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what’s going on exactly? What is making you feel this way?

i think focusing on something else will help ya get over it …

If you do it for the pain, try pinching real hard. You get the pain, the feeling but not the scars. Try explaining those when you’re 30!

What is bothering you right now?

Is he avoiding you or maybe he just got busy with xmas stuff? Sounds like there is something unresolved between the two of you. Did you do something wrong? did he? did you just drift apart? You could call him on xmas or write a letter telling him how you feel, and asking how he feels. Sometimes I get so worked up and then it turns out there is a reasonable explanation (as to why he didn’t call)

Some people can handle others depression, some can’t. Its just too sad and hard to try and “make” a depressed person happy. I hope you know the only person that can make you happy is yourself.

I’m sorry he told you that calling you wasn’t a priority. That hurts! It might be best to let him go if that is what he wants to do. Still sucks but those things happen in life. THere is always crappy stuff like that, but there is always GOOD stuff too. Sometimes theres not an equal balance (more bad than good) but it does eventually balance out.

How long have yu been depressed? Have you talked to anyone outside the internet like a therapist? I spent 10 years very depressed and SLOWLY but SURELY I got out of it. Still get depressed but am working on ways to stop myself when I start “going down that road” to becoming depressed. Things DO get better!

Yes, do talk to him. Even if you do lose a friend, at least this won’t become something for you to dwell on. It can be resolved and you can move on with or without him.

You need to tackle this depression. It;s not normal to be that way all the time. It’s not NECESSARY either! It’s really important to get the right therapist for YOU. You may have to go through a dozen to find a good fit. Yes, you can get yourself happy on your own, but a therapist can help you speed the process up. Why take 10 years like I did. Let them help.

Try some books too. I’m reading some really great ones now (Secrets of the Millionaire Mind by T. Harv Eker… probably at your local library) and OG Mandino books are excellent. Very motivational (about $4 used/shipped from Amazon.com)

I still think about killing myself to this date, but it is only once in a while, not every day like it used to be! That is not really an option anymore because I have a 3 year old. She NEEDS me. I must live. Even if you keep yourself alive out of not wanting to put YOUR FAMILY through the utter total living hell of losing you, than thats what you need to do. It DOES get better. But, you have to work on it. Daily

I am way more happy than I was at 15. I have come a LONG way and have a long way to go. What does it for me is figuring out exactly WHAT it is that makes me unhappy and DO things to change those circucmstances. Life really, truly is what you create it to be. If you are unhappy, YOU have to work on fixing those things that keep you that way. Be willing to change. Be willing to give up depression. You can actually be kind of addicted to being depressed. (says me)

Sorry I am goingon and on but I know how it is and I know how much better YOU CAN MAKE IT BE!

Hang in there! and get help (however it works best for you, therapists, books, this site). Your parents might be more supportive than you know. Maybe they have been there too (just learned this year how depressed/suicidal my mom was about the time I was 1… it can run in families)

Hang in there!

Don’t you dare!!!!! why do you do that to yourself? gosh! the thought makes me want to burst into tears!! please don’t!!

Ugh, cutting.
People just do it to make things seem worse, more important. To feel more sorry for themselves.
Anyway ..
He might have a problem.
Maybe something happened to him? Something he might feel guilty about or sad or whatever.
But just because he doesn’t call you, doesn’t mean you need to cut yourself.
If it hurts you he doesn’t call, why hurt yourself MORE?

Maybe by a red pen and when you have the urge draw on something

b-a-ha wrote:
Ugh, cutting.
People just do it to make things seem worse, more important. To feel more sorry for themselves.

That is not true. I used to cut myself as a teenager (now 33 and well adjusted) I cut to feel something. I literally felt numb, no happiness, no sadness, just nothingness. It’s a horrible way to be. Cutting allowed me to feel alive, to feel SOMETHING. So, your perception may be true in some cases, but please don’t apply that to everyone.

pillsburydogir wrote:

b-a-ha wrote:
Ugh, cutting.
People just do it to make things seem worse, more important. To feel more sorry for themselves.

That is not true. I used to cut myself as a teenager (now 33 and well adjusted) I cut to feel something. I literally felt numb, no happiness, no sadness, just nothingness. It’s a horrible way to be. Cutting allowed me to feel alive, to feel SOMETHING. So, your perception may be true in some cases, but please don’t apply that to everyone.

When I said people I didn’t mean everyone, soz.

I understand exactly how you feel.
my advice- try writing poetry. or a story. or just write how you feel.
that’s exactly what I do…
I do that, ride my bike for hours, and just leave my house for hours to look at pretty things. Call a friend just to talk.
It helps.
Except it hasn’t kicked in for me yet. but i know it will.
try it.

i know what it fells like too want to cut so if you what to talk im here