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i think the best approach to conflict is usually to

head straight into it, deal with it that helps me forget it and move on so if something is bothering me i usually try to put it out there (at least when i’m good friends with the person) i have a friend who i appreciate immensely but who takes me for granted. so i tell him and it seems to be falling on deaf ears, it’s like he’s desensitized to it he’s heard it so much its just background noise, every once in awhile he does something small to appease me but sometimes it’s not enough, it feels like one week he loves me and then for a week or two he cant be bothered with me. am i settling? mutual friends tell me to ignore him and he’ll come running back and all that stuff but i just can’t, i can’t really act how i don’t feel, and i’m not sure i’d even want to.

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snowflake048 offline Verified User (2 years, 4 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 11 months ago (11 hours, 57 minutes after post)

i agree with you. fixing a problem before it becomes a big thing is an important step to having mature relationships. if he is mistreating you and you aren’t happy with the friendship, then i think you should pull back a little. when he comes running back explain to him that if he doesn’t treat you properly that you cannot be friends with him.

maybe by stepping back for a bit he will notice what all you did do for him, and this will be enough to make him change his tune.

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