Love help: Now i’m losing my mind. - Help.com

i wish i could say i know how to help most i can say is hang out with alot of friends and make it clear to them that you want to clear your mind. i right now going tro something similar but not as bad as you

Thats a fantastic answer Morningdew89.

If it doesn’t work first time should it be repeated until it works?

Thanks.

I will remember this next time I fall in love.

I like that too Morningdew :) there is a great deal to be said for somatic psych.

I’m curious under what conditions do you find yourself thinking of her. Isolate those conditions, and say way from them. It takes about 21 days for new neural pathways to be created in the brain. I’m talking the physical nerve paths in the brain that create “habits”. You have a “habit” of thinking of her. You need to create a new habit. It takes about a month… or more if you cannot be disciplined about it. Everyday… for the next month, focus on someone else… try yourself in the mirror… look at your self, and tell yourself you love you! If you have to love someone…yourself is a good place to start!
Bright blessings ~ Richard

Are you dating her? Or is she just a “crush?”

Hmmmmmmmmmm…sounds quite interesting…DOES the ‘boyfriend’ really treat her right, take care of her? Or is he just ‘using’her? I would just continue to be friends with her, and be there for her if things go wrong. You never know what might happen from there on out.

Trust me, just be there as a friend for her, she will appreciate it in the long run. I know that is probably a difficult thing to do especially if you have feelings for her..friends before lovers! *winks* *smiles*

Just try not to force the ‘issue’ she will come around if she wants too, if not, her loss

That happens to the best of us…drink a few, and our mouths go in overdrive. Hang in there, and don’t give up! *SMILES*

hi, i’m the girl who you replied to saying it sounded like your girl might be thinking similar things… not sure if that’s so or not but i’ll try and help! like you said, you need honesty, and putting it off is going to make things harder all round. chances are she wants to get this stuff off her chest too but is finding it hard to face up to (esp as she has the option of just sticking with this other guy, even if he’s a loser). so it might have to be up to you again. have you asked her, really directly, exactly what you want to know? if she’s feeling confused she might be uncomfortable bringing up the subject herself, and skirt around the question if you ask it too vaguely - but a more simple and direct question (eg “will you dump him and be with me? yes or no?” !!) might do the trick. it’s pretty hard to put yourself out there like that (and obviously i don’t know her, she might not react well to being put on the spot) but at least you’d get it over with and it’d probably be a relief to her too.

if you decide not to go that route and play it cool i guess you still need tips to get her off your mind. i’d say only time and space can get someone you’re obsessed with out of your system. so if you don’t think it’s right to go in for the kill, not seeing her is probably best, even if it hurts. and if she misses you and gets in touch, you’ve a better chance of knowing where you stand.

that’s what i reckon anyway but what the hell do i know… good luck!

yea good luck on that

Its the hardest thing to do is get her off your mind. I was in the same boat at one point in time and after trying and trying only to hurt. you have to go out and do things with friends, pick up an extra hobby, go lift weights that help me get back into shape, i takes time dude but it will go away, just think that she wasnt the one and i guarantee you will find the one” Just don’t take to much time on the old, cause you could miss the one”

Do you know how to play an instrument. I just started the Guitar because I couldn’t get my worries off my mind. It is working wonderfully and it’s giving me this wonderful gift of music to boot!

as pilotmike5 said try to start a new hobby to get your mind of things…

I kind of like being able to think about somebody. My mind is like go away but my heart is like I still like that person. I haven’t really found a way to get it off my mind, but being busy helps.

Don’t ‘try’ to get her off your mind. Just focus outwardly on present matters at hand and simply try to live in the moment. Obsessions like that just need time. It happens to most of us, me included, a few times in fact, for me. And yes, as a previous poster said, being busy with something helps.
It’s cliche, but time really is the great healer. It’s one of those truisms which is actually ‘true.’

Mako5