing you really like to do, even you haven’t done it yet, try to do it and put all your heart onto it. Or when you have to do something, do it like it’s the end of the world tomorrow…

Camp, and also work. Find a job. That works too.

well, ya , thnx for all of u

self-help books? ummm…. lets see… do something you’re reeeaallllyyyy good @…

gosh..I get like that sometimes even now and i’m 30..! Don’t worry, you will learn to deal with those anxieties….honest :-) x

really.. i thought i am weird ..u relieved me that there z somebody like me… i hope ill get through this soon …

Did anything change lately that could explain your anxiety, like a bad experience, stress, competition you aren’t used to, something else?

well , ya .. i had something that was a real shock for me …i isolated myself for a long time thinking of the problem … but as i mentioned i was so social i loved everybody ..and all my friends loved to sit especielly with me coz i was talkative..i used to make amazing presentations in my college ..
i am really so stressed and afraid that i won’t reach the piont i was at again ..

Listen, if something happened that shocked you, there are two options.
First option is that you failed somehow while being socially active and talkative, or at least think you failed. In this case, you have to find the courage to try again. We all make mistakes sometimes, even the best public speakers can freeze up in the wrong circumstances. If what happened to you has shaken your confidence in speaking, you have to rebuild this confidence. Set up some tasks for yourself that are comparatively easy, so you’ll do well. If necessary, practice on complete strangers so no-one you know will be watching. Once you have practiced in a safe environment, you’ll regain enough confidence to get back in the saddle. Remember that you’ve been there before: you don’t need to learn anything new, just remember what you did before.
The second option is that whatever happened that shocked you left you shaken and is effecting your confidence. I find that some tasks, like acting social, speak out and be friendly all the time, come easily to me when I’m feeling great, but are very hard when I’m down. That’s because they are skills I didn’t acquire easily and cost me energy. When I don’t feel good, or am self-conscious, I don’t have the energy to spend on them and everything seems twenty times as difficult as when I’m feeling good. It could also be that you don’t feel too good about yourself right now. That automatically makes you more critical of yourself, noticing the bad rather than the good. Practising and building up confidence might still work here, but it could be more constructive to work on the root of the problem, being the thing that makes you feel bad or is lowering your self-esteem.

thnx alot…tht makes sense thanks for ur help

You’re welcome. Good luck.