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Well, how to begin.

About 5 and a half months ago I started to fall for a girl who is in band with me. I am not very good with girls so I was discureged from the start but over time I have fallen madly in love with this girl. She is a year older than me and we are good freinds but I fear it will never be anything more if I don’t tell her. Everybody else knows I love her and I think she knows to but I just dont know. I am starting to think I should get over my self but I’ve never felt this way about a girl before and I’ve had a hard upbringing. So I;m defensive and sometimes an *** but I don’t want to be. I wish someone would tell me what to do. If anyone outhere can give advice dont be afraid to.

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philosophical offline Verified User (9 months, 3 weeks) Long Term User Shouts: 7 #
Wadhurst, E2, GB | 9 months, 3 weeks ago (13 minutes after post)

Thats a really hard situation to be in, i’ve been there myself. If i’ve learnt anything it’s that you should grab the moment if it presents itself, be patient in the mean time and don’t give up always be there and show that you care about her. Flirting is always good. Just assess each situation you are in and if it feels right to say it then do so.

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sunxfyre offline Verified User (1 year, 3 months) Long Term User Shouts: 3 #
An Unknown Location | 9 months, 3 weeks ago (17 minutes after post)

You remind me of me. But somehow the girls usually end up asking me out, weird how things turn out for me sometimes.

If you say you two are good friends then I think you’re on the right track, just get to know her better and let her get to know you. Im sure you’ll get a chance, and like philosophical said, “you should grab the moment if it presents itself”.

Well anyway, wouldn’t hurt to check out this site, helped me a lot, its highworld.com/romance/index.php

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Cloverdale, BC, CA | 9 months, 3 weeks ago (23 minutes after post)

Just do what is needed!! YA-HA!

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sunxfyre offline Verified User (1 year, 3 months) Long Term User Shouts: 3 #
An Unknown Location | 9 months, 3 weeks ago (25 minutes after post)

Ian? =)

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Cloverdale, BC, CA | 9 months, 3 weeks ago (33 minutes after post)

huh?! how you know?! O.O whaaa!! stalker!! >.< omg XD

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aget offline Unverified User #
Indianapolis, IN, US | 9 months, 3 weeks ago (1 hour, 14 minutes after post)

Hey Philosophical thanks I think your right but i wont know till i try

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philosophical offline Verified User (9 months, 3 weeks) Long Term User Shouts: 7 #
Wadhurst, E2, GB | 9 months, 3 weeks ago (1 hour, 31 minutes after post)

No problem. Keep smiling and keep your chin up. It takes time but things will be alright in the end, whether it’s the way you wanted them to work out or not.

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KW | 9 months, 3 weeks ago (3 hours, 22 minutes after post)

my adivce to you.. you go and tell her .. i love you.. and ask her out.. if she accept then its fine.. if she didnt accept , you will get over it . because love from one side is hard. and when you tell her .. you will know if you can be with her or not.. if you can be her lover or just a friend.

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notorious_clove offline Verified User (9 months, 3 weeks) Long Term User Shouts: 2 #
London, 17, GB | 9 months, 3 weeks ago (7 hours, 51 minutes after post)

I’ll spank the next person that blames all their problems on a ‘hard upbringing’.
THIS is NOW and its your job to make yourself happy.
You won’t make yourself any more miserable than you already are if she says no, you have an opportunity that might make you happy, why are you running away from it?

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sunxfyre offline Verified User (1 year, 3 months) Long Term User Shouts: 3 #
An Unknown Location | 9 months, 3 weeks ago (12 hours, 5 minutes after post)

go up to a girl and say I love you?

…not sure if thats a good idea.

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